What do 'nerdy' guys like in girls?

MissSilvy

Aside from the 1940s housewifery going on; Christ, there's large differences in opinions. The one issue I'm semi-confused about is whether a girl is intelligent in science or intelligent in the humanities.

You catch a lot of interesting conversation hanging around our physics department. One I was sitting in the corner, facing the wall and reading a book. Three guys come in and start loudly talking about their girl woes. One guy says "Psh, man. That's why you need to date liberal arts girls. They're cute but they'll never be smarter than you." When you say 'not a nerd', do you mean that having long conversations about physics isn't important or more in the traditional sense, like that a socially-awkward girl who can only talk about DnD is out, or both?

Thanks for the replies guys and girls!

Cyrus

There is a saying. It goes like this: Opposites attract.

MissSilvy

And sayings are always correct? You can easily say that people need to be similar for a relationship to work ;)

G01

OK. Here's the plan Evo:

You are going to contact every female student at my university and give them this advice and a picture of me.

I'll take it from there.

Things will be SO easy from now on!!!

Evo

No problem, send me the list!

moose

Note the term Attract. Being completely different may bring you together because it's exciting, but it rarely works out. I've seen some kind of studies about this as well, I just can't remember where....

TheStatutoryApe

I've found that women seem to have an idea of what they want in a man (or think they do) while men tend not to be sure about what they want in a woman. Women seem to be searching for someone who matches their dream man (or as close to as possible) and men are just searching, trying to figure out who their dream woman is. So among men criteria for a partner tend to be rather broad... so to speak.

Good rules of thumb are that a person will be interested in a person of similar intelligence, accomplishment/drive, and interests. And any one, or all, of these rules can be thrown out the window in the right circumstances, especially with men.

For 'nerdy guys' you will probably want to focus on being able to communicate and have intelligent conversation with them about the things that interest them. As has already been pointed out there is a definition problem for the word 'nerdy'. There are different sorts of nerds/geeks. There are computer geeks, science geeks, math geeks, lit. geeks, theatre geeks, film geeks, ect.. You're average geek realizes that most people (let alone those specififcally of the female persuasion) are not likely to share their passion and accept that. You may get bonus points for sharing this with them but it certainly isn't a deal maker or breaker. So secondary interests come into play alot. Secondary interests among geeks tend toward video games, comic books, science fiction, fantasy, strategy games (e.g. chess), logic puzzles... and even range out into not so geeky things such as poker, billiards, guns, fishing, cars, ect.. Its an incredibly wide range so what you are looking for as far as what a nerdy guy wants will generally have alot to do with what sort of nerd you are looking for.

Crazy Tosser

Good stuff, Cyrus :D

I lol'd

BTW did you guys hear the most recent study in psychology that girls actually have as much mathematical (and abstract thinking etc.) potential as guys?

rootX

I guess that all those studies are just full of crap. What the hell it has to do with the gender ... people become good at things in which they put their effort.

Crazy Tosser

It was thought before that the male brain actually has more logical/mathematical/artistic potential and is overall better than the female brain. And now we find out it was a load of bull, that's right.

Cyrus

According to Dr. Yamaka, women have brain's the size of squirrel.

Cyrus

That's not a saying. Who says that? I've never heard anyone say that. How can a such a pretty girl...............have such lousy posts?

Crazy Tosser

rofl!!!

LydiaAC

I am married to a nerdy man who said he was interested in me because he felt that "his words were landing". When I met him in a party he explained to me what it was a fractal, and I was sincerely fascinated about what he was saying.

Crazy Tosser

So, what is a fractal?

MissSilvy

I make up for my lousy, womanish opinions with my huge jugs and large fun bags :D

G01

Wait a minute... are "huge jugs" and "large fun bags' referring to different pieces of female anatomy?

If so, I definitely need to date more often...