What falling in love feels like to you

Edin_Dzeko

dude that's what screwed me from the beginning. I got caught up in that "game" nonsense that people like to compare relationships to. I was too caught up in trying to be this bad guy and have her being the one that calls me and such but now I see in trying to do that I might have possibly screwed up something nice. I'm done with that route. I'm not doing that game stuff and "women like jerks" and you gotta be a bad boy anymore. Sure I wont be the perfect guy and I'll have my lacking areas but I wont take my relationship with someone as a game.

"This girl needs to be played and laid" wow you're nice.

cronxeh

Dont blame the method. You just couldnt close the deal because your timing was bad. you've been her friend aka gay brother for 4 years!!!

cronxeh

Hold on.. How many women do you meet and talk to daily? How many numbers do you get a week?

anubis01

Thats a rather unhealthy way of viewing relationships. Friendships are about enjoying the company of someone you like, not an investment.

No offence but after that long of a time your apology would be rather hallow as any positive feelings she had for you would have diminished by then. When people have wronged me in the past I've been much more receptive if they apologized in a recent time frame, after 1-2 months It would just be to late and their apology lost any meaning it would have had.

You have probably already shot your chance with this woman, but you shouldn't be apologizing because you want to "get back with her". You made a mistake, and treated her badly, you should own up to that and whatever happens afterwards, you'll at least know you did the right thing.

It'd also be a better idea to just write her an email instead, as it would at least give her time to "evaluate" instead of being put on the spot with a phone call. Hope everything goes well with your lady friend.

nucleargirl

Good on you edin! This is more like it! relationships are not games! they should be taken seriously because people's feelings are at stake and you could really hurt someone! - like screw them up by playing with their feelings... then they'll end up... not so nice and unable to love! and no-one wants that on their conscience!
Dont be a bad guy - I mean come on, would you want a serious relationship with a bad girl? no, one night maybe, but not as a wife. so the same the other way round! Some girls might find it exciting and just want to try it, but I think most women do not want to seriously go out with jerks.
Dont worry - no body is perfect. Its good that you learnt from your mistakes, so the future will only be better!

nucleargirl

Quality not quantity dude! one true love is worth a million phone numbers!

FrancisZ

I guess it is at least partly my own fault, but I think this thread has seriously digressed somehow. Generally, phone-call-mind-game-revenge is not a positive indicator of authentic feelings of affection toward one another.

Loyalty, on the other hand, is definitely a sign.

cronxeh

Experience is a brutal teacher. Francis with his one lover. Nuclear is infatuated with some guy who is probably cheating on her right now. Fun times.

nucleargirl

dude, you wont believe how forgetful girls can be! Like I'm really forgetful - I just dont remember! I blame it on a lack of sleep during my younger years! Also some girls are like goldfish about the good things you do for them, and like elephants aboout the bad things you've done! So, I guess if you fall in love with a girl like this, you have to be understanding and forgive her if she doesnt remember - the things probably meant a lot to her, she just cant help it!

nucleargirl

yeah, it sucks when people hurt you huh! Best thing to do is to not do the same to others I think. But the up side is that the brain is amazing! and people CAN change themselves! you might have been hurt, but you can become a better person from it!

FrancisZ

True. But you can't let it corrupt you.

cronxeh

Nobody is saying you have to treat women bad. Just dont let them walk all over you. Its only fair to have a straightforward framework for courtship that is actually based on psychology. Women ARE different than men and have different priorities and desires than guys.

And hey.. Quality over quantity? Who are you to judge these people?? All women i meet and talk to are amazing and have very respectable lives. Treat everyone with respect and you shall receive respect.

FrancisZ

Well, anyway, I wish you wouldn't knock the notion of writing (you're doing it even now). It doesn't matter what her friends think (unless she can't think for herself); it only matters what the both of you think.

cronxeh

Like i said. She knows. There is no going back now. She hates me and i hate her. Its the cadence of reality

nucleargirl

Whoa!!! you know, this comment doesnt sound one bit like something a macho confident man would say! thanks for worrying about me tho :) I appreciate your care and attention.

nucleargirl

ok, good for you! I'm just saying, in my own humble opinion, I'd rather find one true love than to have a million phone numbers!

cronxeh

That is infatuation and not intellectual love. Its really hard for me to type this on my phone, look up the difference in this thread