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 Quote by DaveC426913 You recognize the problem that, for a two way relationship to start, one person has to take a chance. Yet you have no intention of being the one. I'm going to guess that you won't take a risk on anyone because rejection is too likely in your mind. Only if they step forward and demonstrate that they might like you on spec, will you pursue a relationship. So, my question is: why do you feel that you're not a "catch"?
This part of PF is definitely outside my comfort zone (why did I post here anyway)... but we dont know each other so what the heck.

Its not looks, its apparently my personality...

Ive found that the more people know me (like the "real" me) the more they think I am weird, and they dont always hold that word in the "compliments" area (neither do I tbh). A few have been vocal about it (Ive even been called a freak once) but its just something you start to notice in their looks, gestures, etc.
The only way I can actually socialize is if I play an "act", otherwise people will tend to keep a certain distance from me. I dont really know if its actually me whos misreading everything but ever since I was a kid it was so much easier socialize if I was pretending to be someone else then if I was just "being myself" (in which case I would end up the acting the outcast whether I wanted it or not...); Ive survived middle school and some of highschool playing the class jester and similar "roles" for example.
Whenever someone catches me off-guard without my mask on, they will tend to throw me in the buddy friend whos a little...different zone, the guy whos a little more interesting... that is when theyre not running away from me like Im the plague.

Im now more and more inclined to simply not socialize (lately I find it troublesome to even attend lectures and seminaries even if theres hardly any direct socializing involved in this case) and there have been times when I havent left my dorm for more than a week.

But whatever, being alone isnt that bad. Im growing used to it.