Can you date a younger guy?

[mooberrymarz]

heya! this really cute guy asked me out today, but 5 minutes later i found out that he's 2 years younger than me. he's ok with it but I feel kinda funny bout going out wit him. most of my girl friends think its a bad idea... Wot do u guyz tink? :confused:

[The_Professional]

Is it in the constitution of your country to not date younger guys because other people says so?

Go out with him, have fun.

[mooberrymarz]

hahah. yeah ok... but u dont understand these are my friends from school. i went to this prissy catholic all girls school, they are uptight bout stuff like that. I know , its sound stupid.. i'm an adult now and I should be able be myself, but i've known these girls since i was like 8, and wot they think matters to me. My best friend went out wit this guy who had.. well... a pretty crappy sense of style ... and they literally sat her down and told her to break up wit him. She did it in the end coz the social pressure within the group was too much... !

[Monique]

but 5 minutes later i found out that he's 2 yrs younger than me. If you didn't notice he was younger, does it really matter? Everyone has their own level of maturity, strange friends you have :)

[enigma]

Age differences stop having as much of a meaning as you get older.

2 years seems like a big difference when you're a teenager. Maybe even into the really early 20s.

Once you're mid-twenties, 2 years would be a non-issue

[jimmy p]

Age differences stop having as much of a meaning as you get older.

2 years seems like a big difference when you're a teenager. Maybe even into the really early 20s.

Once you're mid-twenties, 2 years would be a non-issue


Good advice, couldnt have said it better myself... now if only i could convince them older ladies!

[mooberrymarz]

yes my friends are a bit odd. they are very prim and proper...there are lots of thing they dont approve of. Like drinking, smoking, premarital sex... and dating younger guyz, or guyz who dont fit the social standard. It has to with the school we went to.. it was very, snobby. i'm not like that coz its just to much effort to be like that, they dont hate me for it but they are forever trying to bring me back from the"dark side". Monique have u ever dated a younger guy?

[Njorl]

Heh, I remember dating an older girl when I was in college. She knew I was younger, but not exactly how much. I was working over the summer, and she thought I had graduated already. I knew she was older, but not how much. I was surprised to find out she was 26. She was quite a bit more surprised to find out I was 19. It didn't last long after that.

Njorl

[Monique]

Monique have u ever dated a younger guy? hah, I'd be the wrong person to ask :shy: but no. You seem smart enough to judge yourself though, if the shoe fits.. :wink:

Funny story Njorl.. it happens.. :)

[Ivan Seeking]

heya! this really cute guy asked me out today, but 5 minutes later i found out that he's 2 years younger than me. he's ok with it but I feel kinda funny bout going out wit him. most of my girl friends think its a bad idea... Wot do u guyz tink? :confused:

Tsunami married a younger guy - me. That was 18 years ago yesterday.

[Monique]

HEY! Happy post-anniversary day :biggrin: :biggrin: I think you guys are so great :smile:

[Ivan Seeking]

:smile:

thanks. I keep telling Tsu how great I am but she still doesn't believe me. :confused:

[kawikdx225]

2 years age difference, no problem. My wife is two years older than me. Heck here in Massachusetts you can marry anything you want.

[Ebolamonk3y]

Love w/o bound. Age dun matter.

[Evo]

I've almost always dated younger men.

[The_Professional]

:smile:

thanks. I keep telling Tsu how great I am but she still doesn't believe me. :confused:

If she's with you that means she believes in you. Actions speak louder than words :)

[decibel]

ur friends are jealous :D

[jimmy p]

BLATANTLY.. tell them that they are SO transparent. I do that to my friends. Well I would if I had any left.

[Kerrie]

i am getting married in less then 2 months to a man almost 5 years younger then me. his maturity level though sometimes surpasses me :)

[Ebolamonk3y]

I've almost always dated younger men.

Hehe... Younger=more mature? or...

[mooberrymarz]

wow kerrie. Congratulations.!!!! :biggrin: Evo how come you almost always date younger guyz..???

[Tsu]

They're easier to train. :biggrin:

[chroot]

There's nothing wrong with younger guys (or younger girls). I've almost always dated older girls (a couple of years or so, for example), and always had good relationships. Lately it seems women my age (25) no longer want to date men my age -- they want to date men in their thirties. This is incredibly dumb, if you ask me. If a person fits all your needs, date them. Age is largely irrelevant, since it's only loosely correlated with maturity (emotional stability, honesty, and communication skills) anyway.

- Warren

[little me]

Younger guys are sometimes more fun!!!

[Monique]

Age is largely irrelevant, since it's only loosely correlated with maturity (emotional stability, honesty, and communication skills) anyway.

- WarrenYou think so? Why is it than that you almost always dated older girls. Generally men mature more slowly than women so it is not that strange that age can matter, but everyone has their own values that are more important than a number.. I just like the thoughtful pondering ones and not the loud beer drinking lot, but that's just me :)

[Njorl]

Just get a few beers into those thoughtful pondering ones. They'll start telling you, loudly, all the thoughts they've been pondering. :smile:

Hey, do women have any rules about how much younger is OK?

We men have been using the "half your age plus seven" rule. For example, if you're 40, 27 is the lower limit. It breaks down at the low end. I mean, if you're 8, the youngest girl you can date is 11. I guess this theory sort of sets 14 as the minimum age to start dating. It gets into dangerous territory in the 18-16 and 20-17 dating guaranteed to make many a parent edgy. :devil:

Njorl

[The_Professional]

Just get a few beers into those thoughtful pondering ones. They'll start telling you, loudly, all the thoughts they've been pondering. :smile:
Njorl

haha..that's very true. And on the same note, as soon as a guy opens his mouth, it's all downhill from there :rofl:

[mooberrymarz]

yeah monique. guyz do mature slower compared to women. I dont really know this guy too well, and sometimes he sez really juvenile things, but he is really funny and cool to hang around with. My friend dates older women coz they spend lots of cash on him. Last year his now ex girlfriend paid for their holiday to mauritius. I thought it was quite low of him not to go dutch on the whole holiday thing but he didnt care. he sez older women have sorted out their issues and are easier to be with(and pay for expensive holidays).. is that true chroot? I's prefer a guy in his early twenties but the best offer I've had so far is this guy... :approve:

[Monique]

Just get a few beers into those thoughtful pondering ones. They'll start telling you, loudly, all the thoughts they've been pondering. :smile: :grumpy: you tell me now? Or maybe I'm the one who needs a few beers :shy:

[Ebolamonk3y]

Pays to be a hermit. :) Dun have to think out loud to anyone. heh

[mooberrymarz]

Thinking out aloud is a very dangerous thing to do.i cant count the number of times I have been in crap for doing that. When i was eleven and i went to this church with my mom, the pastors wife came up with this stupid theory that dinosaurs never existed coz it didny fit in with the bible and stuff. In my mind i said "IDIOT" and as soon as i felt my mom pinch my arm i knew that i had said it out aloud and the pastors wife heard. She always hated me since then... its really sad. :frown: :frown:

[Ebolamonk3y]

Good job dude! I personally begin to dislike the style of preacher and how they assume a higher superiority than anyone else and they especially resent against the intellectuals because of science... :) I'd say good job if you said idiot outloud. Very productive! But I do dislike not being able to express myself because you haev to say things others will like or else... Ahh well...

Monique, dun drink too much and wander into the Red Light district. lol

[mooberrymarz]

I think ure right but imagine if everybody could say stuff without worrying bout other people thought, it would be a life in the day of dilbert. I mean say u had a huge zit on ure nose, u know its there and that its huge... and as ure walking around somebody points at u and sez" my god, what is that ting doing on ure face"... very sad i'd say,

[jimmy p]

Just call people In-DUH-viduals like they do in Dilbert. All the morons will think it is a compliment

[Evo]

Hey, do women have any rules about how much younger is OK?
I don't. The most recent was 18 years younger than me.

mooberrymarz, the last time I dated anyone my age or older was when I was 25. It's only been younger men since then, just by chance. I've always looked much younger than my age, so that's probably a reason. Age doesn't matter, maturity does.

[mooberrymarz]

WOOOOaaahh!! 18 years, oh my hat. thats pretty cool that u look younger.!! yes ure rite maturity does matter more i guess. How do u manage 2 look so young,.. ure really lucky, some women hve it all.... :biggrin: :biggrin:

[Chrono]

I've almost always dated younger men.

Like the younger guys, don't you?

[The_Professional]

Like the younger guys, don't you?

Chrono's got a little sumpin sumpin. Watch out Evo :biggrin:

[Njorl]

18 years younger? My first thought was that he asked you to buy beer for him. Then I thought maybe he was asking you to get him into an R rated movie!

Good for you, provided he was 18. If he was 17 years, 364 days old, then shame on you! :wink:

Njorl

[Evo]

18 years younger? My first thought was that he asked you to buy beer for him. Then I thought maybe he was asking you to get him into an R rated movie!

Good for you, provided he was 18. If he was 17 years, 364 days old, then shame on you! :wink:

NjorlHe was 25 when we met. It took him six months to convince me to date him. I was a bit skeptical about the age difference, but he's very mature, perhaps more so than me, and he's freeking brilliant, and funny and talented in both music and art.

[Chrono]

Chrono's got a little sumpin sumpin. Watch out Evo :biggrin:

You trying to hook us up?

[The_Professional]

Just give me the hook and I'll hook you up

[jinnylima]

I am 38 years old and I am dating a guy that is 22. I've been with him for over 2 years.

[mattmns]

That is one hell of a dig for a first time poster in a thread about dating younger men in a physics-related forum :rofl:


edit... mooberrymarz: how did this younger guy work out?

[jinnylima]

Well for me personally I have lots of fun with him and he acts really mature for his age.

[rewebster]

Some of these 'revived' threads have some interesting 'insights'----



The women I've dated have been at or within '+ and/or -' 16 years, but

'The Very Best' have always been about the same age---it makes 'relating' a lot easier

[Gokul43201]

edit... mooberrymarz: how did this younger guy work out?Somehow, I doubt she's going to answer that one.

[mattmns]

Somehow, I doubt she's going to answer that one.

You have no faith.... just because she hasn't posted here in three years doesn't mean she won't answer my question :smile:

[jinnylima]

Age is just a number. It doesn't matter......

[Jimmy Snyder]

heya! this really cute guy asked me out today, but 5 minutes later i found out that he's 2 years younger than me. he's ok with it but I feel kinda funny bout going out wit him. most of my girl friends think its a bad idea... Wot do u guyz tink? :confused:
This was posted 4 years ago so now he's two years older than you.

[RocketSurgery]

hahah. yeah ok... but u dont understand these are my friends from school. i went to this prissy catholic all girls school, they are uptight bout stuff like that. I know , its sound stupid.. i'm an adult now and I should be able be myself, but i've known these girls since i was like 8, and wot they think matters to me. My best friend went out wit this guy who had.. well... a pretty crappy sense of style ... and they literally sat her down and told her to break up wit him. She did it in the end coz the social pressure within the group was too much... !

If you are so slavish to the criticisms of your "friends" then he might be better off without you. However if you do go out with him then it shows that you are an independent individual who does care what their friends think but that you have a strong enough personality to be assertive and disregard the comments of them when what they have to say is none of their business. As long as you are not infringing upon their territory then I see not why they should care. Or perhaps you are simply taking their harmless advice as though it were an order. I'm not trying to be disparaging but trying to encourage you to be more independent and assertive. :tongue: Think about your reasons for liking the boy and try to come to a conclusion as to why you care about the social impacts that you would be in for challenging the norm (and a silly norm at that). Good luck :D

[Evo]

Why are people talking to a non-existant member?

[rocomath]

Oh come on!!! He's only 2 years younger than you, who cares! At least get to know him a little more, maybe you'll like him enough to say screw what my friends think :)

[cristo]

Why are people talking to a non-existant member?

...says the one with imaginary friends :tongue2:

[Evo]

...says the one with imaginary friends :tongue2:Hey, my imaginary best friend just returned from Istanbul. He sent me a postcard. :approve:

I'm still looking for an imaginary boyfriend since my imaginary best friend is already taken. Or maybe I will just outlive his girlfriend. :uhh:

Quality imaginary people are hard to come by.

[phyzmatix]

Quality imaginary people are hard to come by.

Geez...it takes YEEAAARRSSS to get a good one these days...They just don't make them like they used to, you know? :biggrin:

EDIT: Why did I even open this thread...I'm married for crying out loud! To a WOMAN! :uhh:

[vincentm]

yes my friends are a bit odd. they are very prim and proper...there are lots of thing they dont approve of.


But i bet behind closed doors they.....

[rewebster]

Geez...it takes YEEAAARRSSS to get a good one these days...They just don't make them like they used to, you know? :biggrin:

EDIT: Why did I even open this thread...I'm married for crying out loud! To a WOMAN! :uhh:

you're not getting a Klondike bar tonight

[phyzmatix]

you're not getting a Klondike bar tonight

:rofl:

[rewebster]

Hey, my imaginary best friend just returned from Istanbul. He sent me a postcard. :approve:

I'm still looking for an imaginary boyfriend since my imaginary best friend is already taken. Or maybe I will just outlive his girlfriend. :uhh:

Quality imaginary people are hard to come by .


oooohhhh, Evo------

I thought you considered ALL of us at least good 'imaginary people'---

[Evo]

oooohhhh, Evo------

I thought you considered ALL of us at least good 'imaginary people'---Of course I do!!!

[DaveC426913]

heya! this really cute guy asked me out today, but 5 minutes later i found out that he's 2 years younger than me. he's ok with it but I feel kinda funny bout going out wit him. most of my girl friends think its a bad idea... Wot do u guyz tink? :confused:
Consider:

If you are still concerned about what your girlfriends think about the guys you date, perhaps you are too young for this relationship (regardless of your age), hmm?

One of the hallmarks of achieving adulthood is the realization that, when it comes to dating, it is not their opinions that matter.



But if you still want a number:

1] Take your age.
2] Divide it by 2.
3] Add 7 to it.
4] Is he that age or older? Then you're OK.

[mattmns]

18/2 + 7 = 16 :eek: Luckily I'm 22 :smile:

[Daniel Y.]

hahah. yeah ok... but u dont understand these are my friends from school. i went to this prissy catholic all girls school, they are uptight bout stuff like that. I know , its sound stupid.. i'm an adult now and I should be able be myself, but i've known these girls since i was like 8, and wot they think matters to me. My best friend went out wit this guy who had.. well... a pretty crappy sense of style ... and they literally sat her down and told her to break up wit him. She did it in the end coz the social pressure within the group was too much... !

Wow, you have really, really shallow friends. That or you and your friends are still too young to not have those kinds of prejudices (that's my bet). My advice...Keep watching Hello Kitty and whatever other stuff they show on the Disney channel now, and don't let your girlfriends get in the way of this, like, totally super cute guy! ^^ <(^^<) (>^^)> Yaay!

[Evo]

Guys, you're talking to a ghost. This person hasn't been here in years.

[rewebster]

Are you going to say that THREE times, Evo?
what's wrong with you, Evo?


we're MEN!!

[binzing]

WTF, two years is nothing. (OK when your in like, say, middle school then it does)

[Daniel Y.]

Double-Post. :(

[Daniel Y.]

Judging from Evo's last comment, she might be happily married to the guy, now. :tongue2:

[Art]

Guys, you're talking to a ghost. This person hasn't been here in years.Probably back in school learning to write in English. I hate that abbreviated text style young people use today. It's fine for phone texting where characters are limited but outside that it simply looks illiterate.

[mcknia07]

Two years, is no big deal at all, I say go for it, if you like him :biggrin:

**Wow, I just realized that this is a few years old, lol. I hope it all worked out for her and this "really cute guy" :biggrin:**

[lisab]

...I post to dead threads...

[rewebster]

...I thread the dead to posts..

[DaveC426913]

Haha. I didn't even notice it was so old. And the culprit - jinnylima - is a newbie. I wonder if s/he spent an afternoon digging down 40000 posts or so...

[RocketSurgery]

Neither did I. Haha this nice chain reaction caused all of us to reply to this fossil of a thread without knowing it.:biggrin: Bravo PFers

[Tsu]

SMILE!!! You're on Candid PF Camera!!! :rofl:

[Lisa!]

Why are people talking to a non-existant member?

Because her cutepic does exist in member photo thread!

[Jimmy Snyder]

1] Take your age.
2] Divide it by 2.
3] Add 7 to it.
4] Is he that age or older? Then you're OK.
I'm 58, so that means I can have a girlfriend 36 years old. I told my wife about this. She said I should be careful she doesn't divide me in two. And add 7 lumps on my head.

[_Muddy_]

But if you still want a number:

1] Take your age.
2] Divide it by 2.
3] Add 7 to it.
4] Is he that age or older? Then you're OK.

Well I'm nearly 15 but still 14 so the youngest girl i can date is 14?

[DaveC426913]

Well I'm nearly 15 but still 14 so the youngest girl i can date is 14?Correct.

[_Muddy_]

Correct.

Do you have a similair kind of thing for older girls?

[DaveC426913]

Do you have a similair kind of thing for older girls?
The formula is universal. It works if you are the older/younger partner and of you are the male/female partner.

And it still means that, at 14, you should only be dating other 14 year olds.


P.S. Don't take this formula seriously.

[Lisa!]

I'm still looking for an imaginary boyfriend since my imaginary best friend is already taken.

.
By an imaginary gf or a real 1? I've noticed that most of men have some of these imaginary gfs that they're going to date(or are already dating)when things dont work the way they want while they're dating someone....:rofl:

[matthyaouw]

1] Take your age.
2] Divide it by 2.
3] Add 7 to it.
4] Is he that age or older? Then you're OK.

While this is fine for a large range of ages, I think it needs fine tuning for the upper bounds. A hundred year old can date a 57 year old according to that. Perhaps we should replace 7 with a number proportional to your age or the square of your age.

:wink:

[NeoDevin]

While this is fine for a large range of ages, I think it needs fine tuning for the upper bounds. A hundred year old can date a 57 year old according to that. Perhaps we should replace 7 with a number proportional to your age or the square of your age.

:wink:

If we replace 7 with a number proportional to your age, then the entire thing just become some fraction of your age, which is no good at the lower end (which is where we're concerned with). If we replace it instead with a number proportional to the square of your age, then at higher ages we will still run into trouble, the lower limit would eventually be larger than your age.

[_Muddy_]

The formula is universal. It works if you are the older/younger partner and of you are the male/female partner.

And it still means that, at 14, you should only be dating other 14 year olds.


P.S. Don't take this formula seriously.



hahaha no i wasn't planning on taking it seriously

[DaveC426913]

A hundred year old can date a 57 year old according to that.What's wrong with that? Do you think the 100yo and the 57yo will not be able to relate to each other? Or do you think one will steal the best years of the other's life?

[DaveC426913]

hahaha no i wasn't planning on taking it seriouslyGood.

But still. Don't be datin' 13yo's or 17yo's.:grumpy:

[jim mcnamara]

...I thread the dead to posts..

I think the thread resumed "life" more because the title is interesting. And there are a lot of, um, unattached males prowling about PF.

Titles like 'Flying Saucers over New York' don't get many posts, the ones on love-lives stricken do really well. Prolly for the same reason the 'Dear Abby' column did so well for years. As did 'Sleepless in Seattle'.

[syxx]

Haha.. finally found a suitable place for a first post!!

In any event, I read the beginning of this thread and it strikes me as ironic that the OP friends seem like the type that would frown on dating and younger guy at that age, but getting older would probably be begging for a younger man.

[Evo]

By an imaginary gf or a real 1? I've noticed that most of men have some of these imaginary gfs that they're going to date(or are already dating)when things dont work the way they want while they're dating someone....:rofl:Unfortunately, she's quite real. :frown:

[Borek]

My wife is older then me. Not a big deal.




Well, she is older by one day only. Which makes the deal even smaller :rofl:

[Borek]

But if you still want a number:

1] Take your age.
2] Divide it by 2.
3] Add 7 to it.
4] Is he that age or older? Then you're OK.

My neighbor son is 2 yo, looks like he should look for 8 yo GF :smile:

[DaveC426913]

My wife is older then me. Not a big deal.
Well, she is older by one day only. Which makes the deal even smaller :rofl:

Hm. Does she still count as a cougar?

[Borek]

Hm. Does she still count as a cougar?
I don't think so. I chased her thinking she was two years younger :smile:

[_Muddy_]

My neighbor son is 2 yo, looks like he should look for 8 yo GF :smile:

That means they youngest girl he can date is 8, but are 2 year old boys really that interested in getting a girlfriend?

[Lisa!]

Unfortunately, she's quite real. :frown:

Good men are either taken, dead or gay!:groan:
What killes me is that most of the time the woman who's taken the good guy, doesn't realize what a gem she's got and therefor she treats him so badly.:grumpy:

*sorry for my grammatical errors*:shy:

[Astronuc]

With respect to the OP's question, I'd say sure. I generally dated older women, but also occassionally women somewhat younger by a couple of years. My wife is 6.5 years older than me. Most of my friends are older.

[mattmns]

Good men are either taken, dead or gay!:groan:
What killes me is that most of the time the woman who's taken the good guy, doesn't realize what a gem she's got and therefor she treats him so badly.:grumpy:

*sorry for my grammatical errors*:shy:

Hey! I'm not dead, taken, nor gay, are you saying I'm not a good man? :cry:

[rewebster]

I think the thread resumed "life" more because the title is interesting. And there are a lot of, um, unattached males prowling about PF.

Titles like 'Flying Saucers over New York' don't get many posts, the ones on love-lives stricken do really well. Prolly for the same reason the 'Dear Abby' column did so well for years. As did 'Sleepless in Seattle'.

yep, yeah, (and I can't remember that other one used besides 'yes' from that other thread)--

I would venture a guess that some/most of the women on the PF that have stated/admitted that they are single that their PM box is full or gets full especially right after they DO admit that they are single. (or even if they don't) :tongue2: :tongue2::tongue2:

[rewebster]

Hey! I'm not dead, taken, nor gay, are you saying I'm not a good man? :cry:

(hey, maybe you can be evo's imaginary BF)

[mcknia07]

That sometimes tends to be the case......:surprised WHY???? LOL

[rewebster]

That sometimes tends to be the case......:surprised WHY???? LOL

:rofl:





:tongue2: :tongue2: :tongue2: :tongue2: :tongue2: :tongue2: :tongue2: :tongue2: :tongue2: :tongue2: :tongue2: :tongue2: :tongue2: :tongue2: :tongue2: :tongue2:

(if there was one with drool dripping off the tongue, that would have been the best one)

[DaveC426913]

I don't think so. I chased her thinking she was two years younger :smile:By definition, cougars do the catching. The fact that she convinced you that you were doing the chasing is just one in the cougar's bag o tricks.

I speak from experience. (But keep this under yer hat. If she reads this, she'll kill me :wink:.)

[mcknia07]

:rofl:





:tongue2: :tongue2: :tongue2: :tongue2: :tongue2: :tongue2: :tongue2: :tongue2: :tongue2: :tongue2: :tongue2: :tongue2: :tongue2: :tongue2: :tongue2: :tongue2:

(if there was one with drool dripping off the tongue, that would have been the best one)

HAHHAHAHAHAHAAAA, well good thing there isn't :biggrin: That would be alot of drool.....

[Astronuc]

http://www.tufftubs.com/htdocs/images/bucket.gif

See previous post for context.

[rewebster]

that still may be too small (counting the number of single available desiring lonely eager anxious hormonal males here)

[mcknia07]

I think you will need a bigger bucket.....or what's the scale factor on that??? :biggrin:

[Lisa!]

Hey! I'm not dead, taken, nor gay, are you saying I'm not a good man? :cry:

Wow! I'm sure you're good, matt!:approve:
Wait! Am I questioning your gender here?:uhh:

[Cyrus]

By definition, cougars do the catching. The fact that she convinced you that you were doing the chasing is just one in the cougar's bag o tricks.

I speak from experience. (But keep this under yer hat. If she reads this, she'll kill me :wink:.)

I agree, the cougar is a great catch and famous for its fearce power and smooth ride.

http://static.howstuffworks.com/gif/mercury-cougar.gif

RaaaaRaaaaaaaawW

[B. Elliott]

By definition, cougars do the catching.

Unless it's one of those 'baiting the trap' situations.:biggrin:

[Howers]

I am now convinced. I am the only human being on this forum. The rest of you are programs designed to entertain me. It all makes perfect sense now.

[BryanP]

Age differences stop having as much of a meaning as you get older.

2 years seems like a big difference when you're a teenager. Maybe even into the really early 20s.

Once you're mid-twenties, 2 years would be a non-issue

Can't agree any more. Maturity level starts to vary as you grow older, but everyone starts to pretty much look the same anyways.

[NeoDevin]

I am now convinced. I am the only human being on this forum. The rest of you are programs designed to entertain me. It all makes perfect sense now.

Solipsism as applied to an internet forum, that's a new one to me.

[Moonbear]

I'm 58, so that means I can have a girlfriend 36 years old. I told my wife about this. She said I should be careful she doesn't divide me in two. And add 7 lumps on my head.
Ooh, perfect, I'm 36 and don't mind my men a little lumpy. :biggrin: That I shouldn't date anyone younger than 25 will make the 23 yo student I travelled to HI with very happy (people kept asking if we were on our honeymoon when we'd go places together, and his usual reaction was "Hell NO!" :rofl:...they'd give us a weird look, and I'd explain we only work together and were there on business...in their defense, after that much time together, we WERE bickering like a married couple, so it seemed an honest mistake).

I am now convinced. I am the only human being on this forum. The rest of you are programs designed to entertain me. It all makes perfect sense now.

:rofl: "I'm not here for your entertainment..."

I can't believe how many pages I had to read through to find out who resurrected this old thread. It's not very often that a necropost gets more replies than when it was a new topic.

[GeorginaS]

Necropost. I just learned a new word.

[DT_tokamak]

Good men are either taken, dead or gay!:groan:

What about the ones that have vowed to be single and celibate for life? Those can be good men, too.

[DaveC426913]

What about the ones that have vowed to be single and celibate for life? Those can be good men, too.If I were a betting man, I'd bet that these are very irritable guys on a short fuse...:rolleyes:

[Lisa!]

What about the ones that have vowed to be single and celibate for life? Those can be good men, too.

Here we're talking about normal people who're good to live with!:wink:

[DT_tokamak]

I often figured a single and celibate life marked a higher existence, an existence that exercises domination over the human body's primitive desire for mating and sexual partnership. There are so many wonderful things to explore out there so why should we confine ourselves by succumbing to hindering desires? Relationships expend excess energy that could be put towards greater ambition. Moreover, they often lead to children which are tremendous resource drains. Since the planet is well over populated at the moment and will be for many years to come, I think it would be a noble effort on our parts to refrain mating.

[DaveC426913]

I often figured a single and celibate life marked a higher existence, an existence that exercises domination over the human body's primitive desire for mating and sexual partnership. There are so many wonderful things to explore out there so why should we confine ourselves by succumbing to hindering desires? Relationships expend excess energy that could be put towards greater ambition. Moreover, they often lead to children which are tremendous resource drains. Since the planet is well over populated at the moment and will be for many years to come, I think it would be a noble effort on our parts to refrain mating.
To what is this "higher existence" devoted? Why is it better? How does one define better?
Why do you establish a false premise by your use of the word "succumbing"?
Why do you assume these desires are "hindering"?
Why do you think that denying our natural needs and desires is going to make us happier and more pleasant company?
What is the purpose of this "ambition" and why is it better than loving thy neighbour or thy children? How is ambition a more noble cause? How does it make you a better person?

What you have described above could be interpreted by many as the exact opposite of noble. It can be interpreted as self-serving power-seeking megalomania.

To many, the highest purpose we can devote ourselves to is friends and family, the lowest cause being personal ambition.


Not that there's anything wrong with ascribing to the philosphy you detail, I'm just saying that it's different strokes for different folks.

[BryanP]

That and the last time I checked, people have reproductive organs that actually (wow can you believe it~!) remains meaningful even up to this day in whatever function they have.

[Lisa!]

I often figured a single and celibate life marked a higher existence, an existence that exercises domination over the human body's primitive desire for mating and sexual partnership. There are so many wonderful things to explore out there so why should we confine ourselves by succumbing to hindering desires? Relationships expend excess energy that could be put towards greater ambition. Moreover, they often lead to children which are tremendous resource drains. Since the planet is well over populated at the moment and will be for many years to come, I think it would be a noble effort on our parts to refrain mating.

hmmm...I was thinking about not eating/drinking anymore since we can save many of our planet resourses, but unfortunately that's a different thing since we can stay alive this way. Not to mention about the joys we get from what we eat and drink! On the other hand, what you say is still a nobel prize since this way we can get rid of human race, these annoying race who're ruining the earth that others species are living on it!
Anyway as a human being you're free to choose your way of life and we can force you to live and think the way we think that's better, but I don't think that's be a good idea not to care about our body's needs! I might be wrong though, so all people aren't the same way.

[DT_tokamak]

Actually, relationships are fine if they suit you. But I do like to argue the extreme because it is often assumed, at least implicitly, that living single and celibate is not a 'good' or realistic option. People almost never mention it in context of life choices.

So really, people's negative judgment of a single and celibate lifestyle is the same as a judgment of a life involving a relationship and family.

[loseyourname]

Actually, relationships are fine if they suit you. But I do like to argue the extreme because it is often assumed, at least implicitly, that living single and celibate is not a 'good' or realistic option. People almost never mention it in context of life choices.

So really, people's negative judgment of a single and celibate lifestyle is the same as a judgment of a life involving a relationship and family.

There's arguably a good reason for people to feel this way, in that one practice perpetuates the existence of our species and one does not.

[NoTime]

:rofl: "I'm not here for your entertainment..."
:rofl: You are entertaining though.
Do you mind if we're not so lumpy? :biggrin:

I've gotten that "You're too young for me comment" a lot lately. :confused:
It does seem to be a big consideration for a lot of women.
They also get annoyed when you tell them just how much younger they actually are.

I ended up on a date with this one woman thru a musician friend of mine.
Not a bad date, until I mentioned my kids.
Turned out she was younger than my sons girlfriend :uhh:

Oh, well. Maybe I should take up cougar hunting.

[DT_tokamak]

There's arguably a good reason for people to feel this way, in that one practice perpetuates the existence of our species and one does not.

Do you argue that reason? I would be interested to hear that argument, especially considering that we have more than enough people on this planet at present.

[Moonbear]

Actually, relationships are fine if they suit you. But I do like to argue the extreme because it is often assumed, at least implicitly, that living single and celibate is not a 'good' or realistic option. People almost never mention it in context of life choices.

So really, people's negative judgment of a single and celibate lifestyle is the same as a judgment of a life involving a relationship and family.

Still pretty useless for someone interested in finding a mate who ISN'T celibate. They sure wouldn't do me any good.

[DT_tokamak]

Still pretty useless for someone interested in finding a mate who ISN'T celibate. They sure wouldn't do me any good.
That is true. I cannot deny your point there.

I like to point out to people the many benefits that come with a single & celibate lifestyle. People usually never consider it as an option. But you have a level of freedom to learn and explore, completely unhindered, by not having relational attachments of that nature.

As I've lived, I've endured many a friend's discourse on the stresses, constrictions, and overall unhappiness they've had to endure while being in a relationship. I say to them, "why do you put yourself through this?" And they say, "because I love her." And I do not comprehend the logic of this response, and moreover, contend that it is not really love, but familiarity and attachment that they suffer from. They, by observation, are happy less often than they are unhappy. I'm quite certain this can be experimentally verified. So why succumb to a state in which you are happy less than you are unhappy, bearing no logical reason, and to which the only defense for said state is of an irrational and emotional persuasion?

[Moonbear]

I like to point out to people the many benefits that come with a single & celibate lifestyle. People usually never consider it as an option. But you have a level of freedom to learn and explore, completely unhindered, by not having relational attachments of that nature.

You don't have to be single or celibate to have that freedom. Different people have different types of relationships, and you seem to be making assumptions about those relationships to claim one needs to be single or celibate (or both) to be free. For example, I'm single, not celibate, am in a relationship I enjoy, yet am completely unhindered in doing whatever I want. I wouldn't go for any relationship that put restrictions on my freedoms. Do whatever floats your boat, but don't push it on others as better than any choice they might make for themselves.

[DT_tokamak]

You don't have to be single or celibate to have that freedom. Different people have different types of relationships, and you seem to be making assumptions about those relationships to claim one needs to be single or celibate (or both) to be free. For example, I'm single, not celibate, am in a relationship I enjoy, yet am completely unhindered in doing whatever I want. I wouldn't go for any relationship that put restrictions on my freedoms. Do whatever floats your boat, but don't push it on others as better than any choice they might make for themselves.
I am merely offering the option as it is not suggested and often overlooked by the greater part of society. If you do not wish to explore that option, this is of course, your choice. However any emotional recourse you feel of this being pushed on you is likely a result of your own internal conflicts. This has nothing to do with me as I'm just a guy on an internet forum and I have no power over your life.

[binzing]

Ha, one of the banner ads on PF for this post is "Cougar Woman Younger Man".

[binzing]

I often figured a single and celibate life marked a higher existence, an existence that exercises domination over the human body's primitive desire for mating and sexual partnership. There are so many wonderful things to explore out there so why should we confine ourselves by succumbing to hindering desires? Relationships expend excess energy that could be put towards greater ambition. Moreover, they often lead to children which are tremendous resource drains. Since the planet is well over populated at the moment and will be for many years to come, I think it would be a noble effort on our parts to refrain mating.

Your cause is noble but I'm sorry, life is too short to not screw...

[Moonbear]

I am merely offering the option as it is not suggested and often overlooked by the greater part of society. If you do not wish to explore that option, this is of course, your choice. However any emotional recourse you feel of this being pushed on you is likely a result of your own internal conflicts. This has nothing to do with me as I'm just a guy on an internet forum and I have no power over your life.

Please don't play armchair psychologist here. There are no internal conflicts, I just think your point of view is rather oddly misplaced in a thread asking about women dating younger men, which leads me to think you're trying to push a particular idea rather than take a natural path in the discussion. Nobody asked about celibacy. If they wanted to be celibate, they wouldn't have asked the original question in the first place. I'll leave celibacy for the priests...as far as I know, they're not available for dating either.

[DaveC426913]

I am merely offering the option as it is not suggested and often overlooked by the greater part of society. If you do not wish to explore that option, this is of course, your choice. However any emotional recourse you feel of this being pushed on you is likely a result of your own internal conflicts.
You're doing some serious backpedaling here.

You stated your opinions as if they were stronger than the status quo.

"... a single and celibate life marked a higher existence..."
"... the human body's primitive desire for mating and sexual partnership..."
"...why should we confine ourselves by succumbing to hindering desires?
"...Relationships expend excess energy that could be put towards greater ambition.
"...Moreover, they often lead to children which are tremendous resource drains
"... I think it would be a noble effort on our parts to refrain mating..."

In fact, 'twas us (or more accurately, me :wink:) who said:

"...different strokes for different folks..."

You now seem to be trying to claim credit for the "different strokes" philosophy, and then suggesting that other interpretation of your words is ... how did you put it? "...the result of our own internal conflicts..."