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I know you’ve already told or will tell anybody whom you consider as your Prince or Princess “I Love You”!!!
Hmm…but the problem is that…when we first want to tell him/her…the heart beats extremely…and we feel very nervous!!!
As it’s a different and most exciting experience, I want to know how did you started? Or think to start???
uh i took the sneaky way out with the one person i loved... i waited for her to say it first!!
Oh! Jimmy if you wait too much...she may say it to another guy [;)]
well i was in a relationship with her at the time. Besides i would rather not leave myself exposed like that. I would probably not tell a girl i loved her until she told me, no matter how strongly i felt for her.
Hmm ... but if she also thinks like you ? [;)]
i wouldnt know that....hmmm if that were to occur, then i suppose we would find away of showing it until it becomes REAL obvious and doesnt seem so daunting to say it.
Hmm....Jimmy is the only Lover boy here...and all others are pure Physicist in mind [;)]
Adrian Baker
Feb2-04, 01:43 PM
Originally posted by Moni
Hmm....Jimmy is the only Lover boy here...and all others are pure Physicist in mind [;)]
I suppose you could start a conversation with the idea that according to the 'many worlds' interpretation of QM, there is at least one Universe where you are very much in love with that person........
(Its a start!) [:D]
what can i say, im a romantic at heart...but not in mind unfortunately, im too bitter.
Originally posted by Adrian Baker
I suppose you could start a conversation with the idea that according to the 'many worlds' interpretation of QM, there is at least one Universe where you are very much in love with that person........
(Its a start!) [:D]
Then in which Universe you found yours Princess Adrian??? [;)]
Hmm...sorry not in this universe [b(]
I love you too Moni! [6)] or is it just a coincidence that my name fits right in there? [;)] Ofcourse Tsunami would fit too.. [!:)] becarefull Ivan doesn't see this thread.. secret admirers and all [:D]
Um, the topic was? Well, how can you love someone if they don't love you back??? It is not one way traffic.. in that case it would just be something more tame to convey the feeling and see if it is returned, after which there is space for real love to grow its roots deeply into the heart.
Don't confuse infatuation with love.. your heart will definately get broken :)
Thanks Monique yeah! That Moni+que [;)] ha..ha..that's why we stay togather side by side at least in the online status member list [:D]
Actually, from my part...Love is not like any traffic system!
When you love somebody...do you always expect he/she will also love you?...oh! isn't that a selfish idea "If he/she Loves me, I'll love him/her"???
You see Indian movies much you know...how Love is treated in this part of the world...but from my side...I think Love is devine! It's same from the Shakespeare to this moderntime...and of course will remain so so...
Besides...by Love we also mean Love towards our parents, brothers, sisters and of course God!!!
We Love to live, Love to play, Love to play guitars ;), Love to sing, Love to pray, Love to do well of others, Loved to be Loved by others....
But when it comes to any male and female relationship, it may be Love towards a friend, or admire or sister or mother...grandmother.......
This is just a feelings...we love to maintain in our mind....no matters she loves me or not...from my part I love her...and that's the real feeling....and always I want, what she wants for herself to be the best....that's true Love and that comes from Heaven .....
zoobyshoe
Feb2-04, 05:34 PM
Originally posted by Monique
Don't confuse infatuation with love.. your heart will definately get broken :)
OK, oh wise one. Explain the difference.
I am interested in hearing women's criteria for when the word "love" is appropriate and accurate between a man and a woman. What conditions have to be met for it to be "love"?
Sorry, I have a complex about this issue, just now. It seems to be a catch 22: if you don't say it, you aren't committed, if you do say it you don't seem to realize the magnitude of the word.
Originally posted by zoobyshoe
I am interested in hearing women's criteria for when the word "love" is appropriate and accurate between a man and a woman. What conditions have to be met for it to be "love"?You'll probably get a different answer from each woman.
For me, you should be able to see it in their eyes, hear it in their voice, it will be demonstrated by their actions, it will be obvious before the words are ever said & will not be a surprise. Ok, that's ideally. It even happened that way a few times.
What I mean by the above is do they start referencing the two of you as a couple, long term, talking about the future, want you to meet their friends, their family, become part of their "inner circle", little things like that will let you know what's on their mind.
If the relationship is "right" the other person shouldn't expect you to say anything, because they should already know it. If they take the first step and tell "you" that they love you, it's decision time for you. If you're not there "emotionally" yet, you've got a lot of thinking to do. Is this someone you might get to love? If so, do you go ahead and tell them you love them too? Or do you try to scale them back and risk ending the relationship? That's a real tough spot to be in.
Only you know what you are feeling towards the other person. My advice? Be true to yourself. Do and say what you really feel...tactfully, if you know it's not what they want to hear. If the other person is the right one, they should accept this. Good relationships cannot be built on lies or doubts. You will only make things worse in the end.
Originally posted by Evo
Be true to yourself. Do and say what you really feel...tactfully, if you know it's not what they want to hear. If the other person is the right one, they should accept this. Good relationships cannot be built on lies or doubts. You will only make things worse in the end.
Xellent Evo! What you've said, I 100% agree with that! [:)]
But what you've said...those can happen in long term relations....it's true that I also don't believe in Love at first site [;)]
But only just after watching someone...you get a feelings that you love him/her...then...How you'll introduce yourself to his/her???
These times...one thing always echos in mind "What he/she will think about me? What if he/she refuese" not?
Those are the problems in this part [g)]
Originally posted by Moni
But only just after watching someone...you get a feelings that you love him/her...then...How you'll introduce yourself to his/her???
These times...one thing always echos in mind "What he/she will think about me? What if he/she refuese" not?
Those are the problems in this part [g)] Do you mean when you first see someone that you are attracted to and want to meet them?
Ok, this won't always be 100% (Monique, Tsunami, jump in here), but when I used to go out and I saw someone I was attracted to, I let them know by looking directly at them and smiling, then I would turn my head away for a moment, then look back at them, and if they are still looking, I give them another smile. If they can't pick up that hint, they're dead. This doesn't mean she has to make eye contact with you, she may be too shy.
If the girl keeps sneaking peeks at you, she's probably interested. If I was not interested in a guy, I would make a point to not look in his direction at all.
Another thing girls do if they like a guy they see is to find some excuse to "walk by him" to make sure he sees her and to test his attraction.
It may take awhile, but you'll start picking up on these (not so) subtle signs.
Bottom line, if she completely avoids looking at you, if she never smiles in your direction, if she starts to walk away when you approach, it probably would not be wise to hit on her.
Mr. Robin Parsons
Feb2-04, 08:57 PM
Originally posted by Evo
Do you mean when you first see someone that you are attracted to and want to meet them?
Ok, this won't always be 100% (Monique, Tsunami, jump in here), but when I used to go out and I saw someone I was attracted to, I let them know by looking directly at them and smiling, then I would turn my head away for a moment, then look back at them, and if they are still looking, I give them another smile. If they can't pick up that hint, they're dead. Just died... This doesn't mean she has to make eye contact with you, she may be too shy.
If the girl keeps sneaking peeks at you, she's probably interested. If I was not interested in a guy, I would make a point to not look in his direction at all.
Another thing girls do if they like a guy they see is to find some excuse to "walk by him" to make sure he sees her and to test his attraction.
It may take awhile, but you'll start picking up on these (not so) subtle signs. Huh??
Bottom line, if she completely avoids looking at you, if she never smiles in your direction, if she starts to walk away when you approach, it probably would not be wise to hit on her. Pleeeease tell me what that expression means....:"Hit on Her!" Huh? Thanks
Originally posted by EVO -Bottom line, if she completely avoids looking at you, if she never smiles in your direction, if she starts to walk away when you approach, it probably would not be wise to hit on her.Originally posted by Mr Robin Parsons - Pleeeease tell me what that expression means....:"Hit on Her!" Huh?It means to "make a move" to go up to her and say something. Hopefully something clever. [6)] Ah, and there's the hard part...what DO you say?? [8)]
Bottom line, if she completely avoids looking at you, if she never smiles in your direction, if she starts to walk away when you approach, it probably would not be wise to hit on her. Pleeeease tell me what that expression means....:"Hit on Her!" Huh?
its an expression that means "to ask her out on a date, or to show her that you are romanticly interested in her"
zoobyshoe
Feb3-04, 03:42 AM
Originally posted by Evo
You'll probably get a different answer from each woman.
For me, you should be able to see it in their eyes, hear it in their voice, it will be demonstrated by their actions, it will be obvious before the words are ever said & will not be a surprise. Ok, that's ideally. It even happened that way a few times.
What I mean by the above is do they start referencing the two of you as a couple, long term, talking about the future, want you to meet their friends, their family, become part of their "inner circle", little things like that will let you know what's on their mind.
If the relationship is "right" the other person shouldn't expect you to say anything, because they should already know it. If they take the first step and tell "you" that they love you, it's decision time for you. If you're not there "emotionally" yet, you've got a lot of thinking to do. Is this someone you might get to love? If so, do you go ahead and tell them you love them too? Or do you try to scale them back and risk ending the relationship? That's a real tough spot to be in.
Only you know what you are feeling towards the other person. My advice? Be true to yourself. Do and say what you really feel...tactfully, if you know it's not what they want to hear. If the other person is the right one, they should accept this. Good relationships cannot be built on lies or doubts. You will only make things worse in the end.
Yes, all this is an excellent articulation of what I was formerly under the impression ought to be appropriate.
However, as you said, every woman will have a different answer.
see i usually take the signs that Evo has given as that i have something on my face, and thats why they are looking. [b(] I then get all paranoid and look like a freak trying to subtly find out what this girl is looking at. Or i find out what is going on interesting behind my back cos she cant be looking at me. [*(]
Chopni, you are so handsome!!! I hope you're kidding. If not, now you know that they're attracted to you. [:D]
Unfortunately i am not kidding. I dont have that much experience with women and i dont get hints. Usually it requires people to tell me or make a poster for me to understand what they are hinting. Now i will know what the girls want...tho i will still have the nagging feeling that i have something on my face..[;)]
Mr. Robin Parsons
Feb3-04, 07:57 AM
Originally posted by Evo
It means to "make a move" Not the 'implication' I have been "led to believe" (not really...they wanted me to believe it...) to go up to her and say something. Hopefully something clever. [6)] Ah, and there's the hard part...what DO you say?? [8)] Myself, I would try something clever, like "hi", or "Hello"...
Mr. Robin Parsons
Feb3-04, 08:02 AM
Originally posted by mark1
its an expression that means "to ask her out on a date, or to show her that you are romanticly interested in her" Personally, that had been about what I had thought, as well, but it seems that there had been a 'group of persons' wanting me to 'experiance it' as it was a more literal thing, the act of speaking to this person as being somewhat of a physical accosting...really throws/threw me off into wierd space, sorta, cause I don't know what to do with that...not a clue... and no assistance was ever offered for that, help in trying to find some sort of resolution, WOW [o)] did that get bad...
Mr. Robin Parsons
Feb3-04, 08:04 AM
Originally posted by jimmy p
see i usually take the signs that Evo has given as that i have something on my face, and thats why they are looking. [b(] I then get all paranoid and look like a freak trying to subtly find out what this girl is looking at. Or i find out what is going on interesting behind my back cos she cant be looking at me. [*(] Either that, or, she is doing it for the guy right behind you....OYE! [*(]
Originally posted by zoobyshoe
OK, oh wise one. Explain the difference. Ever heard of 'love is blind'? When the hormones are rageing and you are infatuated, you think the person is a goddess and vica versa. When the hormones loose their strength after about 6 mo. interest is lost, arguments happen and a breakup is waiting around the corner.
With love though, the chemistry is different. You know the person and accept their flaws. The hormones are not rageing, rather it are slow burning coals that release their heat over time :)
The_Professional
Feb3-04, 07:48 PM
Originally posted by Moni
I know you’ve already told or will tell anybody whom you consider as your Prince or Princess “I Love You”!!!
Hmm…but the problem is that…when we first want to tell him/her…the heart beats extremely…and we feel very nervous!!!
As it’s a different and most exciting experience, I want to know how did you started? Or think to start???
I still haven't gotten to the point in my life where I've said I love you, although I came close. It's a word I don't throw around like cheese on pizza. And the man is not supposed to say I love you first.
zoobyshoe
Feb3-04, 10:29 PM
Originally posted by Monique
Ever heard of 'love is blind'? When the hormones are rageing and you are infatuated, you think the person is a goddess and vica versa. When the hormones loose their strength after about 6 mo. interest is lost, arguments happen and a breakup is waiting around the corner.
With love though, the chemistry is different. You know the person and accept their flaws. The hormones are not rageing, rather it are slow burning coals that release their heat over time :)
I see the distnction you're making. However, you don't believe the first kind of experience can mellow and blend into and then become the second kind?
Originally posted by The_Professional
the man is not supposed to say I love you first. UHM, NO!!!! The MAN is supposed to say it first!!!! Sheesh, have you not read the manual???
Originally posted by zoobyshoe
I see the distnction you're making. However, you don't believe the first kind of experience can mellow and blend into and then become the second kind? Oh certainly, but I think people put too much importance on being in love rather than loving someone. I think the high divorce rates are rediculous.
Originally posted by Monique
Oh certainly, but I think people put too much importance on being in love rather than loving someone. I think the high divorce rates are rediculous. Monique, I have to agree with everything you've posted here.
himanshu121
Feb4-04, 02:24 AM
So We can develop a Body Language Out Of this post for Male And Female Signals.
EVO's Quotes are the Gestures Send out by a woman to a man. and these are true.Okays Here is what i have observed from women side.
I noticed that girls send out signals via eyes
They look directly into eyes till a man sees it and then they disconnect the vision line. Is This a teasing If this is, then it turns me on, really ON[!:)]
Okay Last Week when I went to a marriage there was a very
HOT girl Who constantly looked into my eyes and took her seat just next to me But with her mom/dad as well So i was in no position to talk to her. But i was responding to her signals. But i feel i missed a chance.[b(]
So i dont want to miss many chance from now Pls tell me EVO, MONIQUE & all the girls how to respond in a proper manner to their gestures(incl Teasing)
I have a broken radar.
I'll go out, and automatically pick the most attractive girl in the room (to me, of course). I'll look at her every couple of minutes, like a nervous habit -- some form of hormone-induced obsessive-compulsive disorder. She won't look at me once, but I'll keep checking periodically like a miswired robot anyway. If she notices me looking at her but chooses not to return eye contact, my insistence surely only makes things worse.
I'll go home without ever interacting, even via eye contact, with the girl whom I found interesting. Later, a friend will inform me that a different cute girl, in a different spot in the room, was doing everything she could to get my attention... unbeknownst to me... and I repeatedly ignored her.
*shrug*
- Warren
[:D] [:D] [:D] Thats what i call a successful night out!!! at least someone was interested in you, other than looking at you cos (or there is the possibility that) you have something on your face!
Anyway? since when has the guy got to declare his love first? I certainly wouldnt. Hell no. I make a fool of myself about everything else!! Im like Hugh Grant. [b(]
zoobyshoe
Feb4-04, 11:46 AM
Originally posted by Evo
...when I used to go out and I saw someone I was attracted to, I let them know by looking directly at them and smiling, then I would turn my head away for a moment, then look back at them, and if they are still looking, I give them another smile. If they can't pick up that hint, they're dead.
Actually, they may just have an XY chromosome. I don't know if you've seen the info and studies on male/female brain differences, but it has been demonstrated with pet scans that women are wired much better than men when it comes to interpreting facial expressions.
The corpus callosum, the network of connections between the two hemispheres of the brain, is an average of 20% larger in women than men.
They did P.E.T. scans on women and men while giving them the task of interpreting the facial expressions of people. Women were able to correctly interpret them faster than men using much less brain area than men. It took the men longer, and they had to press a great deal more of their brains into service to get it done. The difference in the P.E.T. scans was obvious: the mens' had much larger bright areas than the womens' indicating that they were metabolizing much more glucose in the process.
So, I hope the women will be patient and realize that what seems an obvious signal to you, may yet be a source of confusion for any guy. We don't have the natural ability to see and comprehend expressions that you do.
For a man to be able to do this as well as a woman would require that he train and practise. First, though, he would have to realize that such a gap in "signal strength" exists.
Smiles aren't necessarily clear. Is it a polite smile? A hollow social smile? Does she smile at every guy that way? Etc.
zoobyshoe
Feb4-04, 12:41 PM
Originally posted by Monique
Oh certainly, but I think people put too much importance on being in love rather than loving someone. I think the high divorce rates are rediculous.
I certainly agree about the divorce rates. I'm not sure I would chalk this up to people getting married precipitously during the infatuation phase so much as there not being enough emphasis in general on men and women learning to talk each other's language.
On that note, you will have to translate the difference between "being in love" and "loving someone".
It is my impression that a large percentage of women are constantly engaged in creating exponentially increasing degrees of subtlety concerning all possible variants of the terminology of love and romance among themselves without realizing that they've failed to include men in the process, and are dismayed when men can't follow the distinctions.
Sometimes women will kindly translate. At others all they are is dissapointed that you don't already get it.
Originally posted by zoobyshoe
On that note, you will have to translate the difference between "being in love" and "loving someone". I Dutch we've got different words for them [:D]
It is my impression that a large percentage of women are constantly engaged in creating exponentially increasing degrees of subtlety concerning all possible variants of the terminology of love and romance among themselves without realizing that they've failed to include men in the process, and are dismayed when men can't follow the distinctions.
Sometimes women will kindly translate. At others all they are is dissapointed that you don't already get it. Oh, I'd have to agree here. I think the last has something to do with the amount of attention needed.. which most women need lots of :P
verliefd: AMOROUS; ENAMOURED; IN LOVE; SWEET
houden van: LOVE; FANCY; LIKE
Dag Monique,
My Dutch is still rusty. In fact, I have only learned one word. Dag. Dag! [*(]
- Warren
Hoi Chroot, that means you already know 2! words!! Dag is used as a hello and a bye greeting. The same with hoi, now you already know four words!! [:D]
1, 2, 4.. isn't that an exponential growth!? [o)]
Vier Wörter!! Aber kann Ich bereits spreche sehr gut Deutsch...
I'm gonna learn Dutch, too, don't worry. The Dutch speakers on my audio tapes sound soooooo funny! Even just saying "Frau Peterson" they sound so silly it almost makes me laugh. I wonder if you all sound that way. [8)] [:D]
- Warren
Sie muß Tsunami bitten, wie holländische sprechen :)
Tsunami spreche auch holländische?? Das ist so gile!
- Warren
Ja ich denke daß sie einige Wörter kennt, und sie ist einige male nach Holland gewesen, Tsunami? :)
Ik herinner mij: "dankjewel" [6)]
Ich dachte daß du hat gesagt dir nicht Deutsch sprechen?
(Thread hijack alert...)
- Warren
Originally posted by zoobyshoe
It is my impression that a large percentage of women are constantly engaged in creating exponentially increasing degrees of subtlety concerning all possible variants of the terminology of love and romance among themselves without realizing that they've failed to include men in the process, and are dismayed when men can't follow the distinctions.
Sometimes women will kindly translate. At others all they are is dissapointed that you don't already get it.
My favorite response from women to my still as yet undetermined many transgressions is, "Well, if you don't know, I'm not going to tell you."
I have always managed to supress the urge to say, "I'm sure if I DID know, you'd never shut up about it!"
I am ever so glad to have met my wife (um ... she was not my wife at the time, but you know what I mean.) I had become convinced that almost all women were crazy. My wife largely agreed with me, but keenly pointed out that most men will have nothing to do with the women who are not crazy. Men are like mice who prefer electric shocks to food pellets. Then again, what the hell is in those food pellets? My wife, I decided, is not crazy. She did learn how to fake it though, just to get by.
Njorl
Chroot: I don't spéak german, writing or reading is less a problem though, since there is time for the dutch/german switch to occur :)
Originally posted by Njorl
My favorite response from women to my still as yet undetermined many transgressions is, "Well, if you don't know, I'm not going to tell you." [8)] why does that sound so familiar.. In the light of Zoobie's post it actually is logical.. if men are unable to pick up the most obvious signals :P
The_Professional
Feb4-04, 05:05 PM
Originally posted by Evo
UHM, NO!!!! The MAN is supposed to say it first!!!! Sheesh, have you not read the manual???
Yes I've read that manual. And from my personal experience, it does not work.
Originally posted by Evo
Do you mean when you first see someone that you are attracted to and want to meet them?
Ok, this won't always be 100% (Monique, Tsunami, jump in here), but when I used to go out and I saw someone I was attracted to, I let them know by looking directly at them and smiling, then I would turn my head away for a moment, then look back at them, and if they are still looking, I give them another smile. If they can't pick up that hint, they're dead. This doesn't mean she has to make eye contact with you, she may be too shy.
If the girl keeps sneaking peeks at you, she's probably interested. If I was not interested in a guy, I would make a point to not look in his direction at all.
Another thing girls do if they like a guy they see is to find some excuse to "walk by him" to make sure he sees her and to test his attraction.
It may take awhile, but you'll start picking up on these (not so) subtle signs.
Bottom line, if she completely avoids looking at you, if she never smiles in your direction, if she starts to walk away when you approach, it probably would not be wise to hit on her.
Thanks Evo, for your nice, descriptive and logical statements...I really like this :)
Actually why I've started this thread you'll understand :)
Few days ago, I was just walking in the park, suddenly saw a very beautiful girl :) Pic? Here it is collected from her School Mag.
http://forums.metrobangla.com/files/o.jpg
I was interested about her and telephoned her...after some formal conversation when she knew that I'm from different religion she just said...she'll never ever be interested on me :( is this my fault???
And what about models? They lead a very Hi-Fi life, and we the simple ones are outside there scope...but we often attracted by them....then what should we do? try anyting or just watch?
And do you believe in Online Love? Hmm...it seems Monique is interested ;)...but honestly I don't believe in Online Loves :S
anyway thanks for your suggesion ;)
Originally posted by zoobyshoe
It is my impression that a large percentage of women are constantly engaged in creating exponentially increasing degrees of subtlety concerning all possible variants of the terminology of love and romance among themselves without realizing that they've failed to include men in the process, and are dismayed when men can't follow the distinctions.
Sometimes women will kindly translate. At others all they are is dissapointed that you don't already get it. But men are exactly the same! They have hidden agendas and requirements and try to play silly mind games, just like their female counterparts.
I'm extremely independant and I bolt the second a guy starts getting too emotionally needy. I expect a guy to have his own life and not need to be "joined at the hip".
I cannot tell you how many guys I've dated that can't understand that if I have decided to be in a relationship with them, that I "trust" them. I don't need to spend every minute with them or need to know where they are and who they are with every moment. I expect the same in return.
Unfortunately, these poor guys have been so conditioned by emotionally needy ex girlfriends that they mistake my "trust" and the fact that I "do" have a life of my own as my not caring about them. I don't get upset if they forget to call or have to work & have to break a date, get wrapped up in something interesting and be late for a dinner, etc... Things happen.
I've actually found out that some guys I dated deliberately would break a date on short notice or tell me his ex-girlfriend is calling him, etc... just to see "if I care" about them. I "flunked" because I was understanding...go figure. I thought only psycho women played these games.
So zooby, I feel your pain and confusion.
WHERE ARE THE NORMAL MEN?
zoobyshoe
Feb4-04, 05:50 PM
Originally posted by Moni ...after some formal conversation when she knew that I'm from different religion she just said...she'll never ever be interested on me :( is this my fault???
This is too bad, Moni. Religious prohibitions against involvement with people of other religions are very tough to overcome. And what about models? They lead a very Hi-Fi life, and we the simple ones are outside there scope...but we often attracted by them....then what should we do? try anyting or just watch? Pure fantasy. It'll never happen.
And do you believe in Online Love? Hmm...but honestly I don't believe in Online Loves :S
Online love happens, for real. People have gotten married who first met on the web. It is much more realistic than your other two options.
Originally posted by Moni
Few days ago, I was just walking in the park, suddenly saw a very beautiful girl :) Pic? Here it is collected from her School Mag.
I was interested about her and telephoned her...after some formal conversation when she knew that I'm from different religion she just said...she'll never ever be interested on me :( is this my fault??? How sad! Unfortunately religious bias, social status, money, are all things that can come between two people.
And what about models? They lead a very Hi-Fi life, and we the simple ones are outside there scope...but we often attracted by them....then what should we do? try anyting or just watch? Models are no different from anyone else, well some "think" they are. If it is someone that you actually meet and there is a "spark" there, go for it. I've dated male models, all very nice, down to earth, funny, intelligent. It just happened that they were "discovered" and the money was just too good to turn down.
If the "model" is someone in a magazine, on tv, uhm, aside from maybe having an innocent "crush", I would say do nothing, you will likely only waste your time.
And do you believe in Online Love? Hmm...it seems Monique is interested ;)...but honestly I don't believe in Online Loves :SYes, I do believe in online love, I know people that met their "perfect" match online. I personally have made wonderful friends online, some I have met, some I still haven't. I met my best friend online.
"Love does not consist in gazing at each other but in looking outward in the same direction."
--Antoine de Saint Exupéry.
"It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye."
--Antoine de Saint Exupéry, from The Little Prince.
zoobyshoe
Feb4-04, 06:13 PM
Originally posted by Evo
But men are exactly the same! They have hidden agendas and requirements and try to play silly mind games, just like their female counterparts.
The thing is, I don't think women do this as a head game at all, nor is it a hidden agenda. It's an authentic failure to realize how far they go with these definitions of "love", being "in love", and so forth without men being included in the process.
I'm extremely independant and I bolt the second a guy starts getting too emotionally needy. I expect a guy to have his own life and not need to be "joined at the hip".
Ah, yes. The "needy" vs "independent" polarity. A book unto itself.
I thought only psycho women played these games.
It is a pretty prevalent sort of thing from my experience. You have given good advise to guys here, Evo, but alot of people spread the information that the opposite sex must be handled with "tactics" (i.e. tricks). People mostly spread this kind of bad info to others of their own sex. Too few seek advise from trustworthy members of the opposite sex.
WHERE ARE THE NORMAL MEN?
Normal men are all around you. What you're looking for is a sane man.
rules?? RULES ARE MEANT TO BE BROKEN..besides this year is a leap year so its the opposite way round, women have to do the asking.
Originally posted by zoobyshoe
Normal men are all around you.You obviously have never been here. [;)] One of the main attractions here is an enormous cow sitting on top of a fairly high tower near downtown that glows green at night.
What you're looking for is a sane man. [/B] YES!!!! WHERE ARE THE SANE MEN????? And do they like huge green glowing cows in the sky? [:D]
zoobyshoe
Feb4-04, 06:29 PM
Originally posted by firefly
"Love does not consist in gazing at each other but in looking outward in the same direction."
--Antoine de Saint Exupéry.
"It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye."
--Antoine de Saint Exupéry, from The Little Prince.
Oh, firefly, you romantic bioluminescent thing! I have absolutely no idea what these two quotes mean. Do you know Shakespeare's comparison of lunatics, lovers, and poets to each other in A Midsummer Night's Dream?
Originally posted by Evo
You obviously have never been here. [;)] One of the main attractions here is an enormous cow sitting on top of a fairly high tower near downtown that glows green at night.
YES!!!! WHERE ARE THE SANE MEN????? And do they like huge green glowing cows in the sky? [:D]
green glowing cows....sane...?? is there a doctor in the house??
Evo, I think maybe you should move. Far, far away. From there, I mean.
- Warren
zoobyshoe
Feb4-04, 06:52 PM
Originally posted by Njorl
Men are like mice who prefer electric shocks to food pellets. Njorl
What...OUCH...huh...OOOH THAT SMARTS...what're you saying...OOOHMYGOD...what's a food pellet...YIKES...
Originally posted by Njorl
My favorite response from women to my still as yet undetermined many transgressions is, "Well, if you don't know, I'm not going to tell you." Doesn't that make you crazy? My ex used to say that.
I have always managed to supress the urge to say, "I'm sure if I DID know, you'd never shut up about it!" Good comeback! [:D] unfortunately true.
I am ever so glad to have met my wife (um ... she was not my wife at the time, but you know what I mean.) I had become convinced that almost all women were crazy. My wife largely agreed with me, but keenly pointed out that most men will have nothing to do with the women who are not crazy. Men are like mice who prefer electric shocks to food pellets. Then again, what the hell is in those food pellets? My wife, I decided, is not crazy. She did learn how to fake it though, just to get by.
Njorl [/B]Why IS it that men LIKE the crazy women??? I have noticed this quite often.
Sounds like your wife is pretty sharp and you are a lucky man. [:)]
(edit to add that she's pretty lucky too!)
men like crazy women cos non-crazy women are boring. Unfortunately its the same with women n blokes.
Hmm crazy women are cool because.....they always have something odd to say, they make the men look normal [;)] and other things that guys can elaborate on, HOW SHOULD I KNOW, IM ONLY 18!!!!!!!!!
zoobyshoe
Feb4-04, 07:48 PM
Originally posted by chroot
Vier Wörter!! Aber kann Ich bereits spreche sehr gut Deutsch...
Darf Ich, Bitte?
Es soll sein:
Ich kann, aber, schon sehr guter Deutsch sprechen.
Oder machts Du spass?
-Zoobyschuh
Originally posted by zoobyshoe
Ich kann, aber, schon sehr guter Deutsch sprechen.
[t)]
- Warren
The_Professional
Feb4-04, 10:38 PM
It's sad that 50 percent of the women file divorce. Why? because the man did things to lower her interest, he got too comfortable, etc.., and another reason is some women have bad attitudes as well.
Originally posted by The_Professional
It's sad that 50 percent of the women file divorce. Why? because the man did things to lower her interest, he got too comfortable, etc.., and another reason is some women have bad attitudes as well. All that is true, sad to say. But sometimes it's a very emotionally abusive relationship and the woman has to get out of it to save herself and her children.
hypnagogue
Feb4-04, 11:23 PM
Ist nein Stoken Bloken!!
I know 'fractured' German!!!...
Ich mus einen GROSSEN peepee gemacht!!![:D] [:D] [:D] [;)] [6)]
Are you making or doing that enormous pee-pee? I'm confused. Wanna help me out here, Ivan?
- Warren
Originally posted by chroot
Are you making or doing that enormous pee-pee? I'm confused. Wanna help me out here, Ivan?
- Warren
machen?
(Well, I SAID in was 'fractured' German. [:D] I learned it correctly -I think- many years ago, and of course, over time and with frequent episodes of CRS, [;)] it has evolved/degraded to that! I guess I think it just *sounds* hysterical and is easy enough for almost anyone who doesn't know German to comprehend... It's OK...Call me weird... [;)])
Well, uh, what you (sort of) said was:
"I must do a giant pee-pee!"
Is there anything else you'd like to tell us?
- Warren
Originally posted by chroot
Well, uh, what you (sort of) said was:
"I must do a giant pee-pee!"
Is there anything else you'd like to tell us?
- Warren
No. Just that. [:D]
Catch ya later! [;)]
Mr. Robin Parsons
Feb5-04, 05:27 AM
Originally posted by zoobyshoe
(SNIP) The thing is, I don't think women do this as a head game at all, nor is it a hidden agenda. It's an authentic failure to realize how far they go with these definitions of "love", being "in love", and so forth without men being included in the process. (SNoP) There actually is a difference 'tween "feeling love", being "loving". and being "IN love" huge difference, just that the only way, you too, will know the hormonal cascadence that arises for the one to three year period, is to end up there...good "Luck" (whatever that means)....and Lord knows your going to be in trouble if she/he doesn't feel the same way...it is a 'dangerous/delightful' portal to obsession or really powerful love....not for the faint of heart, not easy to 'obtain' as it is an idiosyncratic reaction, you might just go through your whole life not exeriancing it (lucky? you) and it is IMO way harder on a man, then on the woman as it is intensely emotive...
Originally posted by zoobyshoe
This is too bad, Moni. Religious prohibitions against involvement with people of other religions are very tough to overcome. Pure fantasy. It'll never happen.
Online love happens, for real. People have gotten married who first met on the web. It is much more realistic than your other two options.
Hmm...I don't know this Religious things happen in US or not but it happens bitterly in this South Asia [b(]
Hmm...in western countries models fly...but not here [;)]
Online? Hmm...but without meeting face to face is that really possible???
Originally posted by Evo
How sad! Unfortunately religious bias, social status, money, are all things that can come between two people.
Models are no different from anyone else, well some "think" they are. If it is someone that you actually meet and there is a "spark" there, go for it. I've dated male models, all very nice, down to earth, funny, intelligent. It just happened that they were "discovered" and the money was just too good to turn down.
If the "model" is someone in a magazine, on tv, uhm, aside from maybe having an innocent "crush", I would say do nothing, you will likely only waste your time.
Yes, I do believe in online love, I know people that met their "perfect" match online. I personally have made wonderful friends online, some I have met, some I still haven't. I met my best friend online.
Thanks again Evo for nice reply :)
"religious bias, social status, money, are all things that can come between two people"
Still we don't think people as PEOPLE [*(]
May be this is not so big problem there but in South Asia it's a huge problem...even while making just FRIENDSHIP relations...girls become very cautious and asks about our Religion, bank balance etc. etc. [g)]
About models....as far as I've seen they are very smart, cute and do behave well....but what my experience they just use it for there career, once I met one, she said, "Oh! You are ... so so, I've never met like you before" and after few days my friend said she also told him the same speeches [g)]
So, how acutally we do believe??? It's very difficult to know what's going on girls minds [o)]
Online friends??? How do you make them??? Aren't we friends here in this PF??? [;)]
Originally posted by Moni
It's very difficult to know what's going on girls minds [o)]
You have just voiced the opinion of every man in the world. I congratulate you Moni. [:D] [:D]
Originally posted by Moni
Thanks again Evo for nice reply :)
"religious bias, social status, money, are all things that can come between two people"
Still we don't think people as PEOPLE [*(]
May be this is not so big problem there but in South Asia it's a huge problem...even while making just FRIENDSHIP relations...girls become very cautious and asks about our Religion, bank balance etc. etc. [g)]Religion is much more of a problem where you are. It is a shame that there is not as much tolerance for different beliefs there. Bank balance? Well, here those types of women are every where.
About models....as far as I've seen they are very smart, cute and do behave well....but what my experience they just use it for there career, once I met one, she said, "Oh! You are ... so so, I've never met like you before" and after few days my friend said she also told him the same speeches [g)] Stay away from them, they're usually bad news.
So, how acutally we do believe??? It's very difficult to know what's going on girls minds [o)] Yes! That is a problem.
Online friends??? How do you make them??? Aren't we friends here in this PF??? [;)] [/B] Yes, we ARE friends here! After time if you get to know someone online very well, you may decide to actually meet them in real life. I've done this many times and I have met some truly incredible people. My best friend lives in another country and we take turns flying back and forth on vacations to see each other. We met videoconferencing online 6 years ago.
Just take things slowly. Let a girl know that you like her by smiling at her and see what she does. Be polite and friendly. Don't come on too strong.
If she is willing to talk, ask her questions about herself, what her hobbies are, what movies, what music, etc... she likes, and comment on the ones that you also like, and add any thing you like that from what she's said you think she may also enjoy, that will get a conversation going.
Be a good listener. Don't make fun of her...a BIG mistake during the first few dates. Some guys get nervous and do this and wonder why she won't talk to him any more.
On a first date, a single flower is a nice gesture, especially if you remembered it was her favorite from a previous conversation. It shows her you really listened.
Here's an example of right things to do after you start dating: My 16 year daughter old has just started dating a new guy. He's in college in California this year. For christmas he sent her a package with a number of little items that each have a special meaning to her. She is always cold, so he sent her his college sweatshirt, his wool scarf, his down comforter, and packets of her favorite hot cocoa & teas and then also created a CD with songs that all tied into things they had shared or like about each other that ended up telling a story about them. He didn't go out and spend any money but those gifts meant more to her than any expensive gift bought at a store.
Mr. Robin Parsons
Feb6-04, 06:39 AM
Originally posted by Evo
(SNIP) Here's an example of right things to do after you start dating: My 16 year daughter old has just started dating a new guy. He's in college in California this year. For christmas he sent her a package with a number of little items that each have a special meaning to her. She is always cold, so he sent her his college sweatshirt, his wool scarf, his down comforter, and packets of her favorite hot cocoa & teas and then also created a CD with songs that all tied into things they had shared or like about each other that ended up telling a story about them. He didn't go out and spend any money but those gifts meant more to her than any expensive gift bought at a store. (SNoP) And just out of curiosity, what did she send him in return??.....ya know....equality....??
zoobyshoe
Feb6-04, 08:55 AM
Originally posted by Moni
Hmm...I don't know this Religious things happen in US or not but it happens bitterly in this South Asia [b(] It certainly doesn't happen here as much as it used to, but my own parents are an example of what used to happen alot: my mother wouldn't marry my father unless he converted to her religion.
Online? Hmm...but without meeting face to face is that really possible???
Eventually, of course, you would arrange to meet in person. This has, in fact, lead to marriages.
Mr. Robin Parsons
Feb6-04, 10:48 AM
Originally posted by zoobyshoe
(SNIP) Eventually, of course, you would arrange to meet in person. This has, in fact, lead to marriages. (SNoP) Yup and the one I knew led further, all the way to divorce...
zoobyshoe
Feb6-04, 10:55 AM
Originally posted by Mr. Robin (Killjoy) Parsons
Yup and the one I knew led further, all the way to divorce...
So that's how you and Mrs. Robin Parsons met and split! I knew there had to be a story there.
Mr. Robin Parsons
Feb6-04, 10:58 AM
Originally posted by zoobyshoe
So that's how you and Mrs. Robin Parsons met and split! I knew there had to be a story there. Ooooops, you forgot something Zoob, MRP = Never been married!....soooooo (A needle pulling thread!) [6)]
Originally posted by Mr. Robin Parsons
And just out of curiosity, what did she send him in return??.....ya know....equality....?? She did make him a cd in return, but I have no clue what else she gave him.
Funny how much more "thought" and how much more you are willing to do when you're in the initial "love chemical soup" phase of a relationship. [:)]
As one of my co-workers so eloquently put it explaining how he landed such a great girl "I had to be the kind of guy she wanted and do whatever I needed to get her to marry me, but now that we're married, I don't have to impress her anymore". [8)] So, basically, he pretended to be someone else. [8)] And we wonder why the divorce rate is so high? Women do the same thing.
As someone once wisely put it:
Don't flatter yourself that friendship authorizes you to say disagreeable things to your intimates. The nearer you come into relation with a person, the more necessary do tact and courtesy become.
-Oliver Wendell Holmes
Mr. Robin Parsons
Feb6-04, 03:48 PM
"Familiarity breeds contempt" now that y'all knows that, think it will stop it from occuring? [o)]
You can take a lesson from it and learn to have your own hobbies?
The_Professional
Feb7-04, 09:22 PM
Is there a beauty contest here today?
Mr. Robin Parsons
Feb8-04, 06:48 AM
Originally posted by The_Professional
Is there a beauty contest here today? Tomorrow, isn't it?
Whoa, Monique ROCKS!!!!! Her paper is out!!!
Congrats Monique!!!!! [:D]
Originally posted by Evo
Whoa, Monique ROCKS!!!!! Her paper is out!!!
Congrats Monique!!!!! [:D]
AWESOME, Niek!!! I'm so PROUD to know you!! [:))]
[:D] thanks girls, couldn't have done it without the et al's :)
Originally posted by Monique
[:D] thanks girls, couldn't have done it without the et al's :)
Yeah, but they're just the mayo on the sandwich. YOU'RE the big CHEESE!!! [:D] [:D] [:D] And if the cheese is good enough, you don't even really NEED the mayo...[;)]
Originally posted by Tsunami
Yeah, but they're just the mayo on the sandwich. YOU'RE the big CHEESE!!! [:D] [:D] [:D] And if the cheese is good enough, you don't even really NEED the mayo...[;)]
If ask me, mayo is gross anyway!
- Warren
You're studying cheese at the Mayo clinic?
Njorl
mayo rocks...in the right place of course...but u know what is ultimate?? Bacon.
OK OK I ADMIT IT... I LOVE BACON!! [6)] [6)] [6)] [6)] *drools*
Originally posted by chroot
If ask me, mayo is gross anyway!
- Warren
Only if it's on cheese that's 'good enough' to stand alone. Otherwise, things like artichokes, broccoli, asparagus...they are all considered to be very good vehicles and reasons to eat LOTS of mayo!!! [;)] [:D]
Originally posted by Njorl
You're studying cheese at the Mayo clinic?
Njorl
WOW! Do they have a course in CHEESES there now??? COOL!!! I'm all over it... [o)]
Originally posted by jimmy p
mayo rocks...in the right place of course...but u know what is ultimate?? Bacon.
OK OK I ADMIT IT... I LOVE BACON!! [6)] [6)] [6)] [6)] *drools*
YUM!! Bacon and mayo on toast... YUM!!! You ARE my nephew, sweet Chopnik. [:D]
Mr. Robin Parsons
Feb10-04, 09:25 AM
P.S. Congratulations Monique (not that this is the place to put that/this, but) on your publication, neat stuff et al's and all....if I have a chance, perhaps I'll read it through...
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