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Logically, there should be a good reason both persons aren't together anymore. But, sometimes, do you have mixed feelings about it? After all, there must've been a reason you got together in the first place, yeah? Anyway, me speaking to the ex fairly regular as of late made and a post (quoted below) I read on another thread got me thinking about this.
Damn right, I am. Sure, there were some good things about it but they aren't things another woman *can't* give. But back when things got too messed up, I didn't know that. It's pretty cool how "this" made me grow in some ways and I learned some interesting things along the way. I also met other women who could more on the table: they could do what she could, except better *and* they weren't anywhere as selfish as she is. It was a very emotionally taxing experience, to say the least. Good riddance. Break ups are, more often than not, portrayed as very depressing events. It was...for a week. And a few more, because I didn't know how to deal with the absence. But, if there is such a thing as a happy break up, I think this one is a fine example of it.
And yeah, I really do agree about this. The more I talked to her, the more I saw the things I truly did not like. Things that were not very obvious then but things that meant we couldn't have worked out. At least, not for too long. Also, when somebody's been such a horrible b-word, it's hard to find the cute things cute. The cute things just look like desperate cries for attention. Just gets annoying.
How did this work out for you? Do you still talk to your exes? Have you tried doing this at some point? Or are exes and awkward encounters with them things you avoid like Rebecca Black? I would have said "the plague" but I suspect the young Miss Black here is much worse...
BobG said:Really. So if the two of you did end up in a life long relationship, her preferred solution to any money problems would be for you to just make more money? Or would it be for you just to borrow more money?
Awkward situations are sometimes the best situations of all since they reveal some things about a person that they might not advertise.
I think you're lucky she's an ex.
Damn right, I am. Sure, there were some good things about it but they aren't things another woman *can't* give. But back when things got too messed up, I didn't know that. It's pretty cool how "this" made me grow in some ways and I learned some interesting things along the way. I also met other women who could more on the table: they could do what she could, except better *and* they weren't anywhere as selfish as she is. It was a very emotionally taxing experience, to say the least. Good riddance. Break ups are, more often than not, portrayed as very depressing events. It was...for a week. And a few more, because I didn't know how to deal with the absence. But, if there is such a thing as a happy break up, I think this one is a fine example of it.
And yeah, I really do agree about this. The more I talked to her, the more I saw the things I truly did not like. Things that were not very obvious then but things that meant we couldn't have worked out. At least, not for too long. Also, when somebody's been such a horrible b-word, it's hard to find the cute things cute. The cute things just look like desperate cries for attention. Just gets annoying.
How did this work out for you? Do you still talk to your exes? Have you tried doing this at some point? Or are exes and awkward encounters with them things you avoid like Rebecca Black? I would have said "the plague" but I suspect the young Miss Black here is much worse...