What do 'nerdy' guys like in girls?

Ivan Seeking

Or nice people atheists?

Topher925

My opinion is mutual but I can't really afford getting any more infractions so I'm not going into it.

Monique

How do you know I've got a charming accent?

oh, I'm bad (runs away, really fast)

Hurkyl

You know, that just makes me want to chase....

tim_lou

It's amazing to see how fast this thread is gathering replies...

Well, firstly, I think most people will classify me as ultra physics nerds (even among my physics nerdy friends), since I study Saturday - Sunday and loves to talk about physics all day. So I'll be in a good position to answer this question.

To be honest, whoever likes me for who I am and are intelligent are good enough. It doesn't have to be ultra intelligent... being able to understand physics jokes would be an extra plus. Also, I don't like the propaganda religious type... for obvious reasons.

Edit: thinking about it a bit more (expanding my mind to include all kinds of people)... that person also needs to have an open mind, have an interest in general knowledge and the world around us. Being humanistic sums it up I think.

(man...when my friends find out this reply, they'll surely make fun of me. Sometimes I regret making my user-name too explicit.. )

kingdomof

Myopic, much?


I really can't describe what I'd find in a girl, neither can I really describe myself as a nerd. However, if it mattered, someone who isn't myopic and can focus on a conversation and be somewhat empathetic to me. Oddly enough, this disqualifies every girl I've been interested in!

turbo

If a girl asked (nerdy me) in engineering school, "what do you want in a woman?" the literal answer would have gotten me a slap or a quick date.....

Jimmy Snyder

Funny, that answer occurred to me too, but she said no.

Ghost803

1. Intelligence
2. Humor (Sarcastic, Dark, Nerdy/Quirky) ( No slapstick or stereotype jokes)
3. Self Assured
4. Appearance ( not obese, doesn't have a manly jaw (lots of American Women have manly jaw lines for some reason), and no lemon blond hair)
5. No pointless bitching. I've noticed a lot of dumb people like to do that. Whether its at work, school, or social settings. People just like to *****. About professors, classes, work shifts, term papers, relatives. They complain about the same things over and over and over, p***es me off.

The rest of the criteria are too broad and vague for me to be able to consciously write them down. And would probably differ from nerd to nerd very much. It is just a hunch of mine, but I would guess that nerds would have the same taste discriminations or list of things that would disqualify a girl but what actually attracts each individual one would be too variable.

Kurdt

Are you sure. I thought most nerdy guys would implode when that line was delivered.

Kurdt

I think approaching the guy initially is the best answer. It doesn't really matter what that guy is looking for (we're all different.... honest ) thats what dating is about, but I suppose the type of man you're after will be shy and unable to ask you out himself.

Jimmy Snyder

Me too. I can't stand people like that.

Kurdt

That could prove troublesome later on in a relationship.

NBAJam100

Bit of a high order there dont ya think Topher?

Is the atheist thing set in stone or is a girl who isnt officially atheist but doesnt really believe in god ok? Or a girl who is religious but doesnt throw the "propaganda" at you and keeps it to herself? This is coming from a non-religious guy and in no way is it an attack! im just kinda curious.

Evo

They always looked like a deer caught in headlights for the first few seconds, but then they'd ask me where I wanted to go.

Except for one, a math nerd at Rice. He was drop dead gorgeous and didn't know it. He told me that he already had plans for Friday, so what about Saturday instead?

Proton Soup

i think all you need do is show more than a casual interest. don't play games, just signal your interest with body and spoken language. first of all, smile and make eye contact. start a conversation and feign interest in his geek speak. once you've established he might be interested, break the touch barrier and start using some sexual innuendo in your speech and body language.

you chicks have it a lot easier than you realize, you know.

turbo

Well-prepared women were sweet. There was a very tall, attractive, leggy blonde in my dining hall, who I'd see frequently. One day early in my freshman year (hers, too) I wandered over and asked if she minded if I ate my lunch with her. She pulled out the chair right next to her and said that she had been saving that seat for me. We got so close that we were inseperable. We had similar interests in art , music, poetry, and ended spending all our spare time together.