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I third having female friends first. In fact, I strongly recommend this.
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Werg22 said:Simply put, the secret to a good social life is to be able to take initiatives without caring too much about the consequences.
do you have to lose?
proton said:well, i don't want people to think I'm some desperate loser
gravenewworld said:Easiest way to pick up girls...LEARN HOW TO DANCE. It doesn't matter if you are fat, short, a terrible dresser, or a nerd, if you can dance well girls love it. One of my buddies is a really good dancer, every time we go out he must dance with a dozen or more girls in one night and they all come up to him; he literally doesn't have to do anything except dance. You'd be surprised how good you could be at dancing if you just simply stopped caring what other people think about how you move. Dancing is a powerful aphrodisiac for women. A guy that can move definitely grabs attention.
Moonbear said:WATCH the woman you're talking to/hitting on. If she's looking all around the room and not at you, get the hint and go away. Find someone else to talk to, she's not interested.
pivoxa15 said:Sure? She might be a contrarian, much like myself.
proton said:so it wouldn't seem extremely awkward if a total nerd like me took, say, a ballroom dancing class? i'd be one of the few guys there. and if i befriended the girls there, they would find out that i have no friends and took the class since I'm a desperate loser, right?
Moonbear said:Yes, I'm sure. Would you stare all around the room if someone you were interested in was right in front of you?
Poop-Loops said:If I was very nervous? Yes.
proton said:so it wouldn't seem extremely awkward if a total nerd like me took, say, a ballroom dancing class? i'd be one of the few guys there. and if i befriended the girls there, they would find out that i have no friends and took the class since I'm a desperate loser, right?
No, if you enjoy dancing and the girl enjoys dancing, you automaticaly have something in common. Having other friends means nothing. So you've not found anyone yet you care to be friends with. How do you know the girl isn't the same?proton said:so it wouldn't seem extremely awkward if a total nerd like me took, say, a ballroom dancing class? i'd be one of the few guys there. and if i befriended the girls there, they would find out that i have no friends and took the class since I'm a desperate loser, right?
Evo said:No, if you enjoy dancing and the girl enjoys dancing, you automaticaly have something in common. Having other friends means nothing. So you've not found anyone yet you care to be friends with. How do you know the girl isn't the same?
rewebster said:If you get hungry enough, you'll find something to eat----
you're not hungry enough yet
pivoxa15 said:The point of eating is to absorb nurition but what is the point of getting a bf or gf?
Unfortunately or funtunately it's not as essential as eating. Makes sense biologically as preserving the self is more important then preserving or creating others.
That's terrific! Don't think it didn't occur to her that you might be asking her to get to know her better. That she accepted doesn't necessarily mean that she is interested in you, but it means she probably doesn't dislike you. It's a good place to start.proton said:sorry to revive this thread, but i was able to get the phone number of that girl i was interested in, by setting up a study session with my other friend in the class, me, and her. did i look too desperate by asking her to join us when we've barely spoken to each other? by the way, i think i appeared shy and hesitated when i spoke, as if that matters
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