Are men with cats odd?


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Nov4-11, 07:52 AM
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Here's some more rationalization/ammo: Cats are invariably symbols of the feminine. They're picky, fickle, high maintainence, vain: always grooming themselves. If a guy likes cats it constitutes absolute proof he likes women and is not gay. Guy's who like dogs over cats are extremely questionable. Women view a guy who has a good relationship with a cat as extremely desirable boyfriend/husband material.
You can at least back that up with some sources man...
http://articles.sfgate.com/2005-01-0...n-single-women
The survey showed that 85 percent of men, and 94 percent of women, don't think it's wimpy or needy for a man to love his cat.
Yes, according to this same British survey, women love men with cats. Ninety percent of single women surveyed thought men who like cats are "nicer" -- i.e., more caring and sensitive -- than those who don't. A quick poll of my cat-loving single girlfriends bears this out.
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Nov4-11, 08:20 AM
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You're going to be a great cat-dad, flex! Get that sweet old kitty out of the shelter, bring her home!
I, uh... don't know how I feel about the term "cat-dad." I don't think I'm her biological father... although, if she's 12... that means... hmm... the circus... And people who treat their cats like children are... uh... more lonely than I.

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Oh god... this does NOT resolve the concern that a single man with a cat is of questionable sexuality.

Anyway, I've been thinking more about it and I've been browsing some shelter websites locally. I don't think I have the time to help a kitten not die. Don't get me wrong, I can be very dedicated, but I found a stray kitten once and took care of her for about a week before her owners claimed her and she was pretty darn hyperactive. I would leave her for the day when I went to work and come home to her limping and some piece of lighting being broken.

At least with an older shelter cat, some of the quirks might be known quantities that I can evaluate. With a young cat, it's all up in the air... for all I know, the cat might have laserbeam eyes and a general dislike for the movies I love.

EDIT: Also, I want a cat that snuggles with teddy bears. I saw it on YouTube.
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It's the name. It's killing me!
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It's the name. It's killing me!
I just assumed it meant beer.
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I have never been a cat-owner, though a cat "owned" me for a while. My wife and I lived across the street from a couple that had 'way too many cats. The cat that adopted me was called "Midnight" because Dave said that was the only cat they could see at midnight. She was a fluffy white Persian with blue eyes, and deaf as a post. I could stare at the other cats, and they would avoid me. Not Midnight. She'd shadow me as soon as I came in the house, and as soon as it'd sit down somewhere, she'd be in my lap, purring like a chain-saw and rubbing her head all over my chest.

It was pretty comical, really. Some cats are much more charming than others. My sister's litter-mate cats (Yin and Yang) were destructive and a handful, even when they were a few years old. Go to the shelter and "audition" a few older cats. You should be able to tell if the cat is properly socialized and is comfortable with you.
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Go to the shelter and "audition" a few older cats. You should be able to tell if the cat is properly socialized and is comfortable with you.
That's my plan. Just lonely coming home to an empty house everyday. I've had live-in girlfriends off and on over the last few years, and they're nice... but the cost of ownership goes up steadily (first it's a pair of boots for the snow, then it's a pair of matching shoes to wear after the boots come off, then it's a new sweater with matching Lexus).

A cat should be nice... it'll need attention (and I love to give attention), and maybe it'll watch movies with me, or listen to the music I write... or... conspire...
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That's my plan. Just lonely coming home to an empty house everyday. I've had live-in girlfriends off and on over the last few years, and they're nice... but the cost of ownership goes up steadily (first it's a pair of boots for the snow, then it's a pair of matching shoes to wear after the boots come off, then it's a new sweater with matching Lexus).

A cat should be nice... it'll need attention (and I love to give attention), and maybe it'll watch movies with me, or listen to the music I write... or... conspire...
Sounds good, Flex. I always loved having a pet to come home to.

The ferret in my avatar was Turbo, and he was almost like a dog because he loved attention. We had Pergo flooring in the living-room (my office was on one end) and he loved to play "ferret-bowling". He'd come to me, playing keep-away until I caught him, then I'd scale him across that slippery floor. He'd work like hell trying to get his feet under him and scrub off speed, just so he could run back to me and play keep-away again. We'd do that for probably 15-20 minutes at a time, until he came back to me and put his front paws up on my leg, letting me know that he wanted to be held so he could take a nap. That was good for both of us.
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Sounds good, Flex. I always loved having a pet to come home to.

The ferret in my avatar was Turbo, and he was almost like a dog because he loved attention. We had Pergo flooring in the living-room (my office was on one end) and he loved to play "ferret-bowling". He'd come to me, playing keep-away until I caught him, then I'd scale him across that slippery floor. He'd work like hell trying to get his feet under him and scrub off speed, just so he could run back to me and play keep-away again. We'd do that for probably 15-20 minutes at a time, until he came back to me and put his front paws up on my leg, letting me know that he wanted to be held so he could take a nap. That was good for both of us.
Even I have to "awww" at that. I hadn't considered a ferret. They're cage pets, though, right?
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Even I have to "awww" at that. I hadn't considered a ferret. They're cage pets, though, right?
No, none of my ferrets were ever caged. They are easily litterbox trained and had free run of the house. You have to ferret-proof your place, though, because they are the most inquisitive little critters you can imagine, and they have a great deal of dexterity in their "hands" so that latches and catches have to be installed on cupboard doors and anyplace else you don't want them to go.
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but the cost of ownership goes up steadily (first it's a pair of boots for the snow, then it's a pair of matching shoes to wear after the boots come off, then it's a new sweater with matching Lexus).
Your "maintenance comment" cracks me up. On a practical note, try to find one that regardless the age, is not like a hair trigger ball of fire about to spook or pounce at a moments notice. You say you need a mellow cat, there are plenty of those. It will all fall into place, trust me grasshopper.

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There is no such thing as "men with cats". There are, however, "cats with men", and by all statistical definitions, yes, they are odd: they are among the 1% of cats that have male servants to take care of their survival needs while they strut around chasing tail and sleeping in precarious places. They will occasionally toss scraps to their servants (in the form of a dead bird or rat) without a care for the emotional integrity of the servant, but for the most part, they could hardly notice that you are there, bending to their every need, holding up the foundations they strut about.
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You can at least back that up with some sources man...
http://articles.sfgate.com/2005-01-0...n-single-women
Wow, by complete accident it turns out at least one woman agrees with what I said:
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Women view a guy who has a good relationship with a cat as extremely desirable boyfriend/husband material.
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It's long been said by women that cats are excellent guy-o-meters -- capable of spotting a bad one with a sniff. I always found the converse to be true: Men who were good to my cats -- and not in a manipulative, let's- impress-her-with-my-sensitivity kind of way -- were going to be good to me.
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...people who treat their cats like children are...
Let's just say even the most cat-wonderful cat owners I've met were able to maintain their grasp on reality.

My cats have all had very unique and different personalities, despite the fact I raised them all pretty much the same. Some were spastic. Other's were cool and calm. Others were princesses. The one thing I noticed over the years is that none of them became bitchy princesses, the cool and calm were never arrogant or demanding, and the spastic knew when to chill out. This is in contrast to other owners and their cats.

My deduction is that some aspects of a cat's personality are learned, others are genetic. That's hardly news, though, is it? I have kids, too, and see much the same.

Oh god... this does NOT resolve the concern that a single man with a cat is of questionable sexuality.
Are you questioning my sexuality on the sole basis that I've been a single man with a cat? If you would, Sir, I'd be happy to address your concerns with four or five well-reasoned arguments...

Seriously, that's crap. Guys and gals are people. I prefer dogs, but as I was always coming and going, cats were just so much less maintenance.
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So, I found a shelter I like... mostly because that post biographies and videos of each cat. These are the finalists:

Hubble - http://www.petfinder.com/petdetail/21088276
Hunter - http://www.petfinder.com/petdetail/20927676
Kit-Kat - http://www.petfinder.com/petdetail/21038725
Tulip - http://www.petfinder.com/petdetail/20989181

Each one has a video you can watch.

EDIT: A friend of mine convinced me I'm only interested in Hubble because of her name. That's probably true.
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Tulip is my favorite.
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Tulip is my favorite.
She does seem sweet. I can't figure out why people give names like that to a cat.

Neutrino for a small quick cat.
Higgs for a big cat that likes to hide and is hard to find.
Tachyon (Tacky for short) for a cat that's just preposterous in general.

Instead... Tulip. A flower. Bah!

EDIT: I also thought of adopting a black cat because they're so rarely appreciated.

DOUBLE EDIT: Still pretty fond of Hunter.
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Hunter is handsome. Tulip is small and probably won't eat much, plus she is FREE. Her adoption fee is covered. As for the names, you can change them easily. A cat won't care much what you call it, especially when you are opening a can of food.
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Wow, it's very tough to say...I mean, they all deserve a chance at a good life! But that Hunter, he looks very sweet and affectionate.


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