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My new years resolution is to try to make some friends in real life. I have signed up for that meetup.com site and I'm trying to figure it out. There were 3 groups I was interested in - one has already broken up, another costs $300/year in membership fees, and the other is a walking group which might might be just for seniors. Anyone else had good luck with that? The older I get, the more friends I lose, and the harder it is to make new ones. I'm in my early 40s now. My friends have gotten married, had kids, moved away. I have only one friend I do things with but she lives almost an hour away and is busy with her kiddo a lot. I'm not really sure what other things I can do to make friends. I'd like to find some people to go out to restaurants with, hang out and plays cards with, maybe go see some live music.  PhysOrg.com science news on PhysOrg.com >> Front-row seats to climate change>> Attacking MRSA with metals from antibacterial clays>> New formula invented for microscope viewing, substitutes for federally controlled drug  I thought you were married  Blog Entries: 13 Recognitions: Gold Member Science Advisor Staff Emeritus No, I live alone with a cat. It's pretty pathetic. ## New Year's resolution Ok---I was absent for about a year---I kind of remember something about a 'boyfriend' back then with you-----meltdown?  Get married. Have children. Voila! People to spend time with. Or get more cats. ;-) I dunno. I've pretty much lost all my friends to various issues. Because of my schedule I am rarely ever able to get together to do anything with anyone so no one ever calls me and I spend almost all of my time at work or at home alone. I don't even have a cat. So it could be worse.  Quote by TheStatutoryApe Get married. Have children. Voila! People to spend time with. Or get more cats. ;-) I dunno. I've pretty much lost all my friends to various issues. Because of my schedule I am rarely ever able to get together to do anything with anyone so no one ever calls me and I spend almost all of my time at work or at home alone. I don't even have a cat. So it could be worse. I'll give you MIH's phone number--- -uh, wait, I don't have it, sorry  Admin I can tell you where I have found a group of interesting people in my area - while you don't live exactly close that may give you some idea. I am a little bit interested in history of Warsaw, and I have googled a forum of similar addicts. It occured they organize a walk each month in different parts of the city - no fee, no nothing, come with us if you are interested, don't expect to be told stories about the city, but you are invited to share whatever you know about the places we are passing by. When we can't walk any longer we stop to drink beer and call our wifes to get us back home... Well, this final part may not work for you. Blog Entries: 14  Quote by Math Is Hard My new years resolution is to try to make some friends in real life. I have signed up for that meetup.com site and I'm trying to figure it out. There were 3 groups I was interested in - one has already broken up, another costs$300/year in membership fees, and the other is a walking group which might might be just for seniors. Anyone else had good luck with that? The older I get, the more friends I lose, and the harder it is to make new ones. I'm in my early 40s now. My friends have gotten married, had kids, moved away. I have only one friend I do things with but she lives almost an hour away and is busy with her kiddo a lot. I'm not really sure what other things I can do to make friends. I'd like to find some people to go out to restaurants with, hang out and plays cards with, maybe go see some live music.
You are in early 40s?

 Mentor I thought I was the only one with this issue! I tend to make friends easily, but then things happen to them. They get transferred, their husband gets transferred, they go to work for Microsoft and are never heard from again...one friend became sick with something that causes seizures and can't drive, and her husband keeps her sequestered . So I've sort of given up. Not that that's a good solution, mind you . But I've started a few things lately: volunteering at the zoo, taking martial arts, taking a physics class (OK, that's not the best place to meet female friends, haha). So, at least I'm busy. I get the impression, MiH, that most women in our age group are too busy with family and career to socialize much.

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 Quote by Math Is Hard My new years resolution is to try to make some friends in real life.
 Quote by lisab I thought I was the only one with this issue!
Maybe it helps if one of you should move to Washington state or perhaps one of you should move to California?

 Quote by Math Is Hard No, I live alone with a cat. It's pretty pathetic.
 Quote by lisab I thought I was the only one with this issue!
Same club. But I'm five years out of a fourteen year live-in relationship. I'm good with it all being about the cat and me. I have decent people who I work with to do basic "stuff" with, but mostly I'm fine by myself. Most people just wind up bugging me anyway.

 Quote by Andre Maybe it helps if one of you should move to Washington state or perhaps one of you should move to California?
If Lisa moves to California then there will be three of us! Though I would not necessarily wish that on her.

 Recognitions: Gold Member My New Year's resolution was not to make a New Year's resolution. (FAIL!) Kidding aside, have you considered doing some volunteer work? You might meet some nice altruistic people that way that could turn into friends. My friend's mother volunteered a LOT when she retired, and when she died, her memorial service was packed!! She had a lot of friends that many of us knew nothing about. She had a lot of causes, but one big one was teaching English to adults as a second language, and helping immigrants navigate through the naturalization process so they could become US citizens. She was a pharmacist and had been raised as a Quaker (no alcohol, no caffeine for her) and was incredibly tolerant of others. Her son and I were hell-raisers, but as long as we were ethical and decent to others, she never said a word when we acted up (where did you get that massive string of loud firecrackers?). She attended Unitarian services in a town about 50 miles away, and made a lot of contacts there.
 Blog Entries: 13 Recognitions: Gold Member Science Advisor Staff Emeritus Maybe I can come visit you, Lisa, and you could show me the zoo. Or we could go visit Poland! People seem friendly there. Or maybe we'll both be all wrapped up in graduate studies soon and too busy to even think about doing anything else, so it won't matter. TSA is right. I need more cats.

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 Quote by rewebster Ok---I was absent for about a year---I kind of remember something about a 'boyfriend' back then with you-----meltdown?
I broke up with him quite a while ago.

 Quote by GeorginaS Same club. But I'm five years out of a fourteen year live-in relationship. I'm good with it all being about the cat and me. I have decent people who I work with to do basic "stuff" with, but mostly I'm fine by myself. Most people just wind up bugging me anyway.
Basic "stuff" sounds good. I would like someone to go to the mall with. That would be wonderful.

I went on vacation by myself last summer. I couldn't find anyone I knew who had time to get away. But when I got to my destination, there were thousands and thousands of people on vacation who did find time to get away. Where are all these fun-loving people? I had a good time, but it would have been more fun to have a buddy along.

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 Quote by turbo-1 My New Year's resolution was not to make a New Year's resolution. (FAIL!) Kidding aside, have you considered doing some volunteer work? You might meet some nice altruistic people that way that could turn into friends. My friend's mother volunteered a LOT when she retired, and when she died, her memorial service was packed!! She had a lot of friends that many of us knew nothing about. She had a lot of causes, but one big one was teaching English to adults as a second language, and helping immigrants navigate through the naturalization process so they could become US citizens. She was a pharmacist and had been raised as a Quaker (no alcohol, no caffeine for her) and was incredibly tolerant of others. Her son and I were hell-raisers, but as long as we were ethical and decent to others, she never said a word when we acted up (where did you get that massive string of loud firecrackers?). She attended Unitarian services in a town about 50 miles away, and made a lot of contacts there.
I used to volunteer. I worked at an animal shelter. I met several other lonely old cat ladies who weren't really keen on going out.

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