## is it possible to date while unemployed?

If you are unemployed and pinching every penny, is there any way to date. Can you invite someone over and make them a meal for a first date? It seems that if you're not going to go out and spread some money around, you're not going to be able to impress a date. Is this perspective too cynical?
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 Mentor Yeah, that makes it tough. But not impossible. Me, if I didn't know a guy well and he asked me to his house, I'd be a bit hesitant. It's just too soon to be alone with him, in his house, on the first date. But a picnic would be nice. You could put together something simple: sandwiches, a bit of cheese, fruit, maybe wine. That would be cheap, and kind of romantic.

 Quote by lisab Yeah, that makes it tough. But not impossible. Me, if I didn't know a guy well and he asked me to his house, I'd be a bit hesitant. It's just too soon to be alone with him, in his house, on the first date. But a picnic would be nice. You could put together something simple: sandwiches, a bit of cheese, fruit, maybe wine. That would be cheap, and kind of romantic.
Good idea, but where would you picknick that wouldn't be to secluded as to generate fear?

## is it possible to date while unemployed?

 Quote by brainstorm Good idea, but where would you picknick that wouldn't be to secluded as to generate fear?
Public park, during the day, perhaps.

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 Quote by brainstorm Good idea, but where would you picknick that wouldn't be to secluded as to generate fear?
Parks. There are plenty of places in a park that aren't going to make a girl nervous
 Ok, here's a slightly more theoretical question. Why can't dates be completely without consumption, even picnicking?

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 Quote by brainstorm Ok, here's a slightly more theoretical question. Why can't dates be completely without consumption, even picnicking?
They can be.

There's a museum in my city that has free admission on certain hours on certain days. You could look for something like that.

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 Quote by brainstorm Ok, here's a slightly more theoretical question. Why can't dates be completely without consumption, even picnicking?
Because having something to do with your hands helps to reduce stress. If you are confronted with an unfamilar situation, especially with meeting another person with hopes of a romance, having a distraction such as eating or drinking will help alleviate the tension.

I don't think something as constructed and requiring planning, such as a picnic, is a good choice for a first meeting. A cup of coffee, ice cream, or other such meeting which can be easily and quickly ended, or can lead to something more is much less stressful and therefor more likely to give a better impression of who you really are.

 Quote by Evo Because having something to do with your hands helps to reduce stress. If you are confronted with an unfamilar situation, especially with meeting another person with hopes of a romance, having a distraction such as eating or drinking will help alleviate the tension. I don't think something as constructed and requiring planning, such as a picnic, is a good choice for a first meeting. A cup of coffee, ice cream, or other such meeting which can be easily and quickly ended, or can lead to something more is much less stressful and therefor more likely to give a better impression of who you really are.
All these posts are good insights and suggestions. On another level, though, I just think "why does dating have to be more complicated and tense than meeting a professor in their office?" I guess once you get over that tension, it doesn't seem like anything else should be so difficult. Is dating higher stress than scholarly interaction?

 Quote by brainstorm All these posts are good insights and suggestions. On another level, though, I just think "why does dating have to be more complicated and tense than meeting a professor in their office?" I guess once you get over that tension, it doesn't seem like anything else should be so difficult. Is dating higher stress than scholarly interaction?
I think that depends on the person, and the type of person. If you can't break the tension in a date within the first 10 mins or so, you are done anyway. But personally I was never the cold call dater. I usually knew the person for a while.
 Blog Entries: 30 Its totally ok to date while being unemployed! I've got no job and I am dating! ok some ideas: drawing! that was my first date with the bf - pack some colour pencils and go to a park and draw stuff together! taking photos with an existing camera is also good. like the others said, picnics and museums are good. cycle trips! sight seeing somewhere nearby together on a bike! Hiking! walk together on a hill or along a river! Fishing! we tried to go crayfish fishing... but there were no crayfish to be caught, not even one. feeding the ducks! buy some discount bread and go to the park! chess! there was this giant chess set in the city, and we played chess! TV! lots of libraries have videos to rent for free. and if you want to spend a little money, there are loads of vouchers online for eating out/cinema! fun! lol! there's more! visiting friends! yours or theirs, go to a friends place and talk :) and if you have talented friends they might even perform for you! if really desperate for money/food, you could even go bin-diving together... but maybe not on the first few dates... and you could always look for jobs/help each other with your CV together :) Yeah, find some common interest between you two and do that!

 Quote by nucleargirl Its totally ok to date while being unemployed! I've got no job and I am dating!
He meant as a male, being unemployed isn't nearly as stigmatized for females.

 Quote by brainstorm It seems that if you're not going to go out and spread some money around, you're not going to be able to impress a date.
Most women are dating to size you up as a postective mate, not your wallet. Those who are solely interested in the latter are called gold diggers.

It doesn't matter how much money you've got if you are able to show her a good time. Infact it's more of a challenge to do something in a thrifty manner becuase you can't hide behind money. Free things require substanically more effort to pull off, and effort is seen as romantic as it shows you've thought about them and what they want. Women like that.

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 Quote by Klockan3 He meant as a male, being unemployed isn't nearly as stigmatized for females.
everyone gets unemployed at some point in their lives! its ok!
I think as long as you are trying to find a job its ok - it takes time, girls will understand.
we were both students and so had no money at all. I think its best to meet when you are both poor, and then get rich together.
 I have had friends who dated when they were unemployed. They just found women willing to pay for everything, which is surprisingly less difficult than you might think.
 Blog Entries: 12 I like the picnic idea. I would also suggest going for coffee. At most, $10 or so. Find a nice local coffee house, that has a laid back vibe. They are not usually too loud, so talking is easy. Also, no one gets (too) annoyed when you hang out for a couple of hours.  Quote by TheStatutoryApe I have had friends who dated when they were unemployed. They just found women willing to pay for everything, which is surprisingly less difficult than you might think. There's no such thing as a free drink. Seriously, though, it doesn't matter if you're male or female; when someone else is paying your way it puts you in the position of wanting to reciprocate and, if you're not in the position to b/c your income is limited, it is a recipe for feelings of embarrassment and inadequacy.  Quote by Norman I like the picnic idea. I would also suggest going for coffee. At most,$10 or so. Find a nice local coffee house, that has a laid back vibe. They are not usually too loud, so talking is easy. Also, no one gets (too) annoyed when you hang out for a couple of hours.
$10 for coffee?!? I'm still in shock that it's more than$1/cup for regular and \$2 for fancy.