Can't stop thinking about a girl

turbo

That might be the case, but I don't think that's a hard and fast rule. In HS, I had female friends. Some became closer over the years, and some became match-makers hooking me up with other girls. It is quite possible for friends to become romantically involved.

Evo

I'd say that real friends becoming romantic is very rare. If a guy has female "friends", that meant the women had no interest in them romantically, trust me. Trying to hook a male friend up with someone else is a way to keep the guy away from them. I know because us girls did that to men we weren't attracted to.

Monique

That really is a very different situation from the one described by the OP.

Monique

Here is a situation of someone that has carried on for over 10 years, friend is in "quotation marks", as in "with benefits":

Female A wants to befriend male A, however becomes friends with male A's friend male B, she then meets male C and becomes friends with him. She still has male B as a friend and has an eye on male A.

She marries male C, male B commits suicide. She's mourns the loss of male B and is consoled by male A, who becomes a friend. However, male A is in a relationship with female B.

Situation: Female A is married with male C, at the same time was in a relationship with male B (who took himself out of the situation), and now in a relationship with male A, who is in a relationship with female B. Female A wants to stay friends with male A, despite the protests of husband male C.

How is that good and healthy? The damaging thought in the above situation is that "It's OK to be "just" friends". If the situation is inappropriate it is better to take distance, unless you're out to do damage.

xdrgnh

The best remedy is finding another girl. The 2nd best remedy is just time.

luis20

wise words