Describe your experience of "falling in love"

Loren Booda

The_Professional

I've yet to experience falling in love with somebody. I heard that theres this euphoric feeling at the early stages of love, but I also get the same feeling from reading a book I find stimulating.

pace

uh well.. I don't think I got proper explanation for it.
I fell in love with a chick at high-school. I kinda idolized her, she had this angelic face and she was reflective and calm. She played the cello and had curly blond hair to her shoulders.I can't remember when I first started feeling stuff.
Then everytime I looked at her my heart bumped. When she was standing too close I had hard to concentrate on anything else. At one of my school pictures she stood beside me and I had suuuch a red face lol. But it's a good and warm feeling. hm.
I was in love with her at my last two years at high school, but I never dared say anything to her. Also because I thought she thought I was stupid. But I should have said something, or done something.

jimmy p

I walked past a mirror and POW!!! love at first sight.

jimmy p

OK, being serious now. I suppose when I was FIRST in love there were a lot of feelings running through me... the sight of my (then) girlfriend would cause my heart to jump and start racing. Sometimes it would cause to me to make a fool of myself...but then again, no more than usual. All I could do was think about her and being close to her just made me feel real special... I suppose as time went on, all these feelings dulled down, I still loved her, but I suppose it was less....intense. And then eventually, as the cookie crumbles, we broke up and now I am back to the cynical little man I used to be.

pace

Jim, one things for sure, a funny one you are.

Kerrie

when i first saw my daughter a moment after she was born, i was "in love"...i have learned that love between a man and woman takes work, a lot of work.

hypnagogue

To state it simply I would say it's mostly characterized by euphoria in the accepting presence of the loved one, and infatuated preoccupation or even overexaggerated emotional distress in the absence of the loved one. Very strong and persisting emotions, to the extent of changing one's way of perceiving the world, while it the peak aspects last. Profound feelings of sentimentality, joy, carefreeness, etc.

That said, no explanation will be adequate to capture the full range of the experience to someone who has not experienced it. Despite some resemblences, romantic love isn't just a linear combination of more common 'everyday' emotions (such fondness, euphoria, familial love, etc); it's really a novel emotional state in its own right, so one who hasn't experienced it can't quite reconstruct it using analogies to one's everyday experiential reservoir.

Evo

I've never been in love. I've been infatuated, had a few crushes, but nothing I'd call love.

I've met some great guys, funny, smart, nice, but I rarely have a relationship that lasts longer than three months. I just don't see the point in dragging out something that isn't right. I've even been married due to pressure to settle down and have a family, but it was horrible.

Oh well. At least I am not in a bad relationship.

tribdog

three months? that's horrible! Here's a question, don't be offended, do you sleep with someone right away? I've dated for three months before sleeping with someone, if you don't sleep with someone right away do you break up with them soon after you have sex? I only ask because I want to sleep with you. lol just kidding, I ask because there has to be a reason why you only last three months and in my opinion sex is a big part of a relationship-that's why I'm so damn good at it.

Evo

I wouldn't say that I sleep with them right away, but within the three months. How can you wait three months?? No, I don't break up with them soon after sex. It's not the sex, it's usually an issue of compatabitly or maturity. I know what I want and need, unfortunately, most people don't. I would rather be alone than be miserable in a relationship where I had to compromise myself. Ok, except once I refused a second date with a wonderful guy because he was the worst kisser I had ever encountered. I almost drowned.

It's compatibility. heheh, hmmmm, well, I'll just have to believe you, won't I?

tribdog

Don't take my word for it. ask jimmy p

jimmy p

and what would you be implying ther Mr. Dog?

tribdog

OH, so now it's Mister, is it? Well, Mr. Cold as Ice you get what you want and it's so long, la di da. I see how you are.

jimmy p

I always thought you liked having the authority, you know taking command and that... well you USED to like it!!

tribdog

Lol, you make me laugh.
Kinda cute too. Whatcha doin' later?
Same time, same place? I've got brussel sprouts!

jimmy p

ooh brussel sprouts? you DO love me!!! I'll bring the....you know