View Poll Results: What you look/looked for befor jumping into a serious relationship Culture 24 31.17% Ethnicity 17 22.08% Income 7 9.09% Interests 59 76.62% Profession 20 25.97% Sense of Humor 53 68.83% His/Her Opinions 50 64.94% Food Interests 8 10.39% Health 33 42.86% Age 37 48.05% His/Her relationship with the family 19 24.68% His/Her friends 15 19.48% Political views 19 24.68% Distance/Location 35 45.45% Other 31 40.26% Multiple Choice Poll. Voters: 77. You may not vote on this poll

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## A relationship poll - What you look/looked for!

 Quote by Ivan Seeking And to the extent that you are guided by your head, and not your heart, make sure it's the right one!
+1...
 You forgot religion or lack there of.
 Recognitions: Gold Member There is a factor that is quite important to me. Spontaneity and honesty. If a woman was calculating and seemed to want control, that was a deal-killer right out of the chute. I won't argue for impetuous behavior (not a good thing), but if a young lady would set aside preconceptions and engage in unplanned activities that might be fun for both of us, that was a big draw. I don't care if it was climbing the local "mountain" to hang out on the bluff overlooking the intersection of two major routes here and watch the traffic (with no prior notice) or just hiking through some farmland so I could take some pictures of interesting trees, plants (or her). When a young lady acts interested in what *you* suggest as activities, that's a pretty big draw. Even better is when she suggests alternate activities that don't involve driving 20-50 miles and spending , because that rarely resulted in "fun".
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 Quote by rootX This is similar to the "What do 'nerdy' guys like in girls?" thread but I am making this bit generic. I have come up with the following list of things which one might look for. Culture Ethnicity Income Interests Profession Sense of Humor His/Her Opinions Food Interests Health Age His/Her relationship with the family His/Her friends Political views Distance/Location Other
I think ethnicity and distance/location are strange criteria. A person is who they are, and they just happen to be where they are. Like Evo, I was hoping to find someone who was intelligent and compassionate (kind). Most other aspects list are a consequence of one's character. Of course, I dated women who were not too young and not too old, and generally the women I dated were the same age or older.

 Quote by Ivan Seeking My point was that falling in love isn't an engineering problem.
I thought it was applied science.

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 Quote by Ivan Seeking My point was that falling in love isn't an engineering problem.
 Quote by Evo I think it might be for some of our members.
Time to make some engineering decision matrices

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 Quote by Astronuc I think ethnicity and distance/location are strange criteria.
Actually, location was a factor that I considered. I was satified with my location and I did not want to move. However, I ended up moving anyway. So it was not as important as I thought it was.

Another important consideration that was left off the list is children.
 attentiveness, ability to listen, kindness, empathy, creativity, interesting, fun, animal lover and really really hot. Good looks are something that can be added later simply because the person wants the one they are interested in to be proud to be seen with them and to know that they care about looking nice for them. Grooming wasn't mentioned either and although it's generally a given you'd be amazed at how many people are slack in this area. The right person also makes you feel safe and comfortable. They can be TRUSTED because they sincerely care. They will go out of their way to make you happy and you will do the same.
 in a person: all the "generaly considered good" attributes that have been said already. uy, and humbleness and ability to auto-criticize in a relatioship: that feeling of complicity being above all other issues between the 2 of you; with how rough life is sometimes, that bonnie and clyde aura
 I like intelligent men, that are honest, and share similar intrests with me. I'm surprised appereance wasn't on the poll considering that's the first thing people notice when persuing someone. I feel shallow saying it, but I think we all know that it's true.
 Appearance is huge but being handsome or beautiful according to society's view is much less important because one can always improve this to whatever degree desired. People who are born with an appearance that is considered extraordinarily good looking seem to have a very difficult life because they are prized for their appearance rather than their "essence" and the ones I know personally have had multiple marriages and a lot of problems. Better to start out pretty ordinary and improve when you're old enough to know how little it matters in the grand scheme of things.

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 Quote by Ivan Seeking My point was that falling in love isn't an engineering problem.
 Quote by Evo I think it might be for some of our members.
Point - Evo
http://www.plosone.org/article/info%...one.0009881#s1
 A simple version of the second law can be written in terms of feeling and effort variables as the differential equation (1) with r>0 and a>0. Without intervention (i.e. c(t) = 0), Eq. (1) implies that x(t) fades at a constant rate r, specific to each relationship, which is a measure of the strength of feeling fading. This simple linear law is well-known to steer many natural and social phenomena. In fact, its discrete version was used in [9] to describe the baseline evolution of uninfluenced partner behaviour in short-term marital interaction. At any rate, Eq. (1) with c(t) = 0 is the first obvious working hypothesis for the decaying law of feeling. Effort enters as a recovery term in Eq. (1) counteracting the weakening of feeling. The parameter a obviously indicates effort efficiency. Selecting an effort plan c(t) determines the evolution of the feeling by solving Eq. (1) for x(t). Eq. (1) implicitly entails that x(t) changes smoothly, except at effort discontinuities. The intensity of c(t) can be decided by the partners involved, in contrast to the level of the (non-rational) variable x(t), that cannot. The rational nature of the effort variable c(t) allows one to interpret it as a control variable in the scenario of optimal control theory [29]. In this setting, the controlled variable –the state variable– is x(t) and Eq. (1) is the state equation linking both variables.
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 Quote by ihatesnakes in a relatioship: that feeling of complicity being above all other issues between the 2 of you; with how rough life is sometimes, that bonnie and clyde aura
This is interesting. Could you expand on this? Also, are you male or female?
 When you think about it, it is pretty simple - if you take out more than you put in, eventually it'll fail unless the other party can and will just put in endlessly, which is pretty uncommon. And you can "bank" relationship points in case you need to withdraw extras later.

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