View Full Version : Girl I'm seeing wants to ask me 'questions' tomorrow
gravenewworld
Jun15-09, 09:33 PM
What could she possibly have in store for me? She has been 'waiting for a week' to ask me these questions. God women drive me insane sometimes with these games and on edge stuff. Now I'm nervous about what she is going to ask.
humanino
Jun15-09, 09:36 PM
Now she must be nervous even more than you !
gravenewworld
Jun15-09, 09:38 PM
Now she must be nervous even more than you !
I'm guessing Q's along the lines of
Do you find me pretty?
Do you like me?
How many women have you slept with?
etc.
etc..
This is going to be a blood bath.
Pengwuino
Jun15-09, 09:43 PM
This is going to be a blood bath.
Do you already see the laser on your forehead?
chemisttree
Jun15-09, 09:49 PM
Is this the girl you were going to buy a ring for?
I'm guessing Q's along the lines of
Do you find me pretty?
Do you like me?
How many women have you slept with?
etc.
etc..
This is going to be a blood bath.
Wow, gnw, what kind of women do you hang out with? Sorry to be so insensitive...but, back in the day, I *never* asked any of these questions of any of my beaus...
mainly because i didn't want them asking me those kind of questions haha
gravenewworld
Jun15-09, 09:55 PM
Is this the girl you were going to buy a ring for?
Nah I wasn't actually looking for a ring for anyone, just trying to start an interesting thread. I was only looking at pawn shop/antique shops just to look at costs for future reference (plus I go to antique shops once in a while to buy furniture/decorations).
This is a new fish.
gravenewworld
Jun15-09, 09:56 PM
Wow, gnw, what kind of women do you hang out with? Sorry to be so insensitive...but, back in the day, I *never* asked any of these questions of any of my beaus...
mainly because i didn't want them asking me those kind of questions haha
Good. I hope I am completely wrong about what she is going to ask.
She is foreign, maybe it is a customs thing.
Redbelly98
Jun15-09, 09:57 PM
I would be hitting the books about now to make sure I knew stuff like the kinematic equations for uniform acceleration, under what conditions momentum and mechanical energy are conserved, and basic electrostatics. You know, just in case she wanted to ask about those things.
How do you feel about children?
What would you name our first kid?
Pengwuino
Jun15-09, 09:59 PM
"Who were you talking to on the phone last night?"
JasonRox
Jun15-09, 10:00 PM
Haha, I'd probably end up forgetting she wanted to talk and ask questions.
Could be anything hence I would go about my day like she never said anything.
Maybe she wants to ask...
"I'm pregnant, do you want to keep the baby?"
Redbelly98
Jun15-09, 10:01 PM
Wow, it's a post a minute in this thread!
Haha, I'd probably end up forgetting she wanted to talk and ask questions.
Ah good strategy, Jason....go on the offensive, gnw! Have a slew of questions ready for her!
gravenewworld
Jun15-09, 10:04 PM
Haha, I'd probably end up forgetting she wanted to talk and ask questions.
Could be anything hence I would go about my day like she never said anything.
Maybe she wants to ask...
"I'm pregnant, do you want to keep the baby?"
She also said that they weren't going to be questions like "What is your favorite color?"
I will "pretend" to forget
Redbelly98
Jun15-09, 10:09 PM
I hope she didn't ask you to meet her by the bridge.
pWS8Mg-JWSg
maybe she is just shy and is regretting she said that, next time you see her just have a natural conversation, if she wants to ask you something she will. But if you ask her "so what did you want to ask me" might put her in an uncomfortable position, depending on the type.
edit:
She also said that they weren't going to be questions like "What is your favorite color?"
never mind
elect_eng
Jun15-09, 10:13 PM
How do you feel about children?
This question got me in trouble once. A girl I was dating for a month asked me if I wanted to have kids someday. I answered yes because I thought this is what she wanted to hear. Turned out she didn't want to have kids. She broke up with me a week later saying that it would be better to break it off now before we got too attached to each other.
The funny thing is that I really felt that I was looking for the right woman and children were secondary for me. I would have stayed with her if things went well, even if she didn't want kids. However, no amount of explaining could convince her of this. She thought I was lying to make her stay.
You just can't win with women. If you tell the truth, you lose. If you lie, you lose. The lesson I learned is that I would rather lose while telling the truth. So I never lie any more. My wife asks me if her butt is fat and I say "no" because it isn't. However, someday it really will be fat and I will tell her the truth: "Time for a diet honey". You will know when that day comes when I stop posting. :smile:
Moonbear
Jun15-09, 10:13 PM
Uh oh! That doesn't sound good. Usually, when someone feels the need to schedule an appointment to ask the person they're dating questions, they aren't good questions. They end up being things like, "Do you love me?" "Where do you think this relationship is going?" "If I wanted to date this other person I met last month, how would you feel about that?"
The best you can hope for is that they take the direction of, "I'm really ready to settle down, how about you?" or "Do you want children?"
chemisttree
Jun15-09, 10:14 PM
Do you talk in your sleep? :devil:
1.What day would you love to live again?
2.If you could have one superpower, what would it be?
3.Who's been the most influential person to you?
4.What movie do you watch again and again?
5.What's your most valuable possession?
6.What's the best advice you've ever received?
7.What's your happiest childhood memory?
8.What's the worst lie you ever told?
9.What's the hardest life lesson you've had to learn?
10.What friend do you want to get back in touch with?
11.If you could meet one living celeb, who would it be?
12.Who do you envy most?
13.What's something you couldn't live without and why?
14.What family member do you wish you knew better?
15.If you could meet someone famous, who would it be?
16.What did you want to be when you grew up?
17.What experience has changed your outlook on life?
18.What's your biggest regret?
19.What do you love most about your family? Why?
20.Where's your ultimate vacation destination?
21.What in life are you most proud of?
22.Who's your most loyal friend?
23.Would you want to be famous? For what?
24.What's your biggest accomplishment?
25.What's your earliest childhood memory?
26.What's a life lesson you learned the hard way?
27.What's one thing in past like to change?
28.What's your favorite thing about yourself?
29.Do you think you're a good judge of character?
30.What's the best compliment you've ever received?
31.What's the worst advice you've ever taken?
32.What talent do you wish you'd been born with?
33.What's the most spontaneous thing you've ever done?
34.What's a subject you wish you knew more about?
35.What did people tease you about growing up?
36.Who in your family are you most like?
37.What's the most fun you've had in the last year?
38.Do you have a recurring dream? What happens in it?
39.What's the bravest thing you've ever done?
40.What's the biggest personal change you've ever made?
* Where do you see yourself professionally five years from now?
* What is your job profile all about?
* So, what are your hobbies?
* What are you on the lookout for in a relationship?
* If you had three wishes, what would it be?
* What is the one thing you would wish to speak about yourself?
* What kind of music do you love to listen to?
* Describe yourself in five words!
* So, what are your ideas about having fun?
* Would you kiss your girl on a first date?
* How important is sexual compatibility according to you?
* If you were given an entire day off with your date, how would you spend your time?
* Tell me about your favorite movie.
* How long have you been speed dating?
* What according to you is your most treasured possession?
* Which is the best book you have read so far?
* Can you define love in your own way?
* Have you been in a relationship before and if so, why did you break up?
* Who is your favorite celebrity or Hollywood actress?
* What would you like to change about yourself?
* How would you like to spend a Sunday morning?
* How much importance do you attach to religion?
* Have you ever felt the need to get married?
* What qualities are you looking for in a girlfriend?
....... meh
JasonRox
Jun15-09, 10:16 PM
Uh oh! That doesn't sound good. Usually, when someone feels the need to schedule an appointment to ask the person they're dating questions, they aren't good questions. They end up being things like, "Do you love me?" "Where do you think this relationship is going?" "If I wanted to date this other person I met last month, how would you feel about that?"
The best you can hope for is that they take the direction of, "I'm really ready to settle down, how about you?" or "Do you want children?"
How about something like... "Are you free next weekend? I have tickets to fly somewhere..."
Who knows. Hence why I would forget. :wink:
chemisttree
Jun15-09, 10:17 PM
2.If you could have one superpower, what would it be?
Brevity
JasonRox
Jun15-09, 10:18 PM
This question got me in trouble once. A girl I was dating for a month asked me if I wanted to have kids. I answered yes because I thought this is what she wanted to hear. Turned out she didn't want to have kids. She broke up with me a week later saying that it would be better to break it off now before we got too attached to each other.
The funny thing is that I really felt that I was looking for the right woman and children were secondary for me. I would have stayed with her if things went well, even if she didn't want kids. However, no amount of explaining could convince her of this. She thought I was lying to make her stay.
You just can't win with women. If you tell the truth, you lose. If you lie, you lose. The lesson I learned is that I would rather lose while telling the truth. So I never lie any more. My wife asks me if her butt is fat and I say "no" because it isn't. However, someday it really will be fat and I will tell her the truth: "Time for a diet honey". You will know when that day comes when I stop posting. :smile:
I tell the truth all the time. I've told girls they don't look good before.
If I'm interested in the girl, I won't lie. I never lie in a relationship for the girls comfort. Never, that just ruins everything.
Moonbear
Jun15-09, 10:18 PM
You just can't win with women. If you tell the truth, you lose. If you lie, you lose. The lesson I learned is that I would rather lose while telling the truth. So I never lie any more. My wife asks me if her butt is fat and I say "no" because it isn't. However, someday it really will be fat and I will tell her the truth: "Time for a diet honey". You will know when that day comes when I stop posting. :smile:
:rofl: Does your wife happen to know jimmysnyder's wife? :biggrin:
On a more serious note, if telling the truth gets you in trouble, you're with the wrong woman. That's not to say they will never be upset by the truth, but if it's the right match, they'll forgive you and move past it.
Gokul43201
Jun15-09, 10:19 PM
BrevityAh, the power to display your briefs. Superman had that too.
chemisttree
Jun15-09, 10:20 PM
I tell the truth all the time. I've told girls they don't look good before...
Before what?
JasonRox
Jun15-09, 10:22 PM
Before what?
I told the girl I was dating before that I didn't like her outfit and didn't look good on her.
I told the girl I'm dating now that I don't really like one pair of jeans she wears, but it's ok for casual wear. I tell her not to wear it out if she wants to look good.
I'm honest everytime. I'm not here to sugarcoat reality for everyone.
EDIT: Let's not highjack the thread.
Gokul43201
Jun15-09, 10:22 PM
On a more serious note, if telling the truth gets you in trouble, you're with the wrong woman. That's not to say they will never be upset by the truth, but if it's the right match, they'll forgive you and move past it.Hmmm ... the wrong woman chastises you for telling the truth and the right woman forgives you. Is there a kind of woman that appreciates you for telling the truth?
Moonbear
Jun15-09, 10:23 PM
How about something like... "Are you free next weekend? I have tickets to fly somewhere..."
Nope, nobody could suppress their excitement about something that fun to wait the next day to ask that question.
I've had guys give me the same basic line, that they need to ask questions, and it's never a good conversation. If they don't break up then, that's usually the start of a very brief downward spiral that I break up with them soon after.
But, hey, if you expect it could be a break up, and she does spring a question on you like that about a trip somewhere, then you'll just be extra-overjoyed when she asks. It's easier to brace for the worst and be pleasantly surprised than to expect something fun and be horridly disappointed.
chemisttree
Jun15-09, 10:26 PM
I told the girl I was dating before that I didn't like her outfit and didn't look good on her.
I told the girl I'm dating now ...
Yeah, I thought it was somthing like that. Every girl I've dated had a sweet tooth....
JasonRox
Jun15-09, 10:26 PM
But, hey, if you expect it could be a break up, and she does spring a question on you like that about a trip somewhere, then you'll just be extra-overjoyed when she asks. It's easier to brace for the worst and be pleasantly surprised than to expect something fun and be horridly disappointed.
It can be like... "Want to eat at McDonald's? I got free coupons. I wanted to ask cause I know you don't like it there. So, you want too?"
Just that can make you overjoyed if you were expecting the worst!
I tend to expect nothing. It gets on people's nerves sometimes though.
Moonbear
Jun15-09, 10:27 PM
Hmmm ... the wrong woman chastises you for telling the truth and the right woman forgives you. Is there a kind of woman that appreciates you for telling the truth?
:rofl:
Yes, that's the one who forgives you. I've been through this with my boyfriend. He now understands that it's best to tell the truth (he never lied to me, but tries to keep information from me that he thinks will upset me, which only makes matters worse when I still find out but also find out he kept it from me). I do appreciate him for telling the truth, because sometimes it's a hard thing to do. That doesn't mean it's always easy to hear the truth and that I won't get mad about it for a short time...the important thing is that I can't stay mad about it because I know I prefer him to be truthful than to hide things from me.
Gokul43201
Jun15-09, 10:30 PM
It can be like... "Want to eat at McDonald's? I got free coupons. I wanted to ask cause I know you don't like it there. So, you want too?"Do people really have conversations like this or is it endemic to Canadians?
Moonbear
Jun15-09, 10:30 PM
I told the girl I was dating before that I didn't like her outfit and didn't look good on her.
I told the girl I'm dating now that I don't really like one pair of jeans she wears, but it's ok for casual wear. I tell her not to wear it out if she wants to look good.
I'm honest everytime. I'm not here to sugarcoat reality for everyone.
EDIT: Let's not highjack the thread.
Telling someone they don't look good in an outfit is different than telling them THEY don't look good.
My boyfriend is completely honest about my clothing choices too. He doesn't like me in jeans. In fact, he doesn't like me in pants at all...
JasonRox
Jun15-09, 10:30 PM
Like Mark Twain said...
If you tell the truth you don't have to remember anything.
JasonRox
Jun15-09, 10:32 PM
He doesn't like me in jeans. In fact, he doesn't like me in pants at all...
Sounds like me and your boyfriend have the same preference when it comes to girls.
JasonRox
Jun15-09, 10:33 PM
Do people really have conversations like this or is it endemic to Canadians?
I'm not the person you should ask.
Gokul43201
Jun15-09, 10:34 PM
I'm not the person you should ask.True. I was asking the rest of us here.
chemisttree
Jun15-09, 10:35 PM
Like Mark Twain said...
If you tell the truth you don't have to remember anything.
All you have to remember is, "Wow, you look great tonight! Are you sure you want to go out... or maybe stay in?"
Memorize it.
JasonRox
Jun15-09, 10:38 PM
All you have to remember is, "Wow, you look great tonight! Are you sure you want to go out... or maybe stay in?"
Memorize it.
What if I want to go out and she says to stay in?
She might want to stay in, but I'd go out anyways.
chemisttree
Jun15-09, 10:39 PM
True. I was asking the rest of us here.
I'm googling "canadian endemic" right now...
JasonRox
Jun15-09, 10:40 PM
I'm googling "canadian endemic" right now...
I really hope not.
Math Is Hard
Jun15-09, 10:41 PM
Maybe she's secretly a member of PF and wants to find out if you are,too.
chemisttree
Jun15-09, 10:43 PM
gnw, I wouldn't worry about it. If you don't know the answers by now, you never will.
chemisttree
Jun15-09, 10:46 PM
I really hope not.
I'm getting "maritime shrew", "lyme disease" and "blastocytosis".
Any of this sound familiar to you? Or should I keep googling...
Moonbear
Jun15-09, 10:46 PM
gnw, I wouldn't worry about it. If you don't know the answers by now, you never will.
I agree, it's not worth worrying about. Whatever the questions are, you probably do know the answers, whether they are the ones she wants to hear or not.
Moonbear
Jun15-09, 10:47 PM
I'm getting "maritime shrew", "lyme disease" and "blastocytosis".
Any of this sound familiar to you? Or should I keep googling...
:rofl: :rofl: :rofl: Maritime shrew? I hope GNW doesn't live in the Maritimes!
humanino
Jun15-09, 10:49 PM
One good question for you to ask her : "what do you like for breakfast ?". It's pretty straight, but if she gets it, she at least a minimum smart, and has a decent sense of humor.
Yawnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn. I think your girlfriend is an idiot and you should dump her (That's not me being funny). Who the hell schedules a time to ask questions?
humanino
Jun15-09, 10:53 PM
Yawnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn. I think your girlfriend is an idiot and you should dump her (That's not me being funny). Who the hell schedules a time to ask questions? A loser - that's who.What did you first ask your girlfriend again ?
What did you first ask your girlfriend again ?
I believe I told you, "how you doin" and you melted in your seat.
Pengwuino
Jun15-09, 10:54 PM
Yawnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn. I think your girlfriend is an idiot and you should dump her (That's not me being funny). Who the hell schedules a time to ask questions?
Maybe she's a CEO of a fortune 500 company?
How many girlfriends do you have again?
chemisttree
Jun15-09, 10:55 PM
Yawnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn. I think your girlfriend is an idiot and you should dump her (That's not me being funny). Who the hell schedules a time to ask questions?
Thank you, Cyrus! Now I can sleep tonight....
Maybe she's a CEO of a fortune 500 company?
How many girlfriends do you have again?
Your mother and I are keeping it on the down low (don't tell humanino).
Just hope she didn't get the questions from some freaking magazine article.
If she asks: Do you think I look fat? Just go ahead and shoot yourself.
humanino
Jun15-09, 10:57 PM
I believe I told you, "how you doin" and you melted in your seat.But you know I fell only for your good looking.
Your mother and I are keeping it on the down low (don't tell humanino).I knew it !
Just hope she didn't get the questions from some freaking magazine article.
If she asks: Do you think I look fat? Just go ahead and shoot yourself.
Why not say yes. It's funnier. Post her response on youtube. Then post it on youtubeclassics thread. Hilarity ensues.
Pengwuino
Jun15-09, 10:59 PM
Why not say yes. It's funnier. Post her response on youtube. Then post it on youtubeclassics thread. Hilarity ensues.
you're assuming he'll live to post a video on youtube.
elect_eng
Jun15-09, 11:00 PM
:rofl: Does your wife happen to know jimmysnyder's wife? :biggrin:
On a more serious note, if telling the truth gets you in trouble, you're with the wrong woman. That's not to say they will never be upset by the truth, but if it's the right match, they'll forgive you and move past it.
Yeah, she's the right woman for me. No one is perfect though. She gets angry for 10 minutes and then she forgives and moves past. It's a long 10 minutes, but fortunately I'm patient. That's why we are the right match.
The fat butt thing shouldn't really be a problem because if she actually does get fat, I think she will stop asking. :smile:
GeorginaS
Jun15-09, 11:17 PM
Do people really have conversations like this or is it endemic to Canadians?
Why are you blaming conversations such as that one on Canadians? Nonetheless, I can hereby swear I've never, ever engaged in a conversation such as the one penned by Jasonrox. Never, ever.
And I'm Canadian.
So.
Edited to add: on the "scheduling an appointment to 'ask questions'" issue, my answer is fairly straightforward. Run!
No, for serious, now. That's the equivalent of "we've got to talk". Poisonous words. I'd put my money on, "Where do you think this relationship is going?" and etc. Deep, heartfelt stuff that, jeez, I dunno. I'm female and all I can do without those conversations. Scheduled ones, I mean. The answers to Those Questions generally occur organically in comfortable relationships. I wish you luck, gravenewworld.
humanino
Jun15-09, 11:27 PM
I'd put my money onIt does not matter what you think it's gonna be, in reality it may be completely different, and actually important for at least one of the two of them. I think he should go. If she's really going to pull out something stupid, he should let her understand in a sensible manner that it is not appropriate. It least, he will have helped and respected her.
Who the hell schedules a time to ask questions?
Yeah, I'm going to have to agree with Cyrus here. I mean..."We have to talk!"...it's so sophomoric. Lose the drama.
:eek: This is ghastly. This is war. Now that you've had the good advice, I have some bad advice.
Be preemptive. Be insistent: "Before you ask your questions, I must have some for you."
Prepare your list of questions ahead of time. They should begin with,
"Would you ever lie to me?"
Look her straight in the eye. If you don't like the answer, say so, and say why.
Now, for the list of questions. As if she is in the court of God to answer for her life; to explain her worst sins:-
"What is the greatest harm you have ever caused another human being?"
"What is the worst thing you have ever done?"
"What is your greatest shame?"
etc.
Next go after family members with the same.
"What's the worst thing your _insert name_ has done that you don't want to tell me?"
If all else fails, and your relationship is still not damaged beyond any conceivable hopes of repair, ask her intents toward youself.
:eek: This is ghastly. This is war. Now that you've had the good advice, I have some bad advice.
Be preemptive. Be insistent: "Before you ask your questions, I must have some for you."
Prepare your list of questions ahead of time. They should begin with,
"Would you lie to me?"
Look her straight in the eye. If you don't like the answer, say so, and say why.
Now, for the list of questions. As if she is in the court of God to answer for her life, to explain her worst sins:-
"What is the greatest harm you have ever caused another human being?"
"What is the worst thing you have ever done?"
"What is your greatest shame?"
etc.
Next go after family members with the same.
"What's the worst thing your _insert name_ has done that you don't want to tell me?"
You must to be good at social situations. Why would you do this? You're just as bad as this guys gf.
How about you just shut up and listen to her questions? Then inquire as to why she felt she had to schedule a time just for questions. Then tell her (depending on how her questions go) that you can't date someone that isnt comfortable just asking questions. Then post her response via hidden camera on youtube! (again, don't forget to link to youtube classics!)
Welcome to manhood phrak. I hope you took notes. :tongue2:
Side note: Humanino, I've got some questions for you. I'm going to make a thread tomorrow. <talk amongst yourselves>
humanino
Jun16-09, 12:05 AM
Humanino, I've got some questions for you. I'm going to make a thread tomorrow.How exactly will you force me to speak ?
http://moto-images.caradisiac.com/IMG/jpg/4/1/3/5/7/DSCN7415.jpg
You're just as bad as this guys gf.
I think that was intended...
I have some bad advice.
I think that was intended...
Yeah, I realized that after the fact, so I tried to mask it by editing my post! :devil:
How exactly will you force me to speak ?
http://moto-images.caradisiac.com/IMG/jpg/4/1/3/5/7/DSCN7415.jpg
You are one sick french fry.
Moonbear
Jun16-09, 12:15 AM
Edited to add: on the "scheduling an appointment to 'ask questions'" issue, my answer is fairly straightforward. Run!
Yeah, I'm going to have to agree with Cyrus here. I mean..."We have to talk!"...it's so sophomoric. Lose the drama.
Are you noticing a pattern in the female responses? We're divulging deep secrets of the sisterhood to protect you...heed the advice! :biggrin:
You must to be good at social situations. Why would you do this? You're just as bad as this guys gf.
I am, but better at watching. And didn't I tell you it was bad advice?
How about you just shut up and listen to her questions? Then inquire as to why she felt she had to schedule a time just for questions. Then tell her (depending on how her questions go) that you can't date someone that isnt comfortable just asking questions. Then post her response via hidden camera on youtube! (again, don't forget to link to youtube classics!)
Welcome to manhood phrak. I hope you took notes. :tongue2:
Cyrus, I'm married 14 years. I don't have to play the dating game. Don't worry about women. Now a little seven year old boy, the most beautiful I've ever seen, is the love of my life since the moment I held a tiny baby in my arms.
I am, but better at watching. And didn't I tell you it was bad advice?
Cyrus, I'm married 14 years. I don't have to play the dating game. Don't worry about women. Now a little seven year old boy, the most beautiful I've ever seen, is the love of my life since the moment I held a tiny baby in my arms.
See a few posts above.
Yeah, I realized that after the fact, so I tried to mask it by editing my post! :devil:
Got ya! Fast and furious around here, isn't it?
What could she possibly have in store for me? She has been 'waiting for a week' to ask me these questions. God women drive me insane sometimes with these games and on edge stuff. Now I'm nervous about what she is going to ask.
Gavene. My wife, who cyphers better in these matters thinks she's pregnant and wants to know where you stand. I hope I haven't terrified you. What would you feel about this?
I hear Cyrus makes a great name for a boy or girl.
Anticitizen
Jun16-09, 12:59 AM
Maybe she wants to submit you to the Myers-Briggs temperament sorter...
Well, I'll offer my opinion as an admin. I think every thread on PF that asks for help about a girl, from now on, must include this photograph, appropriately captioned for the precise situation.
http://moto-images.caradisiac.com/IMG/jpg/4/1/3/5/7/DSCN7415.jpg
- Warren
Here are some gems that I have learned from women I've known.
No matter what you say, I will take it wrong.
No matter what you do, I will take it wrong.
If you are nice to me, I will assume you've cheated on me.
If I can't reach you for 15 minutes, you must be cheating on me.
If you buy me a gift, you must be covering something up.
If you have to work late, you're having an affair.
TheStatutoryApe
Jun16-09, 02:29 AM
"We need to talk" is usually bad.
My last gf who did this actually told me that she wanted me to write up a list of things that I felt we should talk about and that she would do the same. At first I was going to say **** it and not do it but then decided that she would only be upset and I would not hear the end of it all night. I actually filled a sheet of paper thinking that I was going to be cool and ask all of her questions for her and put the focus of the silly excersize squarely on her. Boy was I wrong. She actually typed up her own list which covered two pages and even found and printed out several of our e-mail conversations to use as reference material. When I saw this I simultaneously thought that she was crazy and that she was damn serious about making a case for breaking up with me, mostly to convince herself of course. I don't even know why I played along with that silly game.
humanino
Jun16-09, 02:40 AM
If you have to work late, you're having an affair.It's the story of this scientist coming back home late at night. His hair is messed up, he has lipstick on his chick, smells with woman perfume and his shirt untidy. His wife opens the doors and starts "don't try to lie, I know you were at the lab".
Pengwuino
Jun16-09, 02:48 AM
Here are some gems that I have learned from women I've known.
No matter what you say, I will take it wrong.
No matter what you do, I will take it wrong.
If you are nice to me, I will assume you've cheated on me.
If I can't reach you for 15 minutes, you must be cheating on me.
If you buy me a gift, you must be covering something up.
If you have to work late, you're having an affair.
Yes, we know girls are mentally unbalanced.
Ok, seriously, best way to handle this situation is show up with a pistol in the front of your pants. She'll get the point.
And to anyone who thinks thats over the line, I just call it looking good. Hell if I had a pistol, i'd carry it around just for looks all the time. Makes up for my lack of a good hair style.
GeorginaS
Jun16-09, 02:48 AM
"We need to talk" is usually bad.
My last gf who did this actually told me that she wanted me to write up a list of things that I felt we should talk about and that she would do the same.
I'm sorry. I read that second sentence and literally laughed out loud. Wow am I ever glad I'm a growed-up now and wouldn't dream of doing stuff like that.
Wait a minute. I wouldn't have dreampt of doing stuff like that when I was in my 20s. What is wrong with these women? Sorry, TSA, not to disparage your last gf, but honest to heaven.
TheStatutoryApe
Jun16-09, 02:57 AM
I'm sorry. I read that second sentence and literally laughed out loud. Wow am I ever glad I'm a growed-up now and wouldn't dream of doing stuff like that.
Wait a minute. I wouldn't have dreampt of doing stuff like that when I was in my 20s. What is wrong with these women? Sorry, TSA, not to disparage your last gf, but honest to heaven.
Its not something she normaly would have done. Like I said I think she really wanted to break up with me but needed to convince herself that she was right to do so. I'm a nice guy with puppy dog eyes and women often have trouble being mad at me or doing things that might hurt my feelings. I think that she wanted to believe that I was a bad boyfriend so she wouldn't feel guilty. She broke down and started crying when she finally broke up with me.
So its funny and crazy but a little sad at the same time.
binzing
Jun16-09, 03:18 AM
I hope she didn't ask you to meet her by the bridge.
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I just hope she doesn't look like him!
Gokul43201
Jun16-09, 04:47 AM
Ok, seriously, best way to handle this situation is show up with a pistol in the front of your pants. She'll get the point.That's an idea (think Mae West).
gnw' gf: "Is that a gun in your pocket or are you just happy to see me?"
gnw: "Happy to see you??? Yeah, right!" <extracts gun from pocket>
How many women have you slept with?back in the day, I *never* asked any of these questions of any of my beaus...
mainly because i didn't want them asking me those kind of questions haha
If I understand correctly - you didn't want to be asked how many women have you slept with?
Huckleberry
Jun16-09, 07:13 AM
When she wants to ask serious questions, the less you say the better. The more you talk the more you will be misunderstood. Just whatever you do, don't start pleading or approval seeking. Don't make it your problem. If she wants to go then she's gonna go regardless of what you say. If she wants to advance the relationship I guess you would have to make some sort of decision, but I don't have any experience with that. That always kinda freaked me out.
Funny thing though, I get first dates saying all kinds of things. It's not uncommon for them to discuss children or sex or anything really. Getting the dates in the first place is less common. So it is hard for me to imagine that your girlfriend would plan a time to deliberate with you, rather than just ask. It's way too formal for me. I'd probably laugh at her. I'd be like "What, you don't trust me!? I make you uncomfortable?" Then I'd tickle her and chase her with a pillow or make some raunchy joke about trust and discomfort. Maybe she is interested in a little BDSM?
JasonRox
Jun16-09, 09:10 AM
Why are you blaming conversations such as that one on Canadians? Nonetheless, I can hereby swear I've never, ever engaged in a conversation such as the one penned by Jasonrox. Never, ever.
And I'm Canadian.
So.
Edited to add: on the "scheduling an appointment to 'ask questions'" issue, my answer is fairly straightforward. Run!
No, for serious, now. That's the equivalent of "we've got to talk". Poisonous words. I'd put my money on, "Where do you think this relationship is going?" and etc. Deep, heartfelt stuff that, jeez, I dunno. I'm female and all I can do without those conversations. Scheduled ones, I mean. The answers to Those Questions generally occur organically in comfortable relationships. I wish you luck, gravenewworld.
The conversation was actually inspired by Americans.
JasonRox
Jun16-09, 09:15 AM
"We need to talk" is usually bad.
My last gf who did this actually told me that she wanted me to write up a list of things that I felt we should talk about and that she would do the same. At first I was going to say **** it and not do it but then decided that she would only be upset and I would not hear the end of it all night. I actually filled a sheet of paper thinking that I was going to be cool and ask all of her questions for her and put the focus of the silly excersize squarely on her. Boy was I wrong. She actually typed up her own list which covered two pages and even found and printed out several of our e-mail conversations to use as reference material. When I saw this I simultaneously thought that she was crazy and that she was damn serious about making a case for breaking up with me, mostly to convince herself of course. I don't even know why I played along with that silly game.
Exactly why I don't think much when it comes to that kind of stuff.
Sometimes my girl gets jealous/insecure when I talk to other girls, but I never let it bother me. Sometimes she says something, but I usual comment is that... "That's your personal issue. That's something you have to work on, not me."
Moonbear
Jun16-09, 10:15 AM
If I understand correctly - you didn't want to be asked how many women have you slept with?
If a guy was asking that question, he's bound to be disappointed no matter what the answer is.
And, as male friends have pointed out, there is no right answer to that question when it's asked of them either. If the number is too low, she'll worry he's inexperienced or something is wrong with him. If the number is too high, she'll worry that he's just a player and not interested in any kind of relationship. If the number is somewhere in the middle, she'll worry he still might have feelings for one of them, or be cheating on her with someone.
What difference does it make how many? If someone asks that, be wary of why they want to know. The only information they really need to know is if you have or haven't slept with other people before, and if you have, did you always take precautions against STDs or get tested for them since then.
Vanadium 50
Jun16-09, 10:23 AM
And, as male friends have pointed out, there is no right answer to that question when it's asked of them either.
But there are wrong answers. e.g. "You mean at the same time?" would be one of them.
@OP:
So what she asked? :)
Shh, they are still talking.
Moonbear
Jun16-09, 04:18 PM
Shh, they are still talking.
Quick, get the glass up to the wall! Oh, wait, here's a stethoscope, even better! :biggrin:
Shh, they are still talking.
Oh that's a bad sign.
Picking baby names takes a while.
Moonbear
Jun16-09, 05:57 PM
Picking baby names takes a while.
:rofl: Poor guy. If he reads all this thread before she asks the "questions," he's going to be a nervous wreck and HOPING it's just that she wants to break up with him.
OAQfirst
Jun16-09, 06:01 PM
Once the sweating is over, GNW should invite her to this thread over a glass of wine and chicken fingers.
Math Is Hard
Jun16-09, 06:02 PM
Once the sweating is over, GNW should invite her to this thread over a glass of wine and chicken fingers.
or chicken fingers and grape juice, if she's expecting.
Moonbear
Jun16-09, 06:07 PM
or chicken fingers and grape juice, if she's expecting.
Perhaps she would prefer sparkling cider.
OAQfirst
Jun16-09, 06:22 PM
Ha! 'mkay, everyone. Let's get started planning the wedding ceremony. Is Fiji good this time of year?
Yeah, this thread is going places while he's away! :rofl::rofl::rofl:
Topher925
Jun16-09, 06:26 PM
I know what shes going to ask,
"Who is your daddy, and what does he do."
http://fraser.typepad.com/photos/uncategorized/moviepic010_1.jpg
I can take pictures at the wedding party, I have some experience.
DaveC426913
Jun16-09, 06:28 PM
Perhaps she would prefer sparkling cider.Maybe she'd like some Dicken's Cider.
OAQfirst
Jun16-09, 06:32 PM
I can take pictures at the wedding party, I have some experience.
Excellent. Do we have any judges or ordained ministers here? *rubs hands*
Math Is Hard
Jun16-09, 06:48 PM
Ha! 'mkay, everyone. Let's get started planning the wedding ceremony. Is Fiji good this time of year?
Yeah, this thread is going places while he's away! :rofl::rofl::rofl:
Fiji's ok, but if we're going that direction, I think Bora Bora would be more fun.
http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_x2ojGN0Gisw/Sh2epVoRkvI/AAAAAAAABQo/ktd6bRJdOD0/s400/Bora.jpg
Excellent. Do we have any judges or ordained ministers here? *rubs hands*
No idea, but Turbo can take care of music.
Moonbear
Jun16-09, 06:49 PM
Excellent. Do we have any judges or ordained ministers here? *rubs hands*
Don't know on that yet, but I think Pengwuino has a shotgun if it's needed. :biggrin:
JasonRox
Jun16-09, 07:06 PM
Who knows...
Maybe she wants to invite another girl into the mix!!!
Moonbear
Jun16-09, 07:15 PM
Who knows...
Maybe she wants to invite another girl into the mix!!!
You're such an optimist and hopeless romantic. :biggrin:
This just in, the babies name is Cyrus! (all three of them)
GeorginaS
Jun16-09, 10:57 PM
I'm getting anxious. Anyone know which timezone gravenewworld is in?
I'm getting anxious. Anyone know which timezone gravenewworld is in?
He's in Philedelphia, which is Eastern US time. Right now it's about 11:10 pm. It's been a long, long talk.
<lisab sends a throat lozenge to gnw>
Moonbear
Jun16-09, 11:36 PM
<lisab sends a throat lozenge to gnw>
Don't worry, he's not the one doing the talking. He's doing the listening, nodding, giving the occasional puzzled look, frowning, shaking his head in sympathy, nodding some more, cocking his head sideways not sure if he heard right, then nodding again. Hmm...he might need a neck brace more than a lozenge.
DaveC426913
Jun16-09, 11:39 PM
Don't worry, he's not the one doing the talking.Check that throat lozenge. Get 'im an ear lozenge.
Moonbear
Jun16-09, 11:40 PM
Check that throat lozenge. Get 'im an ear lozenge.
Yep, we'll send over an ice pack to cool those red ears.
JasonRox
Jun16-09, 11:40 PM
If he doesn't check it tomorrow, that can be BAD news. :eek:
I think he was asked if she looks fat.
Moonbear
Jun16-09, 11:44 PM
If he doesn't check it tomorrow, that can be BAD news. :eek:
They might be on the way to Vegas for the wedding.
mcknia07
Jun16-09, 11:51 PM
So, any word? How's the Convo going?
He's in Philedelphia, which is Eastern US time. Right now it's about 11:10 pm. It's been a long, long talk.
<lisab sends a throat lozenge to gnw>
gravenewworld posted from 6:33 PM to 7:04 PM pacific time, sparking intrigue that has spanned 26.5 hours. The man has talent. I hope he returns for curtain call. Er. What's the word?
mcknia07
Jun17-09, 12:12 AM
Eeek! This is getting intense.
Deep breaths everyone. HEEE HEEE HOOOOOOOOOoo HEE HEEE HOOOOOOOO.
Moonbear
Jun17-09, 12:30 AM
Deep breaths everyone. HEEE HEEE HOOOOOOOOOoo HEE HEEE HOOOOOOOO.
Oh, he has about 8 months left to learn that part. :devil:
Oh, he has about 8 months left to learn that part. :devil:
That's one conversation I never want to have with a woman. I can't imagine getting a girl pregnant that you don't like all that much to begin with.
gravenewworld
Jun17-09, 12:50 AM
Hahahah I'm back.
Ok first things first.
-She isn't my GF, we have just been hanging out together off an on for about 2 months. Last time we hung out I asked her "Are we dating or are we just friends?" to which she replied "I was going to ask you something but not anymore," and then left the car. That was one week ago. I was under the impression that we were just hanging out as friends, but everytime I do I can automatically sense that she is tense around me, like she is waiting for me to do something. There always seems to be these weird moments of awkwardness like times when we look each other in the eye and just smile at each other.
-Mon. I get the text on my phone "Ok I'm ready to ask you questions now and they aren't going to be like 'what is your favorite color?' type questions." That's when I posted on here.
-Got back from hanging out with her again. She asks the question "So if we were dating instead of just hanging out as friends, how would it be different?" Good move by her, puts the ball in my court. I replied after a long time of hesitation with brute honesty "Well if I knew we were going out on a date rather than just hanging out as friends I probably would have made the move on you a long time ago." Hahahah ball is back in her court.
-She smiles then says that she "wants to ask something else". The cat grabs here tongue however, and she can't spit out what she wants to ask. I told her "Just get it all out now, let's be 100% clear about where we are headed. Are we friends or something else?" She then says "I will ask you another time." And that was it. The game continues. I can't stand this 4th grade crap.
In all likelihood we will just be friends. She is moving back to her home country in 3 weeks so it wouldn't be worth it to pursue. I just wanted to get rid of the awkwardness and tension but it led to this game.
humanino
Jun17-09, 12:56 AM
...Once I did let the girl go "as a friend", very similar situation, to the extent that by the time she was about to leave, the tension was obvious. Once.
Hahahah I'm back.
Ok first things first.
-She isn't my GF, we have just been hanging out together off an on for about 2 months. Last time we hung out I asked her "Are we dating or are we just friends?" to which she replied "I was going to ask you something but not anymore," and then left the car. That was one week ago. I was under the impression that we were just hanging out as friends, but everytime I do I can automatically sense that she is tense around me, like she is waiting for me to do something. There always seems to be these weird moments of awkwardness like times when we look each other in the eye and just smile at each other.
-Mon. I get the text on my phone "Ok I'm ready to ask you questions now and they aren't going to be like 'what is your favorite color?' type questions." That's when I posted on here.
-Got back from hanging out with her again. She asks the question "So if we were dating instead of just hanging out as friends, how would it be different?" Good move by her, puts the ball in my court. I replied after a long time of hesitation with brute honesty "Well if I knew we were going out on a date rather than just hanging out as friends I probably would have made the move on you a long time ago." Hahahah ball is back in her court.
-She smiles then says that she "wants to ask something else". The cat grabs here tongue however, and she can't spit out what she wants to ask. I told her "Just get it all out now, let's be 100% clear about where we are headed. Are we friends or something else?" She then says "I will ask you another time." And that was it. The game continues. I can't stand this 4th grade crap.
In all likelihood we will just be friends. She is moving back to her home country in 3 weeks so it wouldn't be worth it to pursue. I just wanted to get rid of the awkwardness and tension but it led to this game.
What. This story doesn't end with a Cyrus Jr. I hate it. I hate you. Now I'm pissed!
Once I did let the girl go "as a friend", very similar situation, to the extent that by the time she was about to leave, the tension was obvious. Once.
Is that when you started beating her? <hiyooo>
humanino
Jun17-09, 01:03 AM
Is that when you started beating her? <hiyooo>No. That's when I started beating all the other ones.
No. That's when I started beating all the other ones.
AHAHHAH! Best reply ever! This is why the French are lovers. They know how to treat a woman - middle east style.
GeorginaS
Jun17-09, 01:05 AM
Thanks for reporting in, gravenewworld. As you can tell, we were intrigued. Or nosy.
I'd like to ask you a question, though. And I won't wait days and days to do so. Do you mind me asking how old you are? And if you don't mind, then how old are you?
Moonbear
Jun17-09, 01:27 AM
Thanks for reporting in, gravenewworld. As you can tell, we were intrigued. Or nosy.
I'd like to ask you a question, though. And I won't wait days and days to do so. Do you mind me asking how old you are? And if you don't mind, then how old are you?
That's two questions! :biggrin:
Gosh, I feel let down. What a lame ending to the story. I want my money back! :uhh:
Three weeks until she leaves the country...that puts a different spin on things. Yeah, not much point trying to move from dating with a little "d" to Dating with a capital "D." Maybe that's the problem...she wants it to be more but also realizes it's futile with the upcoming move. Still, if she can't spit it all out in one sitting, bleh, that's irritating.
Hahahah I'm back.
Ok first things first.
-She isn't my GF, we have just been hanging out together off an on for about 2 months. Last time we hung out I asked her "Are we dating or are we just friends?" to which she replied "I was going to ask you something but not anymore," and then left the car. That was one week ago. I was under the impression that we were just hanging out as friends, but everytime I do I can automatically sense that she is tense around me, like she is waiting for me to do something. There always seems to be these weird moments of awkwardness like times when we look each other in the eye and just smile at each other.
-Mon. I get the text on my phone "Ok I'm ready to ask you questions now and they aren't going to be like 'what is your favorite color?' type questions." That's when I posted on here.
-Got back from hanging out with her again. She asks the question "So if we were dating instead of just hanging out as friends, how would it be different?" Good move by her, puts the ball in my court. I replied after a long time of hesitation with brute honesty "Well if I knew we were going out on a date rather than just hanging out as friends I probably would have made the move on you a long time ago." Hahahah ball is back in her court.
-She smiles then says that she "wants to ask something else". The cat grabs here tongue however, and she can't spit out what she wants to ask. I told her "Just get it all out now, let's be 100% clear about where we are headed. Are we friends or something else?" She then says "I will ask you another time." And that was it. The game continues. I can't stand this 4th grade crap.
In all likelihood we will just be friends. She is moving back to her home country in 3 weeks so it wouldn't be worth it to pursue. I just wanted to get rid of the awkwardness and tension but it led to this game.
BORING! Should have made it more exciting :(..
P.S. How well you know her culture? That seems like( or could be) the main problem here.
What. This story doesn't end with a Cyrus Jr. I hate it. I hate you. Now I'm pissed!
So when is Humanino going to give you a baby critter, or don't pantsuits come in pregnant contours?
TheStatutoryApe
Jun17-09, 01:43 AM
In all likelihood we will just be friends. She is moving back to her home country in 3 weeks so it wouldn't be worth it to pursue. I just wanted to get rid of the awkwardness and tension but it led to this game.
Perhaps she is interested in possibly staying or returning. Possibly her decision making process here hinges in part on whether or not you are interested in a relationship. Which is very bad of course.
Or I could have the Jason Rox brand of optimism and suggest that she may want to have a 'special' night with you before she leaves, no strings attached.
TheStatutoryApe
Jun17-09, 01:44 AM
So when is Humanino going to give you a baby critter, or don't pantsuits come in pregnant contours?
Am I missing something or are you missing something?
Because I'm pretty sure Humanino can't get pregnant.
Hahahah I'm back.
Ok first things first.
-She isn't my GF, we have just been hanging out together off an on for about 2 months. Last time we hung out I asked her "Are we dating or are we just friends?" to which she replied "I was going to ask you something but not anymore," and then left the car. That was one week ago. I was under the impression that we were just hanging out as friends, but everytime I do I can automatically sense that she is tense around me, like she is waiting for me to do something. There always seems to be these weird moments of awkwardness like times when we look each other in the eye and just smile at each other.
-Mon. I get the text on my phone "Ok I'm ready to ask you questions now and they aren't going to be like 'what is your favorite color?' type questions." That's when I posted on here.
-Got back from hanging out with her again. She asks the question "So if we were dating instead of just hanging out as friends, how would it be different?" Good move by her, puts the ball in my court. I replied after a long time of hesitation with brute honesty "Well if I knew we were going out on a date rather than just hanging out as friends I probably would have made the move on you a long time ago." Hahahah ball is back in her court.
-She smiles then says that she "wants to ask something else". The cat grabs here tongue however, and she can't spit out what she wants to ask. I told her "Just get it all out now, let's be 100% clear about where we are headed. Are we friends or something else?" She then says "I will ask you another time." And that was it. The game continues. I can't stand this 4th grade crap.
In all likelihood we will just be friends. She is moving back to her home country in 3 weeks so it wouldn't be worth it to pursue. I just wanted to get rid of the awkwardness and tension but it led to this game.
Yours is by far the most akward relationship I've heard about. I don't mean unusual. It's just that nobody wants to talk about their most akward moments---it's seems just as akward to do so. I don't know how to tell you this, in this most austeer forum, but she's asking if you're going to try to have some sex with her. She's too shy. You are just as shy. You're both stuck. So unstick things. 'Shy' means you are vexed to petrification about how the other will think of you as a person.
She's trying to break the stagnation one way or the other, because as things are going, you're just making each other tense and on edge. You need to help. So now you have some thinking to do. Which way do you want to go? Do you want to move on to sex, or end it?
Am I missing something or are you missing something?
Because I'm pretty sure Humanino can't get pregnant.
I'm sure you know more than me Statutory. I'm the newbie here.
gravenewworld
Jun17-09, 02:06 AM
Thanks for reporting in, gravenewworld. As you can tell, we were intrigued. Or nosy.
I'd like to ask you a question, though. And I won't wait days and days to do so. Do you mind me asking how old you are? And if you don't mind, then how old are you?
26
BORING! Should have made it more exciting :(..
P.S. How well you know her culture? That seems like( or could be) the main problem here.
I know it pretty well, I've been to Thailand multiple times and I'm 50% Thai.
Perhaps she is interested in possibly staying or returning. Possibly her decision making process here hinges in part on whether or not you are interested in a relationship. Which is very bad of course.
Or I could have the Jason Rox brand of optimism and suggest that she may want to have a 'special' night with you before she leaves, no strings attached.
That's the thing, she says that she 'might' come back later to work some more here.
Yours is by far the most akward relationship I've heard about. I don't mean unusual. It's just that nobody wants to talk about their most akward moments---it's seems just as akward to do so. I don't know how to tell you this, in this most austeer forum, but she's asking if you're going to try to have some sex with her. She's too shy. You are just as shy. You're both stuck. So unstick things. 'Shy' means you are vexed to petrification about how the other will think of you as a person.
She's trying to break the stagnation one way or the other, because as things are going, you're just making each other tense and on edge. You need to help. So now you have some thinking to do. Which way do you want to go? Do you want to move on to sex, or end it?
Can I just have sex AND end it? :rofl:
TheStatutoryApe
Jun17-09, 02:11 AM
I'm sure you know more than me Statutory. I'm the newbie here.
Ha.. We're on a forum where the sex of the participants is not always obvious or subject of discussion. I was fairly certain that Humanino is male but I could be wrong since I have never asked. Humanino may be a lesbian or bisexual. ;-)
Ha.. We're on a forum where the sex of the participants is not always obvious or subject of discussion. I was fairly certain that Humanino is male but I could be wrong since I have never asked. Humanino may be a lesbian or bisexual. ;-)
It's worse, he's French.
TheStatutoryApe
Jun17-09, 02:15 AM
That's the thing, she says that she 'might' come back later to work some more here.
Well, unless you really like her I would suggest making sure she does not consider a possible relationship with you a factor in her returning. If she comes back or plans on returning because of you and things don't work out it could get problematic.
TheStatutoryApe
Jun17-09, 02:17 AM
It's worse, he's French.
Well I knew that. And you've been around about the same length of time as I have.
What a lame ending to the story. I want my money back! :uhh:
Exactly. Like in a Grisham book - perfect buildup of the tension and lousy ending.
What could the next question be? Can you help me get a green card?
she may want to have a 'special' night with you before she leaves, no strings attached.
Hm, in Polish strings mean thongs :smile:
humanino
Jun17-09, 08:07 AM
Hm, in Polish strings mean thongs :smile:In french too, an my (non-physicist) girlfriend would sometimes make fun of the titles on my bookshelf as a consequence.
I'm not a lesbian btw.
DaveC426913
Jun17-09, 09:27 AM
-Got back from hanging out with her again. She asks the question "So if we were dating instead of just hanging out as friends, how would it be different?" Good move by her, puts the ball in my court. I replied after a long time of hesitation with brute honesty "Well if I knew we were going out on a date rather than just hanging out as friends I probably would have made the move on you a long time ago." Hahahah ball is back in her court.
-She smiles then says that she "wants to ask something else". The cat grabs here tongue however, and she can't spit out what she wants to ask. I told her "Just get it all out now, let's be 100% clear about where we are headed. Are we friends or something else?" She then says "I will ask you another time." And that was it. The game continues. I can't stand this 4th grade crap.
In all likelihood we will just be friends. She is moving back to her home country in 3 weeks so it wouldn't be worth it to pursue. I just wanted to get rid of the awkwardness and tension but it led to this game.
OK, all seriousness aside, you know where she stands.
She wants to pursue dating (i.e. sex), but needs you to make the move (emotionally, if not necessarily physically).
It's not really "4th grade crap"; she's been pretty brave to play her hand, especially since she really can't tell how you feel.
And she knows she's moving back home in three weeks, she surely must be aware of what that would mean for your dating.
Astronuc
Jun17-09, 10:13 AM
OK, all seriousness aside, you know where she stands.
She wants to pursue dating (i.e. sex), but needs you to make the move (emotionally, if not necessarily physically). Wanting to date, or to have a more exclusive relationship, does not imply wanting to have sex, although that's where it may lead.
It's not really "4th grade crap"; she's been pretty brave to play her hand, especially since she really can't tell how you feel. I agree. She's being cautious. Perhaps she's a bit insecure about rejection. Certainly she's interested in a more exclusive relationship, otherwise why would she ask "So if we were dating instead of just hanging out as friends, how would it be different?" The answer should be obvious without asking. Dating implies a more intimate relationship, as opposed to just hanging out as platonic friends.
And she knows she's moving back home in three weeks, she surely must be aware of what that would mean for your dating. Not necessarily, although it certainly puts a damper on going out together. It depends on how far the separation.
In all likelihood we will just be friends. She is moving back to her home country in 3 weeks so it wouldn't be worth it to pursue. I just wanted to get rid of the awkwardness and tension but it led to this game. Well that does make an exclusive relationship more difficult, but not impossible, and dating or going out on dates would be restricted.
GeorginaS
Jun17-09, 10:18 AM
It seems to me that both of them are asking the question and neither one of them can bring themselves to step up to the plate and answer it. gravenewworld, if you'd like to know whether your relationship would/could morph into "dating" (however that word is defined in your vocabulary), then why didn't you just spit out your intentions and feelings and see how she responded to them?
GeorginaS
Jun17-09, 10:19 AM
That's two questions! :biggrin:
You're right. Apparently I learned how to count from a mutual friend. :wink:
DaveC426913
Jun17-09, 10:25 AM
Wanting to date, or to have a more exclusive relationship, does not imply wanting to have sex, although that's where it may lead.For adults, what is the difference between "hanging out as friends" and "dating" except for the intimate aspect?
I'll grant that actual sex isn't a foregone result, but surely sexual activity is.
In french too, an my (non-physicist) girlfriend would sometimes make fun of the titles on my bookshelf as a consequence.
I'm not a lesbian btw.
Thong theory...:rofl:
JasonRox
Jun17-09, 11:02 AM
OK, all seriousness aside, you know where she stands.
She wants to pursue dating (i.e. sex), but needs you to make the move (emotionally, if not necessarily physically).
It's not really "4th grade crap"; she's been pretty brave to play her hand, especially since she really can't tell how you feel.
And she knows she's moving back home in three weeks, she surely must be aware of what that would mean for your dating.
It's 4th grade crap in my opinion. I don't waste time on insecurity and lame issues like that. Then again, I also don't play the "ball in your court" game either.
I don't play games period. Just straight up this is what I want or how I feel. That's it.
If she can't express the way she feels only because she can't tell how he feels, that's lame. I hate how girls wait around like that.
JasonRox
Jun17-09, 11:10 AM
Hahahah I'm back.
Ok first things first.
-She isn't my GF, we have just been hanging out together off an on for about 2 months. Last time we hung out I asked her "Are we dating or are we just friends?" to which she replied "I was going to ask you something but not anymore," and then left the car. That was one week ago. I was under the impression that we were just hanging out as friends, but everytime I do I can automatically sense that she is tense around me, like she is waiting for me to do something. There always seems to be these weird moments of awkwardness like times when we look each other in the eye and just smile at each other.
-Mon. I get the text on my phone "Ok I'm ready to ask you questions now and they aren't going to be like 'what is your favorite color?' type questions." That's when I posted on here.
-Got back from hanging out with her again. She asks the question "So if we were dating instead of just hanging out as friends, how would it be different?" Good move by her, puts the ball in my court. I replied after a long time of hesitation with brute honesty "Well if I knew we were going out on a date rather than just hanging out as friends I probably would have made the move on you a long time ago." Hahahah ball is back in her court.
-She smiles then says that she "wants to ask something else". The cat grabs here tongue however, and she can't spit out what she wants to ask. I told her "Just get it all out now, let's be 100% clear about where we are headed. Are we friends or something else?" She then says "I will ask you another time." And that was it. The game continues. I can't stand this 4th grade crap.
In all likelihood we will just be friends. She is moving back to her home country in 3 weeks so it wouldn't be worth it to pursue. I just wanted to get rid of the awkwardness and tension but it led to this game.
You never made a move because?
I make moves like instantly even if it's not even clear it's a date. In fact, I never do dates. I just hang out, and the first time I hang out, I usually make a move.
Of course, I don't make a move on girls I hang out with that I don't like. Tension will be there on their part but not mine.
Have you kissed a girl before? Just curious.
/English clarification mode on
Can you explain what "making move" means in this context? I think I have a general idea, but details are blurred.
/English clarification mode off
JasonRox
Jun17-09, 11:35 AM
/English clarification mode on
Can you explain what "making move" means in this context? I think I have a general idea, but details are blurred.
/English clarification mode off
Kiss her. Grab her butt.
Hence, "make a sexual move"... shortened to "make a move".
JasonRox
Jun17-09, 11:36 AM
It's worse, he's French.
Huh, how does that make it worse?
"make a sexual move"... shortened to "make a move".
Thanx.
Gokul43201
Jun17-09, 12:14 PM
Grab her butt.I thought butt grabbing as a method of starting relationships lost popularity shortly after Theseus made the move on Hyppolyta.
I guess I was wrong.
gravenewworld
Jun17-09, 12:16 PM
You never made a move because?
I make moves like instantly even if it's not even clear it's a date. In fact, I never do dates. I just hang out, and the first time I hang out, I usually make a move.
Of course, I don't make a move on girls I hang out with that I don't like. Tension will be there on their part but not mine.
Have you kissed a girl before? Just curious.
Yes, of course I've kissed a girl before.
Why didn't I make a move before? I wasn't interested in her at first and was never under the impression that we were spending time together to lead to anything more than just friends.
TheStatutoryApe
Jun17-09, 12:45 PM
Huh, how does that make it worse?
You're right. Quebecois would be worse.
JasonRox
Jun17-09, 12:49 PM
You're right. Quebecois would be worse.
I don't get it.
Yep, statape is right. Quebecois is the worst. Way worse than French.
Astronuc
Jun17-09, 01:36 PM
I thought butt grabbing as a method of starting relationships lost popularity shortly after Theseus made the move on Hyppolyta. It's still popular among chimpanzees and baboons.
JasonRox
Jun17-09, 02:34 PM
Yes, of course I've kissed a girl before.
Why didn't I make a move before? I wasn't interested in her at first and was never under the impression that we were spending time together to lead to anything more than just friends.
But now you're thinking of having sex now. What's the problem now? Jeez.
What's the problem now?
/
But this message was too short.
Math Is Hard
Jun17-09, 03:57 PM
Yes, of course I've kissed a girl before.
Your Mom doesn't count, by the way. :wink:
Redbelly98
Jun17-09, 06:08 PM
-Got back from hanging out with her again. She asks the question "So if we were dating instead of just hanging out as friends, how would it be different?" Good move by her, puts the ball in my court. I replied after a long time of hesitation with brute honesty "Well if I knew we were going out on a date rather than just hanging out as friends I probably would have made the move on you a long time ago." Hahahah ball is back in her court.
-She smiles then says that she "wants to ask something else". The cat grabs here tongue however, and she can't spit out what she wants to ask. I told her "Just get it all out now, let's be 100% clear about where we are headed. Are we friends or something else?" She then says "I will ask you another time." And that was it. The game continues. I can't stand this 4th grade crap.
In all likelihood we will just be friends. She is moving back to her home country in 3 weeks so it wouldn't be worth it to pursue. I just wanted to get rid of the awkwardness and tension but it led to this game.
My take on this, all kidding aside, is that you have an opportunity for 3 weeks of romance with this woman, but probably nothing more. Only you can answer if you would want that, and then have it simply end.
Moonbear
Jun17-09, 06:56 PM
My take on this, all kidding aside, is that you have an opportunity for 3 weeks of romance with this woman, but probably nothing more. Only you can answer if you would want that, and then have it simply end.
Yeah, that's really how it looks to me too, and that's a tough call. Three weeks is enough time to get even more emotionally invested than either of you are now and make it harder on you both when it's time to say good-bye. That's probably what has her all tongue-tied too, the uncertainty of whether it's worth it. It sounds like she's gotten very attracted to you and wants to be more romantic, but is torn with the knowledge she's going to be leaving soon anyway. Which will be harder, regretting not doing anything or doing something and then ending it so soon after?
JasonRox
Jun17-09, 07:41 PM
Yeah, that's really how it looks to me too, and that's a tough call. Three weeks is enough time to get even more emotionally invested than either of you are now and make it harder on you both when it's time to say good-bye. That's probably what has her all tongue-tied too, the uncertainty of whether it's worth it. It sounds like she's gotten very attracted to you and wants to be more romantic, but is torn with the knowledge she's going to be leaving soon anyway. Which will be harder, regretting not doing anything or doing something and then ending it so soon after?
Why not having a romantic fling? I think he should man up and have some romance and stop playing the "ball in your court" attitude. It's a huge turn off for both sexes.
If he's not interested in romance, he should drop it and just continue as it's going.
Sounds like she was waiting for a move and he never made it.
GeorginaS
Jun17-09, 09:53 PM
I thought butt grabbing as a method of starting relationships lost popularity shortly after Theseus made the move on Hyppolyta.
I guess I was wrong.
No you weren't wrong.
GeorginaS
Jun17-09, 09:54 PM
If she can't express the way she feels only because she can't tell how he feels, that's lame. I hate how girls wait around like that.
Why are you focusing on the young lady, JasonRox? By gravenewworld's own description, he's doing precisely the same thing.
JasonRox
Jun17-09, 10:32 PM
Why are you focusing on the young lady, JasonRox? By gravenewworld's own description, he's doing precisely the same thing.
Exactly, I commented on that too.
Huckleberry
Jun18-09, 02:19 AM
Can I just have sex AND end it? :rofl:
Yes. I think that's the move she wants you to make.
Huckleberry
Jun18-09, 02:39 AM
It's 4th grade crap in my opinion. I don't waste time on insecurity and lame issues like that. Then again, I also don't play the "ball in your court" game either.
I don't play games period. Just straight up this is what I want or how I feel. That's it.
If she can't express the way she feels only because she can't tell how he feels, that's lame. I hate how girls wait around like that.
I agree with you, but keep in mind she is from Thailand. Cultural differences may dictate her responses.
GNW, I don't know about grabbing butts, but if you are interested in a more physical relationship then you have to initiate more physical contact. It could be something as simple as putting your arm around her shoulders as you walk, or touching her leg while you're sitting down talking. If she doesn't reject it and reciprocates with the same kind of touching then you got nothing to worry about. Invite her over to your place and things will work themselves out just fine. Invade her personal space and see if she is comfortable with it. Be an intelligent caveman.
Moonbear
Jun18-09, 09:31 AM
I agree with you, but keep in mind she is from Thailand. Cultural differences may dictate her responses.
GNW, I don't know about grabbing butts, but if you are interested in a more physical relationship then you have to initiate more physical contact. It could be something as simple as putting your arm around her shoulders as you walk, or touching her leg while you're sitting down talking. If she doesn't reject it and reciprocates with the same kind of touching then you got nothing to worry about. Invite her over to your place and things will work themselves out just fine. Invade her personal space and see if she is comfortable with it. Be an intelligent caveman.
This is MUCH better advice than grabbing her butt. If someone thinks grabbing a woman's butt is "making a move," then I'm surprised he still has teeth unless he's all talk and no action.
mcknia07
Jun18-09, 10:29 AM
I agree with you, but keep in mind she is from Thailand. Cultural differences may dictate her responses.
GNW, I don't know about grabbing butts, but if you are interested in a more physical relationship then you have to initiate more physical contact. It could be something as simple as putting your arm around her shoulders as you walk, or touching her leg while you're sitting down talking. If she doesn't reject it and reciprocates with the same kind of touching then you got nothing to worry about. Invite her over to your place and things will work themselves out just fine. Invade her personal space and see if she is comfortable with it. Be an intelligent caveman.
This is the best advise I think I have heard here! Butt grabbing, I think, makes a lady feel like a piece of meat. Not always the greatest feeling.
I don't think Jason was serious about butt grabbing, I think it was just a blatant example in answer to my question.
I can be wrong though.
ViewsofMars
Jun18-09, 11:12 AM
My opinion as a mature woman is *if* the man is a fantastic, awesome experienced kisser then there isn't a problem with him grabbing each cheek while kissing.:approve: I have to admit the kiss for me will determine the physical and mental bliss.
ViewsofMars
Jun18-09, 11:40 AM
What could she possibly have in store for me? She has been 'waiting for a week' to ask me these questions. God women drive me insane sometimes with these games and on edge stuff. Now I'm nervous about what she is going to ask.
Dear OP gravenewworld, my advice for you is be yourself and don't let any female cause you major stress. Be comfortable with who you are and be true to yourself above all else. If someone causes you stress try your best to temporarily avoid them if possible. I realize this isn't always possible but if a female doesn't make you feel relaxed or vice versa then take a break from the individual.
Remember each female is unique and so it is with each male. Everyone has their likes and dislikes. Basically, we are each our own person.
Here's a good article for you to read about the Human Brain - Stress:
http://www.fi.edu/learn/brain/stress.html
don't let any female cause you major stress
Easier said than done.
ViewsofMars
Jun18-09, 11:55 AM
Easier said than done.
Are you married? (tee hee). Just kidding.
Thanks Borek. On a serious note, you are right. I've earlier experienced that here on another topic. I've yet to see an apology by another person. However, this won't deter me from my goals nor will it prevent me from moving onward. I march to my own tunes.
There's always music in the air for me. I've been writing poetry since I was 9 yrs old. Last night I wrote my first haiku.
I cried,
I sang,
the day ended
on that note. :)
JasonRox
Jun18-09, 01:50 PM
This is MUCH better advice than grabbing her butt. If someone thinks grabbing a woman's butt is "making a move," then I'm surprised he still has teeth unless he's all talk and no action.
Haha!
I wasn't being serious. LOL.
With the current girl I'm with, I started by simply touching her hand. She's from Hong Kong. So that in itself is a sign of affection... of course it escalated from there... and grabbed her butt later. :wink:
I even asked her what's typical for romance in China. That's how I got passed the cultural barrier and as well as she knows mine. She told me she loved me after two weeks. But really in China, that only means she really likes you. That's it. If I wouldn't have known and would have been a typical Westener, I would have been like... TOO FAST. Haha.
ViewsofMars
Jun18-09, 02:31 PM
If I wouldn't have known and would have been a typical Westener, I would have been like... TOO FAST. Haha.
A typical Westerner? Fortunately, I've never associated with an American man that was 'too fast'. Aren't you sterotyping men in general that are Westeners? Just wondering. :smile:
cepheid
Jun18-09, 03:49 PM
A typical Westerner? Fortunately, I've never associated with an American man that was 'too fast'. Aren't you sterotyping men in general that are Westeners? Just wondering. :smile:
You misread what he was saying. He was saying that if he hadn't known about this difference in "terminology", then he would have reacted like a typical Westerner by regarding the female's development of love/emotional attachment to him in only two weeks to have been far too fast.
ViewsofMars
Jun18-09, 04:52 PM
You misread what he was saying. He was saying that if he hadn't known about this difference in "terminology", then he would have reacted like a typical Westerner by regarding the female's development of love/emotional attachment to him in only two weeks to have been far too fast.
Thanks cepheid. How do you know for sure what Jason meant? Perhaps you misinterpreted my previous comment. My aim was to bring attention to the phrase "typical Westerner". That phrase is considered to be sterotyping a person or a group. I, myself, don't like sterotyping people. An example would be saying "Rich people are snobs." That is a sweeping generalization, labeling all rich people. It can be a very dangerous thought if you're at a science fund raising event that brings in 10 million dollars within a matter of three hours.:wink:
I think it better so say *some* Westerners may regard such and such, but I would hesitate using the word "typical Westerner'.
I hope I've clarified my position. :smile:
Moonbear
Jun18-09, 05:59 PM
Haha!
I wasn't being serious. LOL.
Good to know. When folks are coming to PF to ask for relationship advice, it's probably best to be very clear on these things so we don't send someone off grabbing women's butts and thinking that's the way to start a relationship. :rofl:
JasonRox
Jun18-09, 06:06 PM
Good to know. When folks are coming to PF to ask for relationship advice, it's probably best to be very clear on these things so we don't send someone off grabbing women's butts and thinking that's the way to start a relationship. :rofl:
Well for most guys that come here, they would have a better shot at getting a girl doing that compared to what they normally do (which is nothing at all).
JasonRox
Jun18-09, 06:07 PM
Thanks cepheid. How do you know for sure what Jason meant? Perhaps you misinterpreted my previous comment. My aim was to bring attention to the phrase "typical Westerner". That phrase is considered to be sterotyping a person or a group. I, myself, don't like sterotyping people. An example would be saying "Rich people are snobs." That is a sweeping generalization, labeling all rich people. It can be a very dangerous thought if you're at a science fund raising event that brings in 10 million dollars within a matter of three hours.:wink:
I think it better so say *some* Westerners may regard such and such, but I would hesitate using the word "typical Westerner'.
I hope I've clarified my position. :smile:
I'm sorry but I did describe the typical Westener.
Just like saying the typical Chinese girl is shy. Or the typical Chinese person has "squinted" eyes. Or would you rather I say... some Chinese people have "squinted" eyes. :rolleyes:
mcknia07
Jun18-09, 09:37 PM
Well for most guys that come here, they would have a better shot at getting a girl doing that compared to what they normally do (which is nothing at all).
LOL, that is true. Most guys just need to learn to open up and take a chance. :biggrin: I've learned that so many guys are too shy, but to be totally honest, it makes them slightly cuter! **just a little tip of the day from a fellow female** (if it's the right amount of both, LOL)
ViewsofMars
Jun18-09, 10:46 PM
I'm sorry but I did describe the typical Westener.
Just like saying the typical Chinese girl is shy. Or the typical Chinese person has "squinted" eyes. Or would you rather I say... some Chinese people have "squinted" eyes. :rolleyes:
Jason, you needn't be sorry. Yes, you did earlier describe your viewpoint of what a 'typical Westener' does. It was a sweeping generalization, labeling a group of people. Why? I'm sure you are aware that Westerner's (Americans) include many nationalities inclusive of Chinese people. In my opinion you were sterotyping a group of people though I don't think you realized it. (It not your fault if you don't know better.) I'm interested in this type of information. So I will let you read what I have located on PubMed. You can read the whole article though I've only present a small quote from A developmental intergroup theory of social stereotypes and prejudice. by Bigler RS, Liben LS., Department of Psychology, University of Texas at Austin, Austin, Texas 78712, USA.
The act of categorization then triggers the process of social stereotyping and prejudice formation. Four factors are hypothesized to have an impact on the processes of forming stereotypes and prejudice. These include: (1) essentialism, (2) ingroup bias, (3) explicit attributions to social groups, and (4) group-attribute covariation..
Thanks. I'm learning. Hope you are too. :smile:
GeorginaS
Jun18-09, 10:53 PM
A typical Westerner? Fortunately, I've never associated with an American man that was 'too fast'. Aren't you sterotyping men in general that are Westeners? Just wondering. :smile:
You misread what he was saying. He was saying that if he hadn't known about this difference in "terminology", then he would have reacted like a typical Westerner by regarding the female's development of love/emotional attachment to him in only two weeks to have been far too fast.
Thanks cepheid. How do you know for sure what Jason meant?
I think cepheid knew for sure what Jasonrox meant because that's what Jasonrox wrote.
ViewsofMars
Jun18-09, 11:16 PM
I'm sorry but I did describe the typical Westener.
Just like saying the typical Chinese girl is shy. Or the typical Chinese person has "squinted" eyes. Or would you rather I say... some Chinese people have "squinted" eyes. :rolleyes:
Jason, you needn't be sorry. Yes, you did earlier describe your viewpoint of what a 'typical Westener' does. You said, "If I wouldn't have known and would have been a typical Westener, I would have been like... TOO FAST. Haha." It was a sweeping generalization, labeling a group of people. Why? I'm sure you are aware that Westerner's (Americans) include many nationalities inclusive of Chinese people. In my opinion you were sterotyping a group of people though I don't think you realized it. (It's not your fault if you don't know better. Or if someone fails to bring it to your attention because they aren't aware of it themself.) I'm interested in this type of information. So I will let you read what I have located on PubMed. You can read the whole article though I've only presented a small quote from A developmental intergroup theory of social stereotypes and prejudice. by Bigler RS, Liben LS., Department of Psychology, University of Texas at Austin, Austin, Texas 78712, USA.
The act of categorization then triggers the process of social stereotyping and prejudice formation. Four factors are hypothesized to have an impact on the processes of forming stereotypes and prejudice. These include: (1) essentialism, (2) ingroup bias, (3) explicit attributions to social groups, and (4) group-attribute covariation.
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/17120802?ordinalpos=1&itool=EntrezSystem2.PEntrez.Pubmed.Pubmed_ResultsP anel.Pubmed_DiscoveryPanel.Pubmed_Discovery_RA&linkpos=2&log$=relatedreviews&logdbfrom=pubmed
Thanks. I'm learning. Hope you are too. Bye the way, their is a Chinese couple with two daughters under 15. Believe me they aren't shy. None of the kids in my neighborhood are shy.
p.s. I had to redo this because I forgot to put in the link. And a quote of Jasons and a few more lines. I've highlighted some of them in red. Thanks. I appologize for any inconvenience. I'm still a newbie here. :)
Jasonrox hates black people.
TheStatutoryApe
Jun18-09, 11:28 PM
Jasonrox hates black people.
Yeah I hear that's where the KKK comes from, those damned Kanadians are so racist.
JasonRox
Jun18-09, 11:29 PM
Jasonrox hates black people.
That racist jerk.
JasonRox
Jun18-09, 11:33 PM
Jason, you needn't be sorry. Yes, you did earlier describe your viewpoint of what a 'typical Westener' does. You said, "If I wouldn't have known and would have been a typical Westener, I would have been like... TOO FAST. Haha." It was a sweeping generalization, labeling a group of people. Why? I'm sure you are aware that Westerner's (Americans) include many nationalities inclusive of Chinese people. In my opinion you were sterotyping a group of people though I don't think you realized it. (It not your fault if you don't know better.) I'm interested in this type of information. So I will let you read what I have located on PubMed. You can read the whole article though I've only presented a small quote from A developmental intergroup theory of social stereotypes and prejudice. by Bigler RS, Liben LS., Department of Psychology, University of Texas at Austin, Austin, Texas 78712, USA.
Thanks. I'm learning. Hope you are too.
p.s. I had to redo this because I forgot to put in the link. And a quote of Jasons. I've highlighted them in red. Thanks. I appologize for any inconvenience. I'm still a newbie here. :)
http://quickfacts.census.gov/qfd/states/00000.html
Um... the typical American is Black or White. Look at the stats. Less than 5% are Asian.
It's a typical Westener and I stand by that. Sorry, but that 5% is not typical. Stereotype or not.
So does that mean you'd feel insulted if a girl assumed you had a penis (or reverse if your female)? According to you, saying that males have penises is a stereotype since some don't because we don't see in their pants... could be disguised female or some psychological issues... who knows.
I guess your right. We should have a politically word for "male" and "female" that doesn't stereotype on body parts and appearance or something.
TheStatutoryApe
Jun18-09, 11:35 PM
http://quickfacts.census.gov/qfd/states/00000.html
Um... the typical American is Black or White. Look at the stats. Less than 5% are Asian.
It's a typical Westener and I stand by that. Sorry, but that 5% is not typical. Stereotype or not.
So does that mean you'd feel insulted if a girl assumed you had a penis (or reverse if your female)? According to you, saying that males have penises is a stereotype since some don't.
That's rather racist of you to imply that asians are not normal Jason.
JasonRox
Jun18-09, 11:38 PM
That's rather racist of you to imply that asians are not normal Jason.
That made me laugh.
http://quickfacts.census.gov/qfd/states/00000.html
Um... the typical American is Black or White. Look at the stats. Less than 5% are Asian.
It's a typical Westener and I stand by that. Sorry, but that 5% is not typical. Stereotype or not.
So does that mean you'd feel insulted if a girl assumed you had a penis (or reverse if your female)? According to you, saying that males have penises is a stereotype since some don't because we don't see in their pants... could be disguised female or some psychological issues... who knows.
I guess your right. We should have a politically word for "male" and "female" that doesn't stereotype on body parts and appearance or something.
I can't believe you're equating physical differences based on gender, to personality differences based on race...I must be misunderstanding you. Can you clarify, please?
DaveC426913
Jun18-09, 11:43 PM
Um... the typical American is Black or White. Look at the stats. Less than 5% are Asian.
So, 81% white, 13% black and the remainder um, yellow?
So the typical American's color is #D8D8C9.
:biggrin:
JasonRox
Jun18-09, 11:45 PM
LOL, that is true. Most guys just need to learn to open up and take a chance. :biggrin: I've learned that so many guys are too shy, but to be totally honest, it makes them slightly cuter! **just a little tip of the day from a fellow female** (if it's the right amount of both, LOL)
Are you shy yourself? Are you capable of walking up to a stranger and chatting up with them?
I'm completely open with any topic. I'll complete strangers just about anything within minutes of meeting them from sexual questions, politics, religion and everything people consider inapropriate. I never had a problem so far. So, definitely not shy.
Personally, I'm scared of shy people. They never speak. What are they thinking? I find that shy people are more on the violent side compared to most people I meet. I find that once you get to know them well they are more likely to get frustrated and/or angry. So that scares me cause I never know what's going on in their head because they very infrequently express themselves.
The girl I'm dating is shy but not extremely shy and hasn't been shy around me so far. When she met my parents, she put good effort to try and strike conversations with me family. Something which most shy people wouldn't do. My family was impressed. Brings her value up for sure because she's not using her shyness as a reason for being quiet. I think people who are shy use their shyness as a cop out for actually conversing and expressing themselves and just can't face the smallest of fear... talking.
GeorginaS
Jun18-09, 11:45 PM
So, 81% white, 13% black and the remainder um, yellow?
So the typical American's color is #D8D8C9.
:biggrin:
:rofl:
JasonRox
Jun18-09, 11:46 PM
I can't believe you're equating physical differences based on gender, to personality differences based on race...I must be misunderstanding you. Can you clarify, please?
Haha, it's all a joke to just be stupid.
JasonRox
Jun18-09, 11:47 PM
So, 81% white, 13% black and the remainder um, yellow?
So the typical American's color is #D8D8C9.
:biggrin:
Should we update the wiki file?
I guess your right. We should have a politically word for "male" and "female" that doesn't stereotype on body parts and appearance or something.
Sexist. That's female and male. Female first.
And, Uuuuh. We do, and you are indoctrinated. Men and women are 'male' and 'female' to be politically correct--but apparently this was not pollitically correct enough. 'Cause now we are also to consider gender preference.
JasonRox
Jun19-09, 12:06 AM
Sexist. That's female and male. Female first.
And, Uuuuh. We do, and you are indoctrinated. Men and women are 'male' and 'female' to be politically correct--but apparently this was not pollitically correct enough. 'Cause now we are also to consider gender preference.
Female first?
I think you're sexist too.
Moonbear
Jun19-09, 12:09 AM
So, 81% white, 13% black and the remainder um, yellow?
So the typical American's color is #D8D8C9.
:biggrin:
:rofl: *holds arm up to Dave's color swatch* Hmm...I just KNEW I was atypical. Ask me again in winter, I think I might be more typical then. :biggrin:
JasonRox
Jun19-09, 12:18 AM
:rofl: *holds arm up to Dave's color swatch* Hmm...I just KNEW I was atypical. Ask me again in winter, I think I might be more typical then. :biggrin:
During the winter, I can hide in the photocopy room and no one can find me.
mcknia07
Jun19-09, 01:09 AM
Are you shy yourself? Are you capable of walking up to a stranger and chatting up with them?
I have my shy moments, but I am far from being shy anymore. It helps to be a totally random person and work where ones sees over 500+ people on any given day.
GeorginaS
Jun19-09, 01:13 AM
[QUOTE=JasonRox;2243048]Are you shy yourself? Are you capable of walking up to a stranger and chatting up with them?
I have my shy moments, but I am far from being shy anymore. It helps to be a totally random person and work where ones sees over 500+ people on any given day.
I've always wanted to be a totally random person. :smile:
mcknia07
Jun19-09, 01:16 AM
It's really not hard :biggrin: just try it sometime!
Moonbear
Jun19-09, 01:17 AM
I've always wanted to be a totally random person. :smile:
Ooh, maybe that would mean you could pick a totally random number too. Where'd that thread go? :biggrin:
Me and my crew, challenge you and your crew, to a game of basketball.
TheStatutoryApe
Jun19-09, 01:48 AM
http://img5.allocine.fr/acmedia/medias/nmedia/18/36/35/66/18629180.jpg
GAME, BLOUSES
http://vicariousmusic.com/wp-content/uploads/2007/07/_dave_chappelle_as_prince.jpg
Huckleberry
Jun19-09, 02:08 AM
These threads are so ridiculous. I love it!
So where is GNW with the update?
gravenewworld
Jun19-09, 02:47 AM
These threads are so ridiculous. I love it!
So where is GNW with the update?
Not much to update. We are going to the beach on Tue. for the day.
Like I said, I'm probably not going to pursue. We will just be friends. I'm not gonna get involved with someone who is moving away in 3 weeks.
Sorry, I know it is anticlimactic.
GeorginaS
Jun19-09, 02:56 AM
Not much to update. We are going to the beach on Tue. for the day.
Like I said, I'm probably not going to pursue. We will just be friends. I'm not gonna get involved with someone who is moving away in 3 weeks.
Sorry, I know it is anticlimactic.
Truly, I don't know how this could not have been.
Glad you didn't get squashed.
GeorginaS
Jun19-09, 02:57 AM
http://img5.allocine.fr/acmedia/medias/nmedia/18/36/35/66/18629180.jpg
That is a superior picture!
http://img5.allocine.fr/acmedia/medias/nmedia/18/36/35/66/18629180.jpg
Hm, typical westerners I would say.
GeorginaS
Jun19-09, 03:53 AM
Hm, typical westerners I would say.
Careful, you'll be characterised as stereotyping people too, Borek! :wink: But maybe you'll be lucky enough to learn something.
I have already learnt that grabbing a butt is making a move.
GeorginaS
Jun19-09, 10:40 AM
This thread was a grand success, then.
DaveC426913
Jun19-09, 10:49 AM
http://img5.allocine.fr/acmedia/medias/nmedia/18/36/35/66/18629180.jpg
Hm, typical westerners I would say.
OK, imagine the above pic with all the human flesh PhotoShopped to be a light grey.
That's what you would be looking at if not for an unfortunately-timed Blue-Screen-of-Death. :cry:
I could not decide between westerners and westsiders. Light gray won't change a thing - apart from some stills I have never seen them in color :smile:
ViewsofMars
Jun19-09, 03:38 PM
Hm, typical westerners I would say.
Really? The image (jpg) that you were looking at in your post is from France, which is the same one that DaveC426913 has presented on this page. Also, the shoes aren't what you would see on males today in the United States of America (Westerners) that are going to play basketball. The shoes are infact very outdated even in France.
I'll resume my posting to other responses to me later. :smile:Thanks.
Really? The image (jpg) that you were looking at in your post is from France, which is the same one that DaveC426913 has presented on this page. Also, the shoes aren't what you would see on males today in the United States of America (Westerners) that are going to play basketball. The shoes are infact very outdated even in France.
I'll resume my posting to other responses to me later. :smile:Thanks.
Well Borek is European...surely he meant Western European.
ViewsofMars
Jun19-09, 03:53 PM
Well Borek is European...surely he meant Western European.
How do you *surely* know what he would say? But thank you, for telling me he is European.:biggrin: You have given me some more added food for thought, which I had been thinking about. I truly appreciate your help. Critical thinking is real fun. I would hope that members can speak for him/her self without help, especially if they are a PF Contributor, Homework Helper, and Science Advisor as is Borek.
Thanks!
GeorginaS
Jun19-09, 04:06 PM
Really? The image (jpg) that you were looking at in your post is from France, which is the same one that DaveC426913 has presented on this page. Also, the shoes aren't what you would see on males today in the United States of America (Westerners) that are going to play basketball. The shoes are infact very outdated even in France.
I'll resume my posting to other responses to me later. :smile:Thanks.
Um, isn't the picture from the movie West Side Story, which is set in New York in the 1950s? How did France get into this?
ViewsofMars
Jun19-09, 04:36 PM
GeorginaS, I don't know for certain if the image (picture) is from the movie West Side Story. I do know for a fact as I mentioned within your posting that image (jpg) that Bjork was looking at is from France. I know it because I saw the image when it first appeared to this topic and saw from logging on the poster's usage denoting the jpg. It is
http://img5.allocine.fr/acmedia/medias/nmedia/18/36/35/66/18629180.jpg
The image is coming from France. Do a search for allocine.fr. TheStatutoryApe was the original poster of the image. (#218).
GeorginaS, I don't know for certain if the image (picture) is from the movie West Side Story. I do know for a fact as I mentioned within your posting that image (jpg) that Bjork was looking at is from France. I know it because I saw the image when it first appeared to this topic and saw from logging on the poster's usage denoting the jpg. It is
http://img5.allocine.fr/acmedia/medias/nmedia/18/36/35/66/18629180.jpg
The image is coming from France. Do a search for allocine.fr.
Who's Bjork?
ViewsofMars
Jun19-09, 04:50 PM
Who's Bjork?
I'm sorry Lisa. It's Borek. I was talking to my friend while typing and her last name is Bjork. Sorry about that! :biggrin:
GeorginaS
Jun19-09, 05:33 PM
GeorginaS, I don't know for certain if the image (picture) is from the movie West Side Story. I do know for a fact as I mentioned within your posting that image (jpg) that Bjork was looking at is from France. I know it because I saw the image when it first appeared to this topic and saw from logging on the poster's usage denoting the jpg. It is
http://img5.allocine.fr/acmedia/medias/nmedia/18/36/35/66/18629180.jpg
The image is coming from France. Do a search for allocine.fr. TheStatutoryApe was the original poster of the image. (#218).
Okay then, allow me to clear it up for you then, ViewsofMars. The image is a screen still from the movie West Side Story that is set in New York City in the 1950s.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/West_Side_Story
That the image is posted on a French webserver does not mean the image is of Europeans.
Bjork... that's something new. Sometimes I am being shortened to Bore.
To end all guessing - yes, westerner was a lame joke aiming at West Side Story.
Hm. While typing this post my finger slipped and I wrote "somethong". Like in "she was wearing only somethong".
Bjork... that's something new. Sometimes I am being shortened to Bore.
To end all guessing - yes, westerner was a lame joke aiming at West Side Story.
Hm. While typing this post my finger slipped and I wrote "somethong". Like in "she was wearing only somethong".
:rofl:
United States of America (Westerners)
You've said this several times, and I feel I should pick you up on it: the term 'westerner' does not mean someone from the USA!
Redbelly98
Jun19-09, 07:44 PM
Um, isn't the picture from the movie West Side Story, which is set in New York in the 1950s? How did France get into this?
Aren't you overgeneralizing? West Side Story was set during the mid 1950's, so to say that it characterizes the entire decade is stereotyping.
:biggrin: :biggrin: :biggrin:
Math Is Hard
Jun19-09, 07:49 PM
I've got that song from "The King and I" stuck in my head now:
Western People Funny!
Western People Funny!
Western People Funny!
Too funny to be true!
GeorginaS
Jun19-09, 08:18 PM
Aren't you overgeneralizing? West Side Story was set during the mid 1950's, so to say that it characterizes the entire decade is stereotyping.
:biggrin: :biggrin: :biggrin:
Oh goodness, you're right! I'm positively red-faced now.
:biggrin:
Moonbear
Jun19-09, 08:46 PM
You've said this several times, and I feel I should pick you up on it: the term 'westerner' does not mean someone from the USA!
Sure it does...that's what we call those people out west, you know, there's the midwest, then the west west where westerners live. :biggrin: :tongue:
Redbelly98
Jun19-09, 08:59 PM
Sure it does...that's what we call those people out west, you know, there's the midwest, then the west west where westerners live. :biggrin: :tongue:
But there are more people farther west of those westerners. What do we call them?
But there are more people farther west of those westerners. What do we call them?
Easterners?
Moonbear
Jun19-09, 09:18 PM
But there are more people farther west of those westerners. What do we call them?
Wet. :biggrin:
JasonRox
Jun20-09, 08:52 AM
But there are more people farther west of those westerners. What do we call them?
WHOA! I never thought of that.
We just deduced that the entire planet consists of Westerners!
And if we use the same principle for Easterners and we get the entire planet consists of Easterners too!
So so that means...
Easterner = Westerner
... typing scientific paper right now.
Redbelly98
Jun20-09, 10:20 AM
I'm working on a similar idea for northerners and southerners, but have hit a snag in that derivation.
I am not sure I get it. Westerner is obviously someone from the west. But is easterner someone from the east, or from the Eastern? If the latter, every westerner is an easterner once a year.
Redbelly98
Jun20-09, 11:08 AM
I am not sure I get it. Westerner is obviously someone from the west. But is easterner someone from the east, or from the Eastern? If the latter, every westerner is an easterner once a year.
Hi Borek, I think your joke lost its meaning in translation. What does "from the Eastern" mean? (And if you are really trying to ask a question, an easterner is someone from the east.)
Moonbear
Jun20-09, 11:12 AM
Darn unintended consequences of knocking down the Berlin Wall. Everyone used to know exactly where the East ended and the West started. :rolleyes:
Hi Borek, I think your joke lost its meaning in translation. What does "from the Eastern" mean? (And if you are really trying to ask a question, an easterner is someone from the east.)
I am just an idiot from the East.
I meant Easter, not Eastern.
GeorginaS
Jun20-09, 11:37 AM
I am just an idiot from the East.
I meant Easter, not Eastern.
"Easter" as in: chocolate eggs and bunny rabbits and baby chicks and whatnot? (Or the story of Jesus rising from the dead, depending on your perspective of "Easter".)
"Easter" as in: chocolate eggs and bunny rabbits and baby chicks and whatnot? (Or the story of Jesus rising from the dead, depending on your perspective of "Easter".)
Are you trying to stereotype me?
Reagrdless of perspective, can we agree that Easter happens once a year?
russ_watters
Jun20-09, 12:10 PM
But there are more people farther west of those westerners. What do we call them? Hawaiians.
Moonbear
Jun20-09, 12:12 PM
Reagrdless of perspective, can we agree that Easter happens once a year?
Depends...are you Roman Catholic or Greek Orthodox? :biggrin:
Stereotyping again...
I am neither.
"Easter" as in: chocolate eggs and bunny rabbits and baby chicks and whatnot? (Or the story of Jesus rising from the dead, depending on your perspective of "Easter".)
Or maybe Easter as in, "When you're in London, Moscow is Easter than Amsterdam."
http://www.trojanwire.com/images/07_jhenderson_01.jpg
mcknia07
Jun20-09, 03:44 PM
I'm kinda is the same spot as GNW. I have this guy friend that I really like but he I'd moving away in a few months. Tho, he did make a comment that he would fly me down to see him sometimes, but he was slightly drunk, soooo....I don't know, in my experiences, drunk people tend to tell the truth. I think I will try and see where it all goes :biggrin:
GeorginaS
Jun20-09, 03:50 PM
Cyrus: What's your point?
I'm kinda is the same spot as GNW. I have this guy friend that I really like but he I'd moving away in a few months. Tho, he did make a comment that he would fly me down to see him sometimes, but he was slightly drunk, soooo....I don't know, in my experiences, drunk people tend to tell the truth. I think I will try and see where it all goes :biggrin:
I think you should schedule a time with said fellow, mcknia, to ask him questions and then report back to us how it goes.
Cyrus: What's your point?
I think its a nice picture.
Huckleberry
Jun20-09, 04:26 PM
I think its a nice picture. I think she needs someone to teach her how to tie a proper square knot.
Or maybe Easter as in, "When you're in London, Moscow is Easter than Amsterdam."
Or maybe easter as in eaters and a teaser in a seater
JasonRox
Jun20-09, 04:51 PM
http://www.trojanwire.com/images/07_jhenderson_01.jpg
What's wrong with her nose?
Nice? Nothing special really.
What's wrong with her nose?
Nice? Nothing special really.
I didn't ask you for your opinion. Now go away and let me enjoy this fine picture. Every time someone posts in this thread, I scroll up and watch the picture instead of reading the posts.
Moonbear
Jun20-09, 05:26 PM
http://www.trojanwire.com/images/07_jhenderson_01.jpg
Wow, talk about BLATANT photoshopping! Terrible that emaciated women don't have any curves without photo-editing, huh? :tongue:
Wow Cyrus. Now you won't have to scroll up so far.
Redbelly98
Jun20-09, 05:36 PM
I'm kinda is the same spot as GNW. I have this guy friend that I really like but he I'd moving away in a few months. Tho, he did make a comment that he would fly me down to see him sometimes, but he was slightly drunk, soooo....I don't know, in my experiences, drunk people tend to tell the truth. I think I will try and see where it all goes :biggrin:
A few months is a lot better than 3 weeks.
mcknia07
Jun20-09, 07:11 PM
I think you should schedule a time with said fellow, mcknia, to ask him questions and then report back to us how it goes.
Sure thing! :biggrin: I'll let you all know the goods. Hope for the best!
Math Is Hard
Jun20-09, 07:46 PM
USC chicks can't keep their pants on.
russ_watters
Jun20-09, 09:37 PM
Wow, talk about BLATANT photoshopping! Terrible that emaciated women don't have any curves without photo-editing, huh? :tongue: Not to mention, I doubt anyone believes band chicks look like that.
Though I'm not sure about the photoshopping - it may just be a very favorably positioned shadow on her left side.
TheStatutoryApe
Jun20-09, 09:51 PM
Not to mention, I doubt anyone believes band chicks look like that.
Though I'm not sure about the photoshopping - it may just be a very favorably positioned shadow on her left side.
There are certainly women around here that look like that. ;-)
Its just that when you see them in person they don't seem nearly as attractive.
And that line does look rather hard but the resolution is low so it may just be an artifact.
mcknia07
Jun20-09, 10:13 PM
A few months is a lot better than 3 weeks.
True, plus if he is for real about flying me to see, then that is even better. As weird as this may sound, he is like the perfect guy! :biggrin: Just awesome to talk to, too.
TheStatutoryApe
Jun20-09, 10:25 PM
True, plus if he is for real about flying me to see, then that is even better. As weird as this may sound, he is like the perfect guy! :biggrin: Just awesome to talk to, too.
Personally I would advocate against long distance relationships with anyone that you are not already in love with. Even when people believe that they are in love long distance relationships tend not to work out so well.
You never know though. Just be careful either way.
mcknia07
Jun20-09, 11:37 PM
Personally I would advocate against long distance relationships with anyone that you are not already in love with. Even when people believe that they are in love long distance relationships tend not to work out so well.
You never know though. Just be careful either way.
Oh, I will be careful. I'm not going to rush anything and I'm pretty sure he doesn't want to rush, either. I still gotta talk everything over with him and see hoe we should play it. We will for sure be very good friends if nothing else.
GeorginaS
Jun21-09, 01:24 AM
Oh, I will be careful. I'm not going to rush anything and I'm pretty sure he doesn't want to rush, either. I still gotta talk everything over with him and see hoe we should play it. We will for sure be very good friends if nothing else.
Pssst. Don't forget to schedule that question appointment! :wink:
TheStatutoryApe
Jun21-09, 01:26 AM
Pssst. Don't forget to schedule that question appointment! :wink:
Yes! And make sure he makes a powerpoint presentation.
mcknia07
Jun21-09, 07:57 AM
Pssst. Don't forget to schedule that question appointment! :wink:
Ok, sure thing. I sent him an e-mail last night...We will see how that goes. Should be pretty good, since even his best friend says he is into me, but I know there are no promises. One must wait and see, and I will make sure he puts together a power point! :wink: :biggrin:
Redbelly98
Jun21-09, 08:26 AM
Personally I would advocate against long distance relationships with anyone that you are not already in love with.
It won't be a long distance until a few months from now, which is enough time for them to fall in love.
Just speaking from personal experience: long distance relationships can be worth it, even when they don't work out in the end.
JasonRox
Jun21-09, 02:48 PM
It won't be a long distance until a few months from now, which is enough time for them to fall in love.
Just speaking from personal experience: long distance relationships can be worth it, even when they don't work out in the end.
Fall in love in a few months? Whoa, that's scary.
JasonRox
Jun21-09, 02:50 PM
I didn't ask you for your opinion. Now go away and let me enjoy this fine picture. Every time someone posts in this thread, I scroll up and watch the picture instead of reading the posts.
I don't need your permission to express my opinion.
Astronuc
Jun21-09, 02:59 PM
Fall in love in a few months? Whoa, that's scary. That long!?
I accomplished that in one week. Actually we had corresponded for several months, but we meet at a conference, and then spent a wonderful Sunday together (the best day of my life).
I don't need your permission to express my opinion.
Yes you do, you're Canadian.
Moonbear
Jun21-09, 05:22 PM
Fall in love in a few months? Whoa, that's scary.
Yeah, that's a rather long time. If it's going to happen, a few months is more than enough time. If it hasn't happened after a few months, then you're just friends and it's time to accept it's not going to be more than that.
JasonRox
Jun21-09, 08:51 PM
Yeah, that's a rather long time. If it's going to happen, a few months is more than enough time. If it hasn't happened after a few months, then you're just friends and it's time to accept it's not going to be more than that.
A few months to fall in love?
When people say a few months, I think no more than 4. You start dating and fall in love in 4 months... that's fast in my books. I'm not saying it's not love. I'm just saying it's fast.
I don't really use the word "love" anyways.
I've been dating a girl for 3 months now and it's stay way too early to say.
Moonbear
Jun21-09, 09:13 PM
A few months to fall in love?
When people say a few months, I think no more than 4. You start dating and fall in love in 4 months... that's fast in my books. I'm not saying it's not love. I'm just saying it's fast.
I don't really use the word "love" anyways.
I've been dating a girl for 3 months now and it's stay way too early to say.
Which means you probably aren't going to fall in love. To me, 4 months sounds way too long to still be dating someone if you don't yet feel love for them. That would be when I'd break it off and say, nope, it's just not working.
Which means you probably aren't going to fall in love. To me, 4 months sounds way too long to still be dating someone if you don't yet feel love for them. That would be when I'd break it off and say, nope, it's just not working.
Totally agree...it's either there, or it's not there. You know much, much sooner than 4 months. Cupid doesn't take his time...he's very decisive!
GeorginaS
Jun21-09, 10:09 PM
Totally agree...it's either there, or it's not there. You know much, much sooner than 4 months. Cupid doesn't take his time...he's very decisive!
Really? Now see, I've experienced both, getting whacked between the eyes with a two-by-four early on in a relationship and also having known someone for a number of years and having friendship, respect, and affection flourish into all out romantic love. I'd say either could happen. The immediate one, though? I've learned to be leery of. That tends to involve hormones and stuff and clouds vision and hasn't facilitated the best of choices. In my world, anyhow.
Really? Now see, I've experienced both, getting whacked between the eyes with a two-by-four early on in a relationship and also having known someone for a number of years and having friendship, respect, and affection flourish into all out romantic love. I'd say either could happen. The immediate one, though? I've learned to be leery of. That tends to involve hormones and stuff and clouds vision and hasn't facilitated the best of choices. In my world, anyhow.
Have to admit, I've never experienced that friends-to-lovers thing. I think it's because I grew up with a *lot* of brothers. Early on when meeting a guy, I would categorize him as either a "brother" or an "other." I've never had any crossovers from brother to other...some the other way, though.
JasonRox
Jun21-09, 11:26 PM
Which means you probably aren't going to fall in love. To me, 4 months sounds way too long to still be dating someone if you don't yet feel love for them. That would be when I'd break it off and say, nope, it's just not working.
Really?!
Wow, all my friends here follow anything shorter than 6 months is way too fast. Most say around year. They said you can like them a lot at 6 months... but fall in love... different story.
mcknia07
Jun21-09, 11:58 PM
I think the day you meet the significant other, you secretly know within the first few days. Especially, if any time you think about them, you get a feeling...
Moonbear
Jun22-09, 07:14 AM
Really?!
Wow, all my friends here follow anything shorter than 6 months is way too fast. Most say around year. They said you can like them a lot at 6 months... but fall in love... different story.
Nah, I think they're trying to force relationships to work if they don't already feel that love by then. Or else they're too clueless to realize that "like them a lot" IS love.
Redbelly98
Jun22-09, 09:33 AM
Really?!
Wow, all my friends here follow anything shorter than 6 months is way too fast. Most say around year. They said you can like them a lot at 6 months... but fall in love... different story.
Well, I'll ask a basic question: have these friends actually fallen in love before? To me, it sounds like they probably haven't.
George Jones
Jun22-09, 09:44 AM
Really?!
Wow, all my friends here follow anything shorter than 6 months is way too fast. Most say around year. They said you can like them a lot at 6 months... but fall in love... different story.
I think that it's possible that the first "I'm in love!" feeling happens after six months, but I also think that this is way off in the tail.
JasonRox
Jun22-09, 02:25 PM
Well, I'll ask a basic question: have these friends actually fallen in love before? To me, it sounds like they probably haven't.
Yep, every single one of them are in long term relationships. The one is 8 years.
Redbelly98
Jun22-09, 04:44 PM
Yep, every single one of them are in long term relationships. The one is 8 years.
Fair enough ... I stand corrected!
mcknia07
Jun23-09, 02:09 AM
I guess I learned something today...guys seem to kind of like it when the lady takes the first move. Guess I will be finding out if this can go somewhere, or we just stay friends. Either way, I will be very happy.
mheslep
Jun27-09, 12:44 AM
Ah, the power to display your briefs. Superman had that too.
:biggrin:
Moonbear
Jun27-09, 08:31 AM
Yep, every single one of them are in long term relationships. The one is 8 years.
I'm surprised. Maybe the males of the species just take longer to call it love. I know that was the case with my boyfriend. He took a long time to say he loved me, but long before that, I knew he already did even if he didn't know what that feeling really was yet. He acted very differently than a guy who is just a good friend would...especially that protectiveness and the extreme frustration when I was going off to do something he perceived as dangerous and he couldn't be with me and couldn't send along armed body guards (I swear, he would have if he could have).
Astronuc
Jun27-09, 08:41 AM
I guess I learned something today...guys seem to kind of like it when the lady takes the first move. Guess I will be finding out if this can go somewhere, or we just stay friends. Either way, I will be very happy. It seems to be a Catch-22, i.e., it goes both ways. In the beginning when neither is sure about the other, one would like the other to make 'the move', and perhaps both are just as afraid of rejection or potential loss of the other.
I dated a number of women, but I could only have one spouse. At the time that some apparently wanted a more initimate relationship, I could not oblige because of the uncertainties of my future, so I didn't make 'the move' in favor of keeping the relationship platonic. Those relationships eventually dwindled, and the women went off to pursue other relationships.
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