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wukunlin
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Just clarifying that this post may look like a rant on people I've meet, but really I'm looking for advices on how to work with or deal with people in these type of situations
So today in one of our undergraduate lab sessions, we needed to work through a series of MATLAB exercises.
From writing down the answer for the first exercise sheet onwards my friend start to ask me about how to do to everying single thing in every step of the way. Basically throughout the whole 90min I've been hearing:
"So what should we write for this?"
"So do we do this?"
"Why are you writing that down?"
"Then what do we do?"
"What does this letter mean?"
"Is this write is I write that?"
"Why doesn't this work?"
etc
Without exaggeration, I had like 200~300 of those questions bombarded at my left ear during that session. I ignored most of them, just answering the selected few had already made me hoarse.
What annoys me most is that
1) most of the answers to these questions are either ridiculously obvious, self-explanatory, or written in the damned exercise instructions
2) for the past year and a half, this friend of mine is pretty much an A+ student (and I'm not, more like a B+ ~ A- type student at this point) so he's definitely capable.
This is not the first time my friend has been like that, and definitely not the first time I know people who are clearly capable but have to ask for help/confirmation every step of the way.
It just made me wonder:
- is this something normal among people these days, or
- is this something about me that allows things like this or making me have a tendency to get along with these type of people, or
- I am just luckly enough to meet a bunch of people like this? although the majority of my friends aren't like that
I mean I don't mind helping people with class work every now and then but having to ask me about everything every step of the bloody way is just a little far imo.
anyone here have experience dealing with this type of people? I definitely don't enjoy offending others, can always use their help one day.
So today in one of our undergraduate lab sessions, we needed to work through a series of MATLAB exercises.
From writing down the answer for the first exercise sheet onwards my friend start to ask me about how to do to everying single thing in every step of the way. Basically throughout the whole 90min I've been hearing:
"So what should we write for this?"
"So do we do this?"
"Why are you writing that down?"
"Then what do we do?"
"What does this letter mean?"
"Is this write is I write that?"
"Why doesn't this work?"
etc
Without exaggeration, I had like 200~300 of those questions bombarded at my left ear during that session. I ignored most of them, just answering the selected few had already made me hoarse.
What annoys me most is that
1) most of the answers to these questions are either ridiculously obvious, self-explanatory, or written in the damned exercise instructions
2) for the past year and a half, this friend of mine is pretty much an A+ student (and I'm not, more like a B+ ~ A- type student at this point) so he's definitely capable.
This is not the first time my friend has been like that, and definitely not the first time I know people who are clearly capable but have to ask for help/confirmation every step of the way.
It just made me wonder:
- is this something normal among people these days, or
- is this something about me that allows things like this or making me have a tendency to get along with these type of people, or
- I am just luckly enough to meet a bunch of people like this? although the majority of my friends aren't like that
I mean I don't mind helping people with class work every now and then but having to ask me about everything every step of the bloody way is just a little far imo.
anyone here have experience dealing with this type of people? I definitely don't enjoy offending others, can always use their help one day.