Not talking to people

Borek

I put Marzena's shoes in the corner of my room. When I am home alone I look at them to make sure I am not an introvert.

phylotree

R.P.F.

I know what you are talking about. The reason that I don't talk to people is not because I don't need company or I'm timid, it's because there are practically no people around me that are interested in the same things as I do. So I'd rather be by myself than hang out with people I'm not interested in.

I realized that I tend to worry about a lot of things when I hadn't had human interaction in a long time. The stuff I worry about may or may not happen. Even if they happen, it's gonna be after two months from now. And if they happen, there is nothing I can do about it. So there is no point of worrying, but I couldn't control myself. Glad I'm leaving in two weeks to work with other people so I can get myself out of this mess.

R.P.F.

Maybe it's a good idea for the whole office to grab some coffee together once in a while.

turbo

Due to MCS, I can rarely spend any face-time with people. We never had a telephone when I was a kid and "chatting" on the phone was highly discouraged, when we did get one. I have carried that attitude to this day, and never call anybody unless there is something significant to say. Most of my conversations are with my wife and my dog (though he doesn't say much), and I call my father from time-to-time to see how he's doing. That's about it. I'm not an anti-social person, but I don't get to talk to many people, and I'm not going to inflict myself on others via telephone.

My grandfather had to have a telephone to keep his heavy-equipment repair business going, and listening to his end of a call would sound like "What?! OK. Be there in a couple of hours." Then he'd hang up with no niceties, like "good-bye". That wasn't his style. I am not so curt or abrupt, but I share (in part) his attitude toward telephones.

dipole

I don't talk to too many people because I just find most people annoying and boring. I hate when people try to make conversation with me, it's the most exhausting thing to pretend to be interested in talking to some stranger.

I would have a conversation with girls if I'm interested in them, but I have my girl friend so I really don't need to talk to too many other people. My family from time to time, and once in a while my room mates and other friends, but strangers are really mainly a nuisance to me.

leroyjenkens

This connects to what I said earlier...
Some days go by when I don't talk to anybody all day. I'd like to feel free to talk to anybody, but I know there are people out there like you who just don't want to be bothered, and I respect that.

Are you really just annoyed by the people who strike up a conversation that lasts too long? Are you fine with people saying a few words and sharing a smile with you, and letting you be on your way? Because that's more along the lines of what I'd like to start doing. I'm trying to become more like that guy in my calc class that I mentioned earlier, and he'd do something like that.

dipole

If you approach most people in the right way they're happy to talk to you, your fears are unfounded. I'm really not a typical case, I just genuinely don't like most people, usually for no reason. I'm not shy, because if I have a reason to talk to someone I don't hesitate, but for the most part I'm just fairly judgmental and look down on my peers or something like that, I've never really figured out what my problem is.

You shouldn't not socialize because of fear, human beings are born to social with others, and it's easy to make friends if you want them. I'm always interested in the way other people interact and I see strangers get together and chat all the time. It's just that for me, I prefer the company of a very small group of people and I'm not very friendly to people I don't know.

AnTiFreeze3

Exactly. It's not that difficult to find friend friends, or at least people with common interests with whom you can talk to, if you just try. Join a community, like a math or science club, and you'll be surrounded by people with interests more or less the same as yours.

It's a little arrogant when people act as if every stranger whom they converse with is an ignorant, boring person with nothing good to say. Maybe quit chatting it up with randies at a bar if you're looking to talk about math.

Maybe the reason some of you don't talk with others often is because you go into conversations with your self-imposed superiority, expecting the other person to be stupid and boring. People catch on to that pretty quickly, and nobody appreciates it.

Besides, you're a relatively boring conversationalist if all you ever want to talk about is politics or math or science or philosophy.

leroyjenkens

I'm extremely friendly to people I don't know, IF they're nice. It's like there's so many a-holes in the world that when I find a person that's friendly, I'm overly nice to them to compensate.

I don't want a bunch of friends whom I need to divide my time to hang out with. I'd just like to have a bunch of people I know who I can email or when I see them around campus I can say hi, that's all. That usually only happens if I have a class with someone and afterwards we'll see each other around and say hi. People probably don't think I'm very friendly by the way I keep to myself sometimes, like in my computer science class. But I'm really outgoing in classes where socializing is required. And once people get to know me, that's when they start to like me. It's hard not to like me once you get to know me. That's how I think a lot of people are, I just don't know because I never talk to them. That's one reason why I want to start talking to people more.
Lucky for me, I'm too ignorant to know enough about those topics to talk about them with anybody. I'll talk about whatever, though, and try to put on the table the things that I do know.

ThomasT

For me, no.

I think that's the best way to approach it. I don't look for people to talk to, but if one of my neighbor's happens to be outside when I am, then we talk. When I'm playing a tennis match, then my opponent and I talk (usually about tennis) during breaks. When I go to a movie with somebody, then we talk about the movie. When I'm sharing a meal with somebody, then we talk about ... whatever. And so on.

Of course, if you have something you want to say and nobody around to say it to (or that you want to say it to), then there are online forums like PF.