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cronxeh
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Jack, are you a virgin?
Topher925 said:I need dating advice! My problem is that I can't find a girl that I actually want to date. All the ones I meet fall under one of these categories:
1. astonishingly stupid
2. religious
3. has children
4. >50 bmi
5. only goals in life are to get hammered and be rich
6. a combination of the above
So where can a bachelor go to meet smart ambitious girls that don't fall into one of the above categories?
cronxeh said:Jack, are you a virgin?
Topher925 said:5. only goals in life are to get hammered and be rich
jackmell said:Why don't you offer something constructive that may be helpful to him, and if it involves criticizing me then just do it for goodness sake rather than beat around the bush.
Office_Shredder said:Why are you ruling out 99% of the human race?
Topher925 said:I need dating advice! My problem is that I can't find a girl that I actually want to date. All the ones I meet fall under one of these categories:
1. astonishingly stupid
2. religious
3. has children
4. >50 bmi
5. only goals in life are to get hammered and be rich
6. a combination of the above
So where can a bachelor go to meet smart ambitious girls that don't fall into one of the above categories?
nucleargirl said:be honset with her and she will appreciate it. If you don't insult her in anyway, and just tell her that you like her as a person (she's a good person) but you only see her as a friend and nothing more, and that you hope that you telling her all this won't affect you friendship, then hopefully if she's a big enough person, she will accept graciously and it won't be awkward between you two in future. If things do turn awkward, I still think it is the right thing to do on your behalf, and then I guess you just have to deal wiht the awkwardness... that's how she reacts, not your fault.
nucleargirl said:ahem... this post was deleted cos it might cause some offence to the above poster... sorry! don't mean to freak you out! I'll stop!
nucleargirl said:...:( nobody's posting anymore...
I could start a monologue! but it would make me look even more sad...
everyone's probably got interesting things to do in their lives... well I dont! not right now! I'm not in the mood!
cronxeh said:I like your advise and I agree with most of it, but it will land him in the friendzone. If she hasn't noticed him yet, he has to be noticed by her. She has to be pursuing him in her mind even if she doesn't show it. At high school level this is best done by either being a prep or a jock. Cultivating multiple female friendships and being 'seen' hanging out with them while the particular girl in question is in the viewing angle. She has to notice you, think about you and then initiate the contact.
By chasing her, you are likely to either end up in friendzone or simply waste so much time/energy/money trying to serenade an already horny teenager.
anubis01 said:The real trick is just making sure you're both available when that happens.
brainstorm said:That never happens b/c they are instinctively drawn to want what is off limits. It is a safety mechanism designed to prevent instant gratification.
BobG said:Just another example of your insensitivity. It was only one poster that might have taken offense. You denied pleasure to every other forum member just to spare the feelings of one poster.
But this is Topher we're talking about, so maybe it's okay to make an exception?
Nah, hate to say it, but even Topher's oversensitive tear glands aren't worth denying pleasure to the rest of the forum members.
BobG said:So what are you trying to say? If she's fat, she's used to being rejected? What horribly insensitive advice!
But I do have to credit you with at least a little insight. You were perceptive enough to realize that no one with a centerfold type body would be interested in someone so nerdy that they'd ask such a lame question. Although, in its own way, that's kind of insensitive and insulting to just assume that the person asking is a nerd - or maybe it's just insensitive and insulting to come right out and say he's a nerd, since his nerdiness is a little too obvious to just ignore.
Where's Cyrus? He gives much more tender, sensitive answers than you.
nucleargirl said:um... I think you have comprehension problems. You totally misunderstood my post.
jackmell said:Sounds like you . . . well, may have some things? You're not tryin' to fix other peoples problems and not fixin' your own are you?
cristo said:I think Bob was joking. I'd advise you not to take things so seriously/literally. This entire subforum is a joke!
BobG said:Just another example of your insensitivity. It was only one poster that might have taken offense. You denied pleasure to every other forum member just to spare the feelings of one poster.
But this is Topher we're talking about, so maybe it's okay to make an exception?
Nah, hate to say it, but even Topher's oversensitive tear glands aren't worth denying pleasure to the rest of the forum members.
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