Who else despises talking to their girlfriend on the phone?

gravenewworld

I know I am not the only one that absolutely despises having to talk to the girlfriend over the phone. She insists on wanting to spend over an hour or more on the phone almost everyday. To me it is just a huge waste of time out of my day everyday to have to take a timeout 1-2 hours to talk about nothing over the phone. I mean I do have things I have to get done after work. When you try to get her to stop talking and tell her you have to go she just gets mad and says "Fine, you don't want to talk to me, I see how it is" or something similar to that. GOD I HATE TALKING ON THE PHONE. I don't think I have ever talked to any of my guy friends over the phone for more than 3 minutes.

Jack21222

She's too demanding and clingy, get rid of her.

lisab

Well I don't know about the girlfriend thingy, but phone conversations in general have never been my favorite mode of communication.

And 1-2 hours?!? No way I could put up with that. If it fulfills an emotional need in her, I'd (reluctantly) say OK but let's negotiate a time limit.

staddum

Break your phone and tell her you have no money to buy a new one.

Worst case sceneario: she buys you one.

stevenb

I also hate talking on the phone (really it's just listening when it's a GF) and also feel it's a waste of time. The critical question is whether you are able to spend quality time with her otherwise. If you see her every day and are able to spend quality time with her, then you are justified to limit the phone conversations in the interest of practicality. However, if your schedules don't allow you to spend enough time together, then you'll need to devote some phone time to maintain the relationship. Even more importantly, if you don't see her often, then you should look forward to talking to her, or at least you should care for her enough to meet her half way.

jackmell

That's normal when you guys just meet and start seeing each other. Bet you've not been with her more than a month right? Females like to talk, especially on the phone, and guys in general do not. It's an affront to her to brush her off and say you got something to do that's more important than her.

I say put up with it. It will wear down as your relationship settles into normal mode, maybe after a month or so, and that one hour or so thing will vanish.

Upisoft

I am in love!

Gad

Record a tape of your voice saying a VERY long poem, put it on while you have your nap. Don't worry, she'd love to hear it everytime you call her.

Topher925

Wish I thought of that.

Dembadon

I think there needs to be a compromise. She should be respectful of your time, and you should meet her need for conversation on some level. I don't like talking on the phone, but sometimes it's the only way to connect with someone.

Also, manipulation is unacceptable. You need to speak-up when she makes extreme statements about how you feel and what you think. You don't need to bite her head off, but you should tell her that it's unnecessary.

BobG

I hate long phone calls. So many chances to make fatal mistakes.

My worst mistakes:

I fell asleep during a phone call once. That wasn't good. Never mind the fact that I'd been up for almost 24 hours straight, something that would have been obvious in a face to face conversation.

I could have sworn the conversation was over and hung up. Not only did I get chewed out for hanging up on her, I then had to endure numerous silences in the follow-up conversation that seemed intentionally aimed at having me repeat my earlier mistake (to the point that I finally started laughing, which wasn't the response she was aiming for either).

Plus several more minor mistakes, such as being asked what she just said and not having a clue. And how much credit do I get for remembering what she said an hour ago during the first few minutes of our phone conversation? Absolutely nada! Where's the justice in that?!

Pengwuino

Oh that is such BS! If a girl wants you to actively listening (which i assume since she gave you pop quizzes), she better realize that there's only so much guys can handle! If you were some... physics major and you asked your gf to always go to a weekly seminar on physics, you would seem crazy if you demanded she answer questions about what she was looking at during the seminar!

I have a friend who goes on and on and on. If she ever asked me what she just said, I'd have to say "something about something with someone ... at mcdonalds?". Most conversations seem to be mainly her wanting to blather on about something for an hour. I think she understands it. It's not a conversation or a discussion, it's just her talking, so I think she expects me to not listen. To me, the test about whether or not I should be expected to remember is how well the person lets me say something in edgewise. If I try to say something and it's as if I caught them off guard and they kinda just want to continue on with their story, I assume I can doze off. If they actually stop talking to see what you're saying, it's an actual discussion.

lubuntu

When my gf and I first started out five years ago she always wanted to talk the phone. It got to be pretty trying. I kept trying to push her towards IM since it is much less demanding form of communication. I hate having to sit there and do pretty much nothing besides "be on the phone."

Pengwuino

Bluetooth. Win. If I only had this thing 4 years ago...

rootX

I wouldn't mind saying "that's nonsense/waste of time" .. or providing a conclusion based on few minutes of conversation .

Vanadium 50

Does "Sweetheart, if we're going to talk for an hour, why not come on over? I'd love to see you" work?

Pengwuino

But then she might come over!!