why do girl play these stupid games? (kind of long)


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Oct12-08, 03:48 AM
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Exactly how did she 'mistreat' you?
She said she was busy - she lied.
So lying is not mistreating? It is just a legitimate way of dealing with world around?
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Oct12-08, 06:51 AM
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I think you're over-thinking the whole thing. Try to be less serious about it. If you don't like the girl, leave her. Get another girlfriend.
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If you don't like the girl, leave her.
I suspect that the real problem is that he DOES like her, otherwise we wouldn't be hearing about it.
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yeah, until the boyfriend finds out and beats the Sh!t out of you...i hate people who would do something like...esp. if you KNOW if the girl has a b/f...don't step on other peoples toes, becuase what goes around comes around. There may be your dream girl one day, and then some guy does the same sh!t to you..JasonRox, if you keep that habit of chasing other people's girlfriends, one day someone will find you all fukked up in an ally.....
Haha, they can go out take my girl. That's ok with me, and my girl is AWARE that I'm fine with it.

He'll beat the **** out of me alright.

Note: One time someone was suppose too. He failed.
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Oct12-08, 09:49 AM
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Yes, the girl is using him. And he's throwing an insecure tantrum about it. How is he going to 'dump her'? He's not even dating her.

Running around like a chicken with its head cut off is never a good way to handle a situation.

I'm sorry, but he pretty much did everything you don't want to do. Get all emotional over absolutely nothing.
LOL!

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So lying is not mistreating? It is just a legitimate way of dealing with world around?
Maybe she was busy, and her time got freed up: maybe she wasn't because she wanted to be alone that day. Who knows, who cares. If you are not able to handle someone saying they are busy and act like an adult, you should not be dating.

Do you seriously think the lie she told was 'mistreating' him? If so...............wow.
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Maybe she was busy, and her time got freed up: maybe she wasn't because she wanted to be alone that day. Who knows, who cares. If you are not able to handle someone saying they are busy and act like an adult, you should not be dating.

Do you seriously think the lie she told was 'mistreating' him? If so...............wow.
Actually, it wasn't a lie. If she was heading to Dunkin Donuts to meet up with other friends she already had plans to meet, that's busy, as in, not free to make a different set of plans with someone else. She's under no obligation to explain what she means by "busy." Busy could have meant she was staying home reading a good book.
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one night im texting her asking to hang out and i get as a reply "no, i cant. im working late and i have so much homework. im already tired so im just going to stay in tonight"
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Actually, it wasn't a lie. If she was heading to Dunkin Donuts to meet up with other friends she already had plans to meet, that's busy, as in, not free to make a different set of plans with someone else. She's under no obligation to explain what she means by "busy." Busy could have meant she was staying home reading a good book.
Lets stick to the facts. It was a damned lie. "Heading to Dunkin Donuts" is not "working late and i have so much homework".

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Maybe she was busy, and her time got freed up: maybe she wasn't because she wanted to be alone that day. Who knows, who cares. If you are not able to handle someone saying they are busy and act like an adult, you should not be dating.

Do you seriously think the lie she told was 'mistreating' him? If so...............wow.
It is dishonest. If you don't want to meet with me - say so, but don't lie. That's what my Mom told me when I was about 3.
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Oct12-08, 10:17 AM
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Lets stick to the facts. It was a damned lie. "Heading to Dunkin Donuts" is not "working late and i have so much homework".



It is dishonest. If you don't want to meet with me - say so, but don't lie. That's what my Mom told me when I was about 3.
Those are pretty strong words there Borek. Sounds like you want to blow things out of proportion as well. She was busy. As moonbear said, she doesn't have to explain jack-squat to him about what that means. When she saw him she ran up to him and tried to kiss him. Then he huffed and puffed and blew the house down.
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Oct12-08, 10:23 AM
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Quote Quote by Moonbear View Post
Actually, it wasn't a lie. If she was heading to Dunkin Donuts to meet up with other friends she already had plans to meet, that's busy, as in, not free to make a different set of plans with someone else. She's under no obligation to explain what she means by "busy." Busy could have meant she was staying home reading a good book.
I know.

It's just so funny that no one can just be up to something and not have to be related to emotions. He's connecting her life and activity to how she "may" feel about him. There could be a girl I want to date and she can ask me out friday night, but if I have something going on, I will say friday night is booked or I'm busy. This not in anyway say I'm playing games or I'm not interested.

What I do after that or what she chooses to do after is where it counts? If I'm interested, I can re-ask, and say "How about Saturday afternoon?", or she can respond, "We should definitely get together sometime." Either one of the cases is fine. Even if it doesn't happen, it's ok too. Don't start thinking she doesn't like you because she's not responding like I said she can respond. Everybody is different. But if you're so insecure about things this trivial, it's pointless.
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Those are pretty strong words there Borek. Sounds like you want to blow things out of proportion as well. She was busy. As moonbear said, she doesn't have to explain jack-squat to him about what that means. When she saw him she ran up to him and tried to kiss him. Then he huffed and puffed and blew the house down.
She is not being honest and fair. She has no respect for him so she is wrong and need to be fixed.

But, I think he should have avoided her if he wanted a good relationship, and he knew from the beginning that it's not gonna happen.

as we all were leaving she just came up to me and made a move. still, im very lost. i get into my friends car and ask... doesnt she have a boyfriend? they both said, yeah she does...so im quite aggravated at this point.
Maybe, he should learn to reject people.
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Quote Quote by Cyrus View Post
Those are pretty strong words there Borek. Sounds like you want to blow things out of proportion as well. She was busy. As moonbear said, she doesn't have to explain jack-squat to him about what that means. When she saw him she ran up to him and tried to kiss him. Then he huffed and puffed and blew the house down.
Maybe you should re-read the paragraph where he described the situation.
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Quote Quote by Borek View Post
It is dishonest. If you don't want to meet with me - say so, but don't lie. That's what my Mom told me when I was about 3.
The problem with being straight up is because people are SO DAMNED INSECURE.

You can tell me straight up, "I don't want to hang out with you tonight". And I will barely think I thing. But when I do it to someone else, they whine and complain and sob, and conclude I don't like them or something messed up. Liking someone does not imply wanting to hang out with them every darn free moment you have.

Sorry, but no one recipricates those values.

Note: One time I was with a girl, had a really good time and all that. Then she was like, I don't think we will hang out again... you knw the just friends thing, and ended with bad you know (starts with s) etc..., and so on. I was like that's ok, but I knew she liked me. The next day I send her message that we should go dance at some Latino night thing, and she comes out... And another fun night.

If I was a big baby like everyone else, than I would have been like... ah she doesn't like me because the s was bad the first time, and she said we won't hang out, then we would have never hung out again and pretty sure I'll see her again. Grow up, or spend your life crying. You choose.

Yeah, your mom says to be honest at 3, but then you still have to GROW UP.
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Oct12-08, 10:32 AM
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She is not being honest and fair. She has no respect for him so she is wrong and need to be fixed.

But, I think he should have avoided her if he wanted a good relationship, and he knew from the beginning that it's not gonna happen.



Maybe, he should learn to reject people.
...........................yea okay............<Rolls my eyes>
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Quote Quote by rootX View Post

Maybe, he should learn to reject people.
I'll rephrase that for you.

He should learn to get rejected by people.
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Oct12-08, 11:51 AM
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im sure there is a lot of things i need to learn, im still young and dumb. the main problem was the fact that i liked the girl. and when in description i said i was "mad," "irritated," "livid," etc.. dont think i was going home and hitting my pillow because i was mad, not in that sense anyway.

im okay with rejection, especially when its flat out. like i said, i dont like to play games. if you reject me, just fuxking do it. why do i have to play a game for two weeks just to find out youre not interested? thats the thing that irritates me. young i am, immature i am not. so when someone acts like a high school sophomore, especially someone close to a year older than me it legitimately pisses me off.
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I agree with JasonRox and Cyrus. He needs to learn to be rejected, forget about the boyfriend thing (some girls are so insecure they won't finish a relationship until they find another guy), and understand most people are insecure (assume it until unproven).

The solution to all these "problems" is abundance of women in your romantic life. If one girl is busy one day, you have others to ask.

Good Luck.
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Quote Quote by Monique View Post
Maybe you should re-read the paragraph where he described the situation.
Yeah, she said she was busy with homework and was going to stay in...then decided to run out for a donut, or maybe coffee (that's what Dunkin Donuts sells). So what? Maybe she needed a little more caffeine and sugar to get through her late night of working and studying. He's assuming that because she took a short break for a snack that she had the time to spend the whole evening with him. He didn't say she showed up with four other friends just coming back from a club or the movies. Even if she likes him, she's allowed to want to spend a night without him doing her own thing.


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