What do 'nerdy' guys like in girls?

Loess

I agree with Shaikhob that the person needs to have something in their head. People have different types of intelligence, some may have not done the 'time' working towards a degree, masters etc. I hope I'm not defined just by my qualifications. My ex boyfriend going back some years is an accomplished musician in two instruments, he doesn't have a degree . I respect him for his talents, hard work and his potential. I'm signing up for an astrophysics masters this year. I'm not sure he understands why I love planetary sciences but I think he still respected me for my hard work.

netgypsy

And generally nerdy guys find smart girls hot.

Shaikhob

Planetary science. O.o sounds like so much fun.

My problems is that most girls I like I end up being friends with, only problem is that I never have the courage to tell them I like them or wanna ruin the relationship >.<

netgypsy

If the girl likes you in return there will be different body language, type of smile, and she'll laugh at nearly anything you say - dumb or not. Just look for the cues and when you see them, ask her to go grab a burger, coffee, tea, picnic, whatever you already know she likes. So she turns you down. Guys get turned down. Be "clean", smell good, be friendly, stay fit and trim, deal with acne missing teeth if you have them, it takes work to be attractive but anyone can do it. Yes if you have a wart on the end of your nose you get taken off. Look in the mirror and fix what you don't like. You don't have to look like a body builder but it doesn't hurt at all to be fit. If you smoke, stop. Don't chew tobacco. It's not even attractive in baseball players and cowboys. Healthy is attractive and smart is even more attractive. NERDS RULE! (You've heard the old saying to high school kids - BE NICE TO NERDS - you'll probably work for one someday)

Zoro

Good day friends! I beg your pardon me for my English. I live in Central Asia. And just learning English. What is attractive in a quiet brake guys? Perhaps not even the fact of their isolation, and Ping. And most of their modesty, the imaginary, the possible intelegentnost. Reliability. Who are any of you guys are offended brake? And they made you sick? They have ever laughed at you after love. The topic was asked to speak not about sex. So let the love I mean romance, festivities in the moonlight, and so on.
Such cases are much smaller than the cowboy who makes fun of his ex, or humiliates her in front of friends. ;-)
More races will forgive me for the English, and for the fact that maybe my thoughts are hard to understand ...

netgypsy

Welcome zoro to a great and very international forum and a great place to practice your English. I have lived in a country that spoke a language that I did not speak or understand and I had a very difficult time but people were very helpful.

The question is asking what kind of woman the quiet studious guy likes, not the reverse. But by talking about the ways of the quiet guy you also give the type of woman the quiet guy likes. A woman who is intelligent, has a good sense of humor, is kind and romantic.

Come back again please. We thank you for sharing your ideas.

(You are misusing the word "brake" and I'm not sure what characteristic you mean for it to describe.)

Thank you again.

lostprophets

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the same as any other man.
you either like someone or you dont.
there is no one thing

luitzen

Talking from personal experience, I guess that the quiet guys lack experience and are less confident initiating a conversation, especially when there's physical attraction. Due to their inexperience, they might also have difficulties recognizing cues. They also may have difficulties understanding signals which are rather unambiguous, so you may waste a lot of energy trying to give obvious signals and as a consequence you may feel rejected when the guys is actually interested in you. If such a guy is especially nervous around you or quickly looking away when you catch him looking at you, you can be quite confident that they're interested in you.
So the best way to get their attention is to initiate a conversation in a setting where they can confidently be themselves (so not with tons of people hanging around) and ask them out on a date. When they know you're interested, most of their fears will have gone.

What kind of girls do nerdy guys like? Of course they will also want something nice to look at but since all girls are different and most girls are beautiful in one way or another, this shouldn't really be a problem. For a long term relationship however, I suppose that nerdy guys appreciate a deeper emotional and intellectual depth. I know that I do.

Aedulfilas

Back when I was a single guy, I was attracted to cute girls with whom I could have an interesting conversation. The girls who I found interesting to talk to were, of course, intelligent. In the end, I married a musician whose father, as well as one grandfather and great-grandfather, were physics professors. Unlike most other girls, when I told my future wife that I had a B.S. in physics her eyes actually lit up! One should note that quite a few scientists have married the sisters and daughters of other scientists. Paul Dirac was married to Eugene Wigner's sister. Hans Bethe was married to the daughter of Paul Ewald.

Pkruse

[QUOTE=luitzen;3868816]Talking from personal experience, I guess that the quiet guys lack experience and are less confident initiating a conversation, especially when there's physical attraction. Due to their inexperience, they might also have difficulties recognizing cues.


That is so true, especially for young nerds. Older ones get over it. In my case many years ago we had time to kill between classes so she asked to go for a walk. The beach was close so we went there. After a while I decided she was nice, but we had no future together. She could not possibly like me because we had absolutely nothing in common. She a social worker and me an engineer.

As I turned to walk away she yelled:

STOP

I turned around and she said:

I'm at least going to get a hug out of you.

So she gave me a huge rib crushing hug and held it for a long time . We were both silent.

Then I said, "Goodbye."

She said:

Don't ever say that.

Say "See you later."

She then made me repeat back her phone number several times until she was sure that I had memorized it.

Looking back on it, I now know that she had been giving me subtle signs for weeks that I completely missed. I missed her not so subtle signs during our walk. But I finally got it.

Now nearly 4 decades later we are still very happily married. She is my soul mate.

Unless

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Yeah, nerdz is dumb. And also more desirable than a meat-bag in terms of a partner. I wonder how long she was in love with you before she lost patience and yelled at you. My little routine is the best one out there for (quite frankly) guys who lack confidence and a clue. It allows you to set the pace, and gives you a narrow window for action (8 seconds of courage is plenty).

My wife pinned me down in a tickle fight and demanded to know when I would be marrying her. I guess they would never get the decent guys if they waited around, right?

haha

Pkruse

We had only known each other for 3 weeks, so she did not waste much time. The first hint was when she signed up for a fencing class and by the third day she had managed to trade partners to get me. That was the only class she could get me in, she studying social work and me engineering.

Unless

That's a pretty ironic, a strong signal. Fencing is a strong nerd sport, alright, she went right into the lion's den to emerge with you. IMHO, we should always be aware who is stalking us. So, you met her, enrolled in fencing, she enrolls in fencing, and somehow pays someone off or intimidates them to get them to switch partners? Man, sirens should have been going off at that point. I guess college is very distracting.

Pkruse

I was clueless about anything that did not require a slide rule or a deck of punched cards. But it all worked out very well. Back in those days most folks did not know what stalking was. It was not part of our national consciousness. Things are different today.

SpinellTymon

They like kinda strange, not so strange that she doesn't like you two days after she asks you out. Nice and nerdy.

GIRLLOVER18

i say it to girls and never works..i thought it was a great line also .
but i ain't nerdy/smart guy either so maybe its a girl line.

Antiphon

Nerdy guys like what all guys like in girls. Health, youth (aka fertility) and a rough match in the looks/intelligence/income/social power scale.

The Nerdy guys equations are usually skewed by their overactive brains. This results in vaccilation, low or no confidence, and a tragically incorrect set of criteria by which to sort them out ("they should love science as much as I do so I won't have to figure out how to talk about shoes or shopping.") This usually makes the girls run for the hills.