# The importance of dating

by powerflow
Tags: dating, importance
 Mentor P: 26,552 If you don't feel a need to date right now, especially since you are focussing on your education, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Sounds like you are level headed and have a plan in mind for what you want to do. That puts you light years ahead of many your age. Too many people feel that they have to have a romantic interest in their life and spend a lot of time trying to make it happen and end up suffering for it. Even worse, they talk themselves into an unhealthy relationship just so that they can say they have one.
 Admin P: 21,880 Let go of the urgency, and just go out and meet people, or more specifically women. During high school and university, I went out with girls I met during a job, or in class, or whom I just happened to meet on campus. Usually it was a single date, but sometime more. I really didn't push the bf/gf relationship - but I usually just let it happen. Even then it wasn't until I changed majors (from physics to nuclear engineering) and university, that I quite accidently met the woman I eventually married. If I hadn't met her, I probably would have met someone else. At the time I met the woman I married, I was seriously involved in my academics with plans to complete an undergrad degree, then going on to grad school. The dates I went on were casual dates, and sometimes, I just joined a girl (and other friends) for dinner or drinks at a local bar.
 P: 5,630 The importance of dating I think you should merge your drawing with socializing with women. I learned this from another artist years ago: sit and draw in cafes where people can see what you're doing. You'll notice people lurking nearby to watch. If it's a guy, ignore them. If it's a girl look up and say "Hi", and invite them to have a closer look if they want. You strike up a conversation. They'll ask you questions. You can say "Have a seat and let me try a quick sketch." Go with what happens, make friends with them. Some will volunteer to model, some will also be artists so you can invite them to sit and draw with you. Go to the same cafe at the same hours the same girls will come back and check in with you. Sometimes they bring friends: you meet more girls. You don't have to regard any of them as potential dates, it's just a way for you to stay in touch with girls, not get alienated.
 P: 1 dating is nt all thing in our life but i ythink it is very important thing esp it push you to do many things and make you to see many things you couldnt see it like kisssing and many good feelings plz don`t forget me if u success in dating with any one ?!!!!!
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 Quote by powerflow Anyway, what I'm saying is I don't really know whether I behave the right way concerning women/dating (or rather not dating), and I wanted your view on that. Is my status quo OK over bad?
Why would you want anybody's view on this ?

Do you really not want to date ? Then don't date, and you shouldn't give a dime about what other humans think.

Do you think that you would in fact like to date but you are afraid because you feel insecure ?
Then go date.
 P: n/a Dating is important to get to know the other person. You are still studying right now, you should know your priorities. If you find the other person attractive, let her be your inspiration to achieve your dreams... Denisse
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 Quote by DenisseAFarme Dating is important to get to know the other person. You are still studying right now, you should know your priorities. If you find the other person attractive, let her be your inspiration to achieve your dreams... Denisse
I know my priorities. Dating or spending Friday night on Physics Forums. I think the proper priorities are pretty obvious.
 Mentor P: 2,990 Hi powerflow. When I was in school, I didn't date either. There was no way I would have had time. There will be plenty of time for that later. Just keep yourself on track for now!
 P: 92 Asking a person on a date is the socially acceptable way of saying 'Hey, I like you, but I don't even know you, and delude myself that I want to 'get to know you' while actually I just like to spend time with you in an environment that masks that I don't have to be able to say a word with to you.'...
 P: 68 The biggest draw back is having no money to date with! As most women want you to spend a couple of thousand of quid/bucks on them before you can go any further.
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 Quote by Freddy_Turnip The biggest draw back is having no money to date with! As most women want you to spend a couple of thousand of quid/bucks on them before you can go any further.
This is more or less what I'm talking about, both you and the women. Wake up people, think less in social norms and just do what thou wilt here.
 Mentor P: 26,552 You need to find a woman that reciprocates. I will let a man pay on the first date if he asked me out and he insists, but then I insist on paying for the second date. I always go to a first date prepared to pay incase I can't stand the guy, so I can pay and leave.
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 Quote by powerflow Anyway, what I'm saying is I don't really know whether I behave the right way concerning women/dating (or rather not dating), and I wanted your view on that. Is my status quo OK over bad?
Don't worry about the status quo. In another 15 years if you go back to your high-school reunion you'll see it doesn't matter one bit. Status is 'right now'. Your effort will provide you with something that people who are mostly concerned with status will never have. That could be money, knowledge, self-respect, a loving family; whatever it is you value and put effort into.

If you want to date then you can. You don't need superficial status unless you want superficial dates. What you would need to do is to put effort into making a connection with someone you are interested in who is also interested in you. You'll have opportunities. Many people find intelligent and hard-working people attractive.

Not really related to you, but I notice that having a large pool of possible dating opportunities doesn't seem to help in finding a person that one is interested in. Appealing to a wide variety of people doesn't peak the interest of anyone in particular in a meaningful manner. Having a smaller niche to work with, people seem more likely to form stronger bonds. But that's just me babbling again.

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