why do girl play these stupid games? (kind of long)

offtheleft

okay, ill try to explain this situation a best as i can.

so, i started talking to this girl. im not quite sure how it all started but i seemed cool so, i went with it. a cool thing (i thought so) was the fact that we hang out with a lot of the same crowd. so i got to see her often and see my friends at the same time as well. so, we started hooking up a bit, nothing too crazy. all of a sudden she has a boyfriend. completely lost i kind of just stopped talking to her. one night my friends invited her out with us, i didnt complain. id rather still be friends. and it was like nothing changed. she was hanging all over me, favoring my every move, etc. as we all were leaving she just came up to me and made a move. still, im very lost. i get into my friends car and ask... doesnt she have a boyfriend? they both said, yeah she does...so im quite aggravated at this point.

a couple nights later i get a text from her. i dont remember exactly what it said but i ignored it. about an hour later she comes into where i work and starts talking to me. asking why i didnt reply. i couldnt ******** her saying my phone is in the back because my friend called and she heard it go off... i just siad i was busy and didnt get a chance to reply lol. but, shes hounding me with questions and keeps trying to make me play the "guess what" game. i, being my normal self (im a total *******, btw. ill explain more later) and i would reply with remarks such as "you hit 5 ft?" because i do believe she's a legal midget. long story short because, she was there for nearly an hour pretending to shop and prettymuch just annoying me. she finally came out and told me that she was finally single. i found that quite amusing. she got me to walk her to her car, which i had no problem doing because that meant i didnt have to be working lol. we get to her car and yet again, she makes another move. i figured it was alright since she was single.

she leaves, i go back into work. about thirty minutes until the end of my shift i call my friend back. hes hanging out at dunkin donuts with other mutual friends and told me to go there after work. nothing out of the ordinary, im there almost every night. i meet up with every one and he told me something like "oh, **** was just here with her boyfriend." i ask how long ago. he said... they just left as i was pulling in. so, i guess you can imagine, at this point im livid. i explain that she was just in there place where i work and she pulled this on me. everyone was quite lost.

i think about a week later her and i were hanging out, im not sure how it went down but she told me for sure. her and her boyfriend are over. he had three girlfriend and would disappear for weeks at a time. so i think at that point we were talkin again. hanging out every other day, hooking up, etc...

one night im texting her asking to hang out and i get as a reply "no, i cant. im working late and i have so much homework. im already tired so im just going to stay in tonight" im a very understanding person so i was like... okay that cool. another time than. and yes, that night i went to dunkin donuts with all my friends and just sat around. but, im getting out of the car and guess who pulls in? she does... she sees me there and her jaw hit the floor.
1, dont lie to me
2, if youre going to lie... dont go to a place where there is a 90% change that im going to be
3, dont run up to me like like nothing is wrong and expect me to greet you with open arms.

so yes, she comes up to me and tries to kiss me. considering shes up to my chin, height wise. i gave her a kiss on the forehead and walked away. was not the nicest to her all night but she still doesnt know why nothing is wrong. im so irritated i dont even bother trying to explain it. even as we leave... she offered to give me a ride to my car(which was at my friends house) and wanted to hang out. i kindly turned them down and left.

thursday morning... like three days after that incident. she texts me asking "whats happening between us" i reply with "id like to know my self" and that was it... no reply. nothing. that kind of pissed me off.... friday morning i get to class (she goes to the same school) and i start texting her... id rather talk it out instead of doing what im doing. so i ask for a ride home. this way we can talk. she takes me home and we talk a little. all seemed good. before i left we kissed and i went inside. its about 10am lol. my class ended at 920. as she leaves, on her way to work. we start texting again. and while in the car i asked what her plans were for the evening. she said shes going out to dinner with some friends.... so i ask... would you like to hang out tonight?? id like to see you? i got this direct quote... "no. i have plans. sorry." such a dry and rude statement... than i got another text not to long after because i texted something silly a a joke and she flipped. i got mad so i just went to sleep.

so other words were said. it all seemed okay than its back to crap... i tried to talk to her today but trying to hold a conversation is impossible. what do i do from here? just stop talking to her? ive gotten suggestions like "ignore her and let her come back to you" or "make her jealous" and some other stupid ones. but i was looking for more options. but im about to give up lol

Monique

Don't even invest time into someone who is playing games like that.

Math Is Hard

I agree with Monique. This girl is going to bring you nothing but aggravation.

makethings

wow i can't believe I read all that.

If she is with other boys, then she is trouble.

Just go study. Find someone better later on.

gravenewworld

All women/girls are psychotic, you just have to find the one that is psychotic to the least degree.

B. Elliott

Agreed. Just leave her alone.

I think it mainly had to do with the places I was hanging out at, but i've run into situations very much like that before. At the heart of it, girls like that are just plain flighty and attention seekers.

IMO, she's intentionally playing games with you for attention. She's also probably doing the exact same thing with her current 'boyfriend'. Any relationship you have with her, won't go anywhere that's good.

She has a lot of growing up to do.

JasonRox

She has a boyfriend... who cares.

Never stops me.

I don't see what's aggravating. She wants you and you want her. Your problem is that she has a boyfriend. She has no problem with that. Only you do. So technically, your only aggravating yourself.

Borek

Run for your life.

Borek

If such situations suits you - that's OK. But it seems like offtheleft doesn't like the situation, so he will be only loosing time and nerves. It is not worth it in the long run.

rootX

Talk to her other boyfriend

Maybe, you will get a better idea why she is doing this or you might help the other guy.

Math Is Hard

No, I think the boyfriend is out of the picture:

The problem is that she is acting ambivalent. She acts like she's interested, but then he asks her to get together and she turns him down.
She also lies and says she has too much homework to go out - and then he finds out that she did go out.

offtheleft

no no no... it had officially ended somewhere in there.




even if they were still together i would never do something like that. im not looking to cause trouble and she would get here **** end of the stick down the line sometime...

offtheleft

YES, what the hell?!@

Ben Niehoff

Ignore her; she's just playing with your mind. Your feelings for her will disappear in a week or so. Then later you can find somebody who's more honest.

rootX

I think she is an idiot who is just harming herself in the long run. If you ignore her she would just find someone else and continue to waste her and others' time. She need to know and understand that she is not being good and honest to herself and others.

john16O

yeah, until the boyfriend finds out and beats the Sh!t out of you...i hate people who would do something like...esp. if you KNOW if the girl has a b/f...don't step on other peoples toes, becuase what goes around comes around. There may be your dream girl one day, and then some guy does the same sh!t to you..JasonRox, if you keep that habit of chasing other people's girlfriends, one day someone will find you all fukked up in an ally.....

john16O

but anyways, i totally agree with this statement...and if you have a hard time withing getting this girl off your nuts, just bring the issue to her boyfriends attention. I am assuming though that you atleast know of him. This would probably infuriate her and she will never talk to you again, which is what you may want...