Do women find men in wheelchairs attractive?

lamelegs

Do women find men in wheelchairs attractive?

Evo

Sure, why not?

Lacy33

only if the chair is painted candy apple red with multi-colored plastic streamers coming out of the handles.
only if he remembers to put on the breaks before transferring.
only if he lets me ride in the chair too.
only if he uses courtesies on the street and else where when out and about.
only if he does not use his chair as a weapon.
only if he has an effective but not alarming horn or bell for use on the street.
only if it is geared with reflectors.
only if it is well maintained for safety and comfort.


And then not at all.

Why would a woman be attracted to a man unless he was of good character, and had a strong, and solid history of good deeds?

Hepth

I once went on a boat cruise with my girlfriend and a group of engineering graduate students. Perhaps its different for guy-> girl than girl-> guy, but when people were dancing/etc there was a girl in a wheelchair that I honestly thought was MUCH more attractive than any other girl there (sans my GF obv? :) )

While wheelchairs might be a hindrance in first introductions to people that you might possibly have a CASUAL romantic relationship with (that dont last long), I don't think it'll stop the real infatuation-at-first-sight kind of attraction.

nucleargirl

You have a GIRLFRIEND????!!! heart... breaking....

nucleargirl

back on topic, yeah of course!
It doesnt really matter - if you like the guy, it really doesnt matter if he's in a wheelchair or doesnt have a face or whatever. you are in love! you love them!

Edin_Dzeko

what condition puts them in the wheelchair? will that condition stop them from being able to do certain things??

lamelegs

I don’t, but sometimes I feel like I’m wasting my time looking. It’s hard to approach women when the majority of them are uncomfortably around me. The ones that are okay with the wheelchair are either: Married, just want to be friends, or wouldn’t consider dating someone in a wheelchair, which is fine, but it doesn’t leave me with many options.

lamelegs

I have Duchenne’s Muscular Dystrophy, and no it doesn’t!!

CheshireKat

well.

first: you actually are lucky in a sense, since if there are girls that will not date you becaue you are in a wheelchair, you don't get to spend time, and possibly money, on dates with superficial girls, figuring out that they are superficial.

second: it might not be the wheelchair... there are women out ther that are already taken, and some only want to be friends... that is the same for other guys as well. I don't want to date every guy I meet, either.

and, I am a girl, I am considerably healthy, considered quite smart by most of my friends, not ugly, quite communicative - and had bad luck finding a guy recently (like, the last 2.5 years)...

I think, after a while it ist a lack of confidence, no matter how you started out. just don't let it get to you. and don't put on the pressure.

have you, btw, ever tried to see your wheelchair as an "extra"? as an asset in some sense? I bet, there is a lot of things that you can do with it, that might get girls interested... if you like geeky girls, attach a few gadgets, for example. i would sure find that interesting.

radou

Any application forms available?

CheshireKat

not yet, but where should I send one to?

nucleargirl

we could use Helixe's form from the other thread :) we seem to be in the same boat...

nucleargirl

yeah like cheshirekat says, you'll at least be screening out those superficial girls who only like guys for the way they look etc. and its not always cos of the wheelchair, people with no physical handicaps have problems finding a guy/girl too.
and when you do meet the right person, they wont care that you're in a wheelchair if they love you.

radou

Good idea!

CheshireKat

one would suppose that guys willing to fill out an application form yould go for that thread anyway... *headscratch*

radou

Actually, I have traumas from filling out application forms. I hate them. But for a higher cause...I'd be willing to fill one out.