Do women really look at a man's shoes?

BhutJolokia

I'm okay with any woman willing to judge me by my shoes keeping herself out of my life.

dkotschessaa

Beneath what, though..

Monique

Isn't that a bit judgmental in itself? Do you really think that your appearance does not influence how people perceive you? Look at society and it should be very clear that appearance plays a big role, whether you like it or not. One needs to be a robot to have a completely blank impression of a person.

Recently there was a discussion here on open-back tops, are people shallow for judging women on the tops they wear?

Women who appreciate a pair of shoes are shallow, but people who find open-back tops poor taste, the showing of bra straps tacky, the trend of bra-less look attractive are.... ? Just as shallow as they claim other people to be?

nazarbaz

L'enfer, c'est les autres... The others are hell. Being capable of suspending it's own judgment is the most important skill a decent man should develop. Although they are a far more superior kind of beings, don't ask women's to do that : they have to find a partner in order to breed. But shoes ? Really ? What qualities do you look for in a man ?
I met a poet with no teeth yesterday. He was wearing a 5 euros pants and a pair of very old shoes : no one knows that he's part of the elite. An incredible mind. He doesn't care. A man without qualities.

Michael Redei

Maybe this is a bit simplistic, but I think men who don't wear nice shoes fall into one of these categories:

1. Those who can't afford good shoes.
2. Those who could afford good shoes, but don't realise that others are judging them by appearances.
3. Thoes who could afford good shoes, know that it would impress others, but don't give tuppence about their opinions.

I guess many of us want to belong to the third group, i.e. be rich and cool (or at least cool alone) without having to show off, like this guy:
But then we must really live with the fact that most others will avoid us, because they think we belong in one of the other groups (poor or ignorant).

xxChrisxx

Why on earth does everyone take everything so bloody literally? The original idea behind the concept was not 'what shoes are being worn', but the care behind them. I've grown up with this saying for years, but it was always about paying attention to detail. Ie wax/polish your shoes, as it keeps the water off the leather so they'll last longer and look good. And scuffed shoes will make you look like a scruff, even if you have the very best suit on.

So really the point behind this is, old shoes that have been looked after and taken care of speak more volumes about a man than a brand spanking new, very expensive pair. One who takes good care of his possessions, is more likely to take care of a lady.

Yet another thing my gran used to say to me has been bastardized into this load of horse manure.
http://www.ehow.com/how_5101878_tell-man-his-shoes.html

Jimmy Snyder

I cried because I had no shoes until I met a man with no feet and I asked him, can I have your shoes?

Ivan Seeking

Haha, when I was much younger I didn't think I cared what women wore until I realized how much it influenced my impression of them. I was actually shocked to realize how much of a difference make up and clothes can make. I thought I was more perceptive than that!

When Tsu and I met I would often work after hours in shorts. She was too busy looking at my legs to notice my shoes.

Ivan Seeking

I cried when I met a man with no feet. And then I met a man with no head...

nitsuj

Too funny!

turbo

I had an old pair of pig-skin Reebocks that were so comfortable. I about cried when I had to retire them. They weren't pretty, but they were comfortable as all get-out. Back then, I could easily run 5-6 miles/day and I should have just been happy that they held up as long as they did.

seaofghosts

I don't notice them unless they're particularly bad. But that goes for everything... clothes, hair style, hygiene, etc... If someone's shoes are bad but they're still nice, then it doesn't matter.

Hygiene on the other hand... that trumps just about everything.

turbo

In my old age, I have reverted back to my teens. I wear comfortable running shoes/court shoes when it is warm and well-worn and comfortable work boots in the winter. If my wife should pass away before me, women who would judge me by my shoes would be weeded out pretty quickly.

Chronos

Err, uh ... forget it.

OMGCarlos

Hahaha I would say they were by the door so I just put them on, but I doubt anyone would believe that (it's true, I swear :P )

Monique

Let's back it up with some peer-reviewed research

Journal of Research in Personality, Volume 46, Issue 4, August 2012, Pages 423–430.
Shoes as a source of first impressions

dkotschessaa

My wife is always insisting I need new shoes. I have like 20 pairs now. I won't even talk about how many she has.