Have you ever seen an attractive woman, walked up to her and started a conversation?

wasteofo2

Dan, I don't know what age-group you're going for, but it doesn't sound like the early 20's girls I know in the USA.

You may have found the group of girls that don't flake on phone numbers, or the group of girls that likes to talk on the phone, but they are not the majority.

Obviously the goal isn't to talk to her on facebook, but talking to someone on facebook can make them more likely to not flake on you in real life when you actually wanna see them.

When you get lots of girls numbers, you get lots of flakes, that's just part of life. I dunno where you're coming at this from, but meeting random people means some won't keep contact with you.

DanP

Perhaps, I don't walk your shoes. For me fake numbers are pretty much an unknown. It never happened to me. Besides, if you really got a fake number, you should move on, she aint too much into you anyway. Move fast.

Lancelot59

I'd have to say no to this, for three reasons:

1. Women in this city are horribly unapproachable.
2. Not a whole lot of them are on my campus
3. They all annoy me to no end.

DanP

The girl who can't dance says the band can't play ?

Lancelot59

No...

It's just that they don't seem very attractive personality wise. They're a bit too girly if that makes sense.

wasteofo2

Flakes not fakes.

I understand the traditional attitude of ''**** it'' if a girl flakes on you.

But if a girl isn't into you after 1 short conversation, that doesn't mean you can never **** her, just that it'll take more time to get her into you.

It just depends how bad you actually want said girl.

QuantumJG

Have I ever seen an attractive woman, walked up to her and started a conversation?

No way! I suffer from anxiety so doing this without feeling anxious would be IMPOSSIBLE.

Also I feel it would be stupid to come out with something pointless to talk about "those are nice shoes". WTF? I'm a physics student with no fashion sense who plays video games.

Lancelot59

There never does seem to be anything good to talk about.

Mentallic

Confidence goes a long way fellas. If there's something to talk about with your friends - besides talking about that thing you guys did last week that was so awesome, and other people you both know - then there is something to talk about with random girls.

Topher925

Someone told me Scarlett Johansson is no single. How much confidence do I need to woo her?

Lancelot59

How much confidence does it take to overcome a stun gun and a restraining order? Unless you come up with a clever scheme to get alone with her...

How about we abduct both of you, under the premise that you owe us money. We mistook her for your friend who was also in on the deal!

It's brilliant!

Mentallic

Confidence doesn't get the girl, it initiates conversation.

DBTS

Nervous guys tend to flop. Confidence is a good key but a person who can keep a conversation, create laughter, and is playful tends to get a date or second date for that matter.

Lol

Mentallic

You need confidence to approach them and break the ice, but after that first acquaintance you shouldn't be as nervous if you were at first. From then on it depends on your personality.

Galteeth

A note on this: While i personally have gotten "flakes" (girls who i called who didn't pick up, or weren't available etc.) I have never failed to get a number from asking and i have never gotten a fake number. Some of those "flakes" might not have been genuine flakes if i had been more persistent (I don't leave messages, and if a girl doesn't pick up the first day i call her, i might try once more, but not again).

I don't use facebook. Maybe I'm old fashioned, but I'm just not into the internet as a social medium (not counting forums like this). I don't care for the idea of all my social interactions to be publicly available, and I HATE internet drama.

Pyrrhus

Too much overthinking in this thread. It's plain and simple, GO FOR IT. GO WITH THE FLOW. SEE WHAT HAPPENS. LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES, and etc.. That's it.

The more you fail, the better you get at it. I've failed countless time, and I've been successful countless times. I only tend to remember the funny stories

DBTS

So... 0 times.

I am quite good at reading body language so if I walk up to a girl or woman and say something casual and she is receptive, I will engage in a more 5 minute prolonged conversation. I tend to only keep conversations for 5 minutes just to feel her out, and if I like her, I will schedule a date, if not, then I will just walk away.