like a girl at work...

arildno

You are such an innocent..that's very charming in you.

Physics_UG

Everyone at this company includes their cell phone number in their contact info. She just told me to see her signature for contact info. I don't think she meant anything by it.

DaveC426913

Seriously. I don't know what that means in this context.

(If I had to guess I'd say - it involves shoes and mirrors? And that is was a facetious, rather than serious remark?)

DaveC426913

Just ask her for coffee awreddy.

Why do people think it's only guys who are shy about first contact?

Physics_UG

well, if I run into her again in this giant building I will ask her.

Skrew

Never ask a girl out on a date that you have to see often. When she says no or breaks up with you, you will see her often and it will be awkward.

dipole

What's this nonsense about company policy?

Just ask her out, don't let a company tell you how to live your personal life. You don't have to let other people at work know.

DaveC426913

Yes you do.

At least, if it's company policy you do. At companies where this is policy, employees will have signed an agreement upon hire that they agree to abide by company policy. Violating it is often a firing offense.

Physics_UG

I doubt I will even run into her again. :(

Also, I went to the gym today after 2 yrs of neglecting it. I could barely run a mile. I also gained a lot of weight. I need to either work out more or find a cute but non-picky girl.

Physics_UG

indeed. but I will probably never run into her unless I deliberately try to "run into her", but that's creepy.

DaveC426913

Bah. You're just trying to rationalize your way out of it.

No it's not. That's what asking someone out that you like is about.

There's a comfortable gap between deliberately running into someone you work with anyway, and stalking someone by hanging around where you shouldn't be hanging around.

Physics_UG

The only thing I can devise is to stand around her office area and wait for her to come out. Then pounce on her.

Monique

zoobyshoe

Work out more. You'll like yourself better.

Physics_UG

Well, I saw her in the parking lot a couple days ago. We said hi to each other but that's about it. She was getting into a car with one of the other HR guys. Don't know if they are dating or not.

r4z0r84

Might be her brother, Uncle, Friends Boyfriend, you dont know. I have met someone through work, i did nothing and hated myself for it. All i can suggest is trust your gut instinct, if she makes you go all gaga like a baby inside and she smiles when ever she seen you, go for it! Come to think of it, there are two girls at my current workplace that i like, but i do not love them or have the same feeling as i did towards the other girl, just make sure you like them for the right reasons.

The right reasons, Personality, Eyes and how they make you feel. All other visual things can be deceiving, i once knew a girl that i thought was the most stunning girl i had ever met, i talked with her and she turned out to be a complete snob and was flirty with all the other guys.

I think base line you should find out if she is single first, talk about guys you see her with, this way you get to find out if she is already taken and sometimes find out how she likes to be treated, from this you can suggest meeting up for a coffee or a hot chocolate depending on what she drinks to continue your conversation.

Don't worry about what you will say while your drinking your hot chocolate/coffee, just dont drink it so fast that you burn yourself or make it seem as if your rushing to get away, relax n blabber on about anything (dont talk about ex girlfriends) if you feel the urge to talk about one of your ex's refer to them as a friends current girlfriend and tell her that your friend is stupid for being with her, this ensures you are a decent guy and are looking for the same sort of relationship as she is.

Dont come on too strong! i have screwed alot of relationships up by thinking THEY ARE THE ONE AND ONLY, blasting my way into trying to start a relationship, this causes so many problems its just not worth it. go with the flow.

I am not happily married but i guess i have had my fair share of girlfriends to know what love is and what lust is.

Your eyes can sometimes decieve you, dont fall for someone until you get to know what they are really like.

Hmm i think i have definitly said too much, i do wish you all the best in bumping into her again and if you do just openly talk about how you felt when you first seen her, trust me it will either end in happyness or resolution, either way you are able to either can her from your prospective so you can move on with your life, or open a gateway to a whole new world of plus one.

Good luck!

turbo

You don't have to be aggressive or forward. Just be nice. That will serve you well in the long run.