This is so embarrassing...(PG-13, promise)

Deveno

Well, if it weren't the wee hours, and me being bored as sin, I'd likely not be doing this. But, you only live once, right? Unless the Buddhists are right...um, let's not go there!

So, here it is. I'm looking for a woman. Sort of.

Get your minds out of the gutter, it's not like that! Well, it is, oh bother. Maybe I can explain. I'm looking for a cyber-relationship. No....not one of "those". I mean, err, there's no web-cam involved ok?

This woman, she need not be physically attractive. She can be married, nothing that would violate a wedding vow will be asked of her. I'm not looking for a girlfriend. I have one of those, she's great. OK, maybe just, you know, average, but that's OK. I mean, I'm OK with it, we're happy. Our (just insert what you think goes here) is fine, no worries.

No, I'm looking for something ELSE from a woman. She has to be...mathematically talented. Is this a strange fetish of some sort? Could be, to be honest, I'm not really sure. I just want to talk about...um, ideas. Math stuff. A really nerdy woman would be ideal. But someone stable, I don't want to somehow get involved with anything...strange.

So there it is. Not really something I can see putting in the local classified. Besides, in a town of just 4,000 people, well the statistics just don't look good. On the bright side, I can pretty much assure any potential respondent I'll be dead within 20 years or so, so it's not like I need a lifetime committment.

let me assure you I'm quite serious. Go ahead, laugh if you want to, I don't mind.

queenstudy

i dont know if can find them here , did you try dating websites?

micromass

Yeah... I tried entering "math" in a dating site once and I got back things like "I hate math" or "I was never good in math" or "You can PM me as long as you don't talk about math". Hmmm

wukunlin

why does it have to a women? the things you are asking about doesn't look like anything exclusive to any gender to me...

Deveno

i know, right? perhaps it's something to do with rarity.

but then i'd get women looking for romance, which would be awkward, and present its own set of complications. meh, i'll not be too disappointed if this ends in failure, that's just the staus-quo, and my intellectual isolation hasn't killed me yet, and is unlikely to.

netgypsy

There is actually a dating website called geek2geek but reviews say its a scam. A real shame.

Who knows - you may get some PM's from our lady math geeks. Actually there are quite a number of female math geeks. More than there are female physics geeks for that matter.

Moonbear

I'm wondering why you want it to be a woman too, especially if you already have a girlfriend you're happy with. Are you trying to plug a gap in the relationship? How would she view it even if it's just platonic? If the only thing you're missing is someone to talk math with, this might be a case of watching what you wish for. You might regret it if it ruins a good relationship. Or maybe you are wondering if there is someone better and need to satisfy your curiosity.

phoenix:\\

I am immature so I lol'd.

Why do looks matter if you won't be seeing one another?

The look of a woman seems to be an exclusive look to me.

I get what you want sort of, I disliked being around men most of the time so I befriended a few females that had 'like' interests. I dunno, but don't men choose other male friends based on physical appeal? Seems to be the case when a male chooses a female friend (in the event that he is doing it strictly for friendship).

micromass

Uuuh phoenix, he said that she need NOT be physically attractive...

Deveno

well, i'll try to put it into words, but i may fail...in which case, don't scratch your head too terribly long afterwards.

guys are so...direct. you know the saying "let's call a spade a spade"? it was obviously a guy who thought of that one. most (maybe not all) women have this mysterious, occult quality. it's part of what i like about math...all is not revealed at first look. i suspect their minds work differently, and it's part of what that difference is, that i seek.

could this ruin my current relationship? sure, it's possible. all kinds of unexpected things might happen. i'm well aware of this. on the other hand, i don't feel like the fact that my current girlfriend isn't interested in math very much, is a very good reason for leaving her, either.

more than likely, nothing will come of this. except maybe some interesting conversations in this thread, and that's a win, too.

wukunlin

I've always been skeptical about all the men-and-women-think-differently business. I mean, doesn't all people think differently from one another?

Deveno

that's just been my experience. i'm willing to admit my experience may be atypical, or that my world-view prejudices my observations (selective filtering), but if something is true for me, in my (limited) world, i may as well act on it as if it is actually true. but...if there are men or women out there who wish to dispute this, i'm certainly willing to hear them out :)

Jimmy Snyder

I'm a woman. What ideas and math stuff would you like to talk about?

netgypsy

UMMM something is wrong with this situation.

How about a picture of a real live math nerd to make it more realistic

netgypsy

the one with the hat on is also female but is only in beginning calculus while the other one has a math major with all sorts of strange math courses and is the one teaching calculus to the other one.

Deveno

since micromass deleted my terribly witty and eloquent previous reply, let me just say, that the babe with the hat is quite a looker!

oh, and Jimmy, i'd always heard you were a funny guy, but i never knew what they meant until now....

good to know.

netgypsy

She'd say thanks but she's the strong silent type.

Example of the difference between male and female thinking

Male: KILL THAT DINOSAUR - YUMM - STEAK FOR DINNER

Female: If I kill that dinosaur I'll have to haul it back to the cave, skin it because the lazy guys will be sitting around the fire comparing belches, cut it up, build a fire, haul in the wood, cook it and figure out what to do with the leftovers. I think I'll pass on this one.