Can a man and woman be friend?

Tregg Smith

I have friends that are girls and I'm attracted to everyone of them.

Dembadon

I'll add another one.

My wife's best friend and I are good friends. I can't speak for her, but I'm not sexually attracted to her in any way; she's just a fun person to be around.

However, I have a penis and she has a vagina. It would be foolish to ignore the possibility of things getting sexual, even though it is very unlikely. It's not like we hang out alone while drinking alcohol and eating chocolate covered fruits, but I would never put myself in such a situation; it's foolish and unnecessary.

ahitztafloor

I have alot of friends that are guys and from my point of view we have a normal person to person relationship. But thats from just my point of view; their thoughts about our friendship is a mystery to me.

ahitztafloor

I hope you are!

lisab

True, and it would be kind of awkward for a female to ask her male friends, "So, are you attracted to me?" Best that the question not be asked. I certainly don't want to know the answer !

sourlemon

totally off topic but multiquotes is totally awesome!!

Gender doesn't come into mind when I make friends. But it's harder for me to make befriend with a guy. They either have no interest in being my friend or want more than a friendship. Lolz, maybe I'm just not friend materials.

neither my sisters or close friends share the most of the things that interest as me. Yet I still love them! And that's the weird thing. I share more interest with the guys, yet I have no close guy friend.

LOL

Agree. I would (almost) never ask a guy that. But at the same time, if a guy shows sign of interest and I'm not interest in him, I try to keep a distance cuz I don't want to lead him on.

sourlemon

Lolz does that mean women don't feel the same way? They don't think they can be friends with men without being sexually attracted to them?

I wonder if everyone who answer to this has a gf/wife/bf/husband/life partner/whatever else you want to call them

turbo

Human relationships are complex. I have a distant cousin that I have known for years longer than I have known my wife. I was romantically attracted to her. There was a not-insignificant age difference when I was in college, so my focus moved to ladies in my university. Years later, she and my wife ended up working in a mill together, and she and her husband and their daughters became fixtures at our house on holidays, special occasions, etc. Now, her girls are grown and gone, but we are all still friends. And that's it. Friends. If I needed her, I'd call her, and she could get my support just as easily in tough times. We have been friends now for over 40 years.

On my 40th birthday, she convinced three of her sisters to gang up and "kidnap" me for a night of bar-hopping. I used to play music at some of those joints, and in the weeks afterward, younger guys would come up to me and ask where I got that posse. The tiniest one was the wife of the chief of police and was the designated driver, and she was getting all kinds of free drinks and foisting them on me. Later, it occurred to me that with such beautiful cousins, they could probably have asked for shots of single-malt scotch when guys wanted to buy them drinks.

Darken-Sol

before the sex. then after the sex. in all but 1 case for me. the exception is my ex wife who is very unfriendly.

Lichdar

Sure. Do you have a mother? Is she a friend to you?

Are you sexually attracted to her?

TheStatutoryApe

I find the idea that one would be attracted to a person who does not possess any of the qualities they look for in a friend rather odd. Similar the other way around. Why are you interested in being friends with someone who possesses no qualities which attract you?

Mentallic

Agreed. I develop friendships with guys because we have common interests, or they make me laugh etc. With girls, it's a lot harder to find common interests when they're into... you know... girl stuff - yet I still have as many girl friends as I do guy friends.

KingNothing

I personally cannot be friends with a girl I find physically unattractive. I also believe that friends can have sex while still being friends.

I will also say that a lot of people my age (early 20's) play naive about their friends' intentions.

Nicholasng925

Well it actually depends! I have lots of guy friends but only one close guy friend! And that's because I have some common interests with him.

I enjoy hanging out with girls too! They are just so fun to be mingled around. I wouldn't say I'm attracted to all of them apparently, but maybe only one at a time. I like to make them laugh, cause I like cheerful people. I enjoy having conservation with girls more than guys, and I don't know why. LOL!

Mentallic

That would be awesome! But from my experiences, still being friends with them as though nothing ever happened is kind of difficult. It's like the moment your spouse turns into your ex, you most probably will have sour feelings towards them.

jhae2.718

Is your name Sigmund Freud by chance?

JhonMoney

i think your question is that the male and female can be friend without taking any interest in love............