I want to love.

neyzenilhan

I havent loved anyone for a long time.
I want to fall in love with some one but how?

Matterwave

Eat a lot of chocolate maybe...I hear chocolate emulates the feelings of love - going so far as releasing the same chemicals in your brain.

Either that...or just "let your heart guide you". XD

radou

It seems to me the second method Matterwave suggested should generaly be better, since you risk ending up both with diabetes and in love if using the first one.

Galteeth

Take some MDMA?

neyzenilhan

thanks for the replies. I think I need the help of God.

Choppy

Some hints:
- take some risks
- don't force it
- try new things and meet new people
- focus on improving your happiness independently from others
- see people for who they are, not who they seem to be

radou

Another hint: apply Choppy's hints before thinking you need the help of God.

rewebster

well, when I hear someone say or imply that, it usually is that something happened where you have changed or something happened to change you. It doesn't matter if you're male or female. I know one woman that was burned (emotionally) so badly that she insulated herself (still) and hasn't allowed herself to let go of it. A lot of it is taking up a self-defensive attitude not to be burned like that ever again, when really it was her bad choice in choosing that person (guy) in the first place---she just chose that person for the wrong reasons. What do you really want in a partner?


Figure out what happened the last time (why it went wrong), then let it go. Look for someone with the same moralities as yourself.

Evo

I think it's better to not be in a relationship than to be in one because of fear of being alone or societal/family/peer pressure to be in a relationship.

I know too many people that stay in bad relationships because they are afraid of being alone. I know even more people that go from one unhealthy relationship to another for the same reasons.

The fact that you don't "fall in love" lightly with anyone that you come across sounds like you may be more emotionally in control than a lot of people. Relax and don't worry about it. Definitely do not try to force yourself into a relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship.

Greg Bernhardt

I've had two very long term relationships in my past. Currently I haven't been in a relationship for a year and a half and I can confidently say it's been the best 1.5 years of my life. Sure there are things that I miss and sure I have a fling here or there, but the freedom and identity building that you do on your own is priceless. There is a time for everything. I also advocate not forcing it. I have friends that are constantly on the look out and it just makes them seem pathetic.

rewebster

those are two reason why relationships can fail sometimes...

everyone is different and everyone has different goals, usually built from past experiences.



neyzenilhan--how old are you (approximate is OK)?

MotoH

1)Go to a rave
2) Take ecstasy
3)meet women
4)???
5) girlfriend


Works most of the time.

Norman.Galois

Misc?

Huckleberry

It would be easier to tell you how to breathe.

radou

I second that. Lots of them do it because of general insecurity, too. Among the younger population there's an almost typical pattern - they end up together at some time in high school, and stay in a pretty unstable and unhealthy relationship until they complete their studies, let's say approximately 4-5 years. Then it falls apart, in a more or less tragic style, and they are both relieved.

EnumaElish

Talking helps. Talking to a "third person" about your personal feelings and thoughts can make it easier to fall in love with someone (again).

I think you've made a good start by posting here, but actually talking with a person is better.

You can see a counselor/therapist, or you can talk to a close friend.

Remember: God helps those who help themselves.

magpies

Build a robot is my advice :)