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humanino
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Dear PFers,
Yet another public display of personal problems...
I have a pretty dull poll to issue today, but as you will guess, advices will be greatly appreciated in my situation.
Say you are quite in love with your girlfiend, but not living in the same area. Say you happen to notice something wrong, and when prompted she has the honesty to admit that she cheated on you, exactly when you thought it happened. Imagine she says that it was quite stupid for her to do that, that it has been torturing her, that she is sorry and just really wants things to work out still now. What would you do ?
Just let go on the stupid mistake, it has nothing to do with a real, true and deep love, the kind you thought would never happen anymore ? But then, will this not bring more problems later ? I am not just saying "cheating once, will cheat again". I am saying that it would take a lot of efforts for me just to forgive and let go, come back to her just as if nothing had happened, considering that that will definitely affect our relationship. Will this affect our relationship like in "after going through that, the two of you will be even stronger" or will it affect the representation that she has of me ? If it changes her representation of me, will it be in a positive or negative manner ?
Comments, as I said, are greatly appreciated.
Yet another public display of personal problems...
I have a pretty dull poll to issue today, but as you will guess, advices will be greatly appreciated in my situation.
Say you are quite in love with your girlfiend, but not living in the same area. Say you happen to notice something wrong, and when prompted she has the honesty to admit that she cheated on you, exactly when you thought it happened. Imagine she says that it was quite stupid for her to do that, that it has been torturing her, that she is sorry and just really wants things to work out still now. What would you do ?
Just let go on the stupid mistake, it has nothing to do with a real, true and deep love, the kind you thought would never happen anymore ? But then, will this not bring more problems later ? I am not just saying "cheating once, will cheat again". I am saying that it would take a lot of efforts for me just to forgive and let go, come back to her just as if nothing had happened, considering that that will definitely affect our relationship. Will this affect our relationship like in "after going through that, the two of you will be even stronger" or will it affect the representation that she has of me ? If it changes her representation of me, will it be in a positive or negative manner ?
Comments, as I said, are greatly appreciated.
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