How to make a girl fall in love with you?

DaveC426913

You are asking the wrong question. I have corrected it.

So there is this girl I like. I want to her to like me back. Can anyone teach me how to?


If you are starting from love, it doesn't bode well for where it'll go. Love is a mutual thing, earned through time and trust.

BobG

No, that will never work. Once the friend pushes her over the cliff, you have to save her. Being nice just won't be enough.

But I do agree telling someone that just plunged 500 feet from a cliff that they don't sweat much for a flat girl would be pretty tasteless.

Unless the friend pushed her over a 6 foot cliff and you failed to save her. Then being nice might be enough. She'd still probably be in a bad mood no matter what you did, though.

Antiphon

1) Become a famous multi-billionaire
2) Send her flowers hand-delivered with a sincere endorsement of your character by Johnny Depp.

Dr_Scientist

Yeah, correction accepted. Initially I thought they are the same thing, but it turns out to some people love has a really deeper meaning.

zoobyshoe

Dr_Scientist, let me ask how old you are and whether or not you've even actually ever met this girl or if she's someone you admire from afar, as it were.

Dr_Scientist

Alright, 21. The former.

zoobyshoe

That's a brief answer. Kinda inert.

Your job is to thrill us, mesmerize, fascinate us, leave us unable to think about anyone else. Make us want more. Lead us to the understanding that there has been a hole in our lives all along and you're the only person who can fill it. That sort of thing.

Dr_Scientist

And how can I do that?

zoobyshoe

I have no idea. I can't do it. I have just seen guys that can.

Dr_Scientist

Oh, that's great. how did they do it?

zoobyshoe

You should cultivate one of two things. The first option is to always seem happy. A lot of smiling, as if life itself just fills you with pleasure. Girls like this. They want to be around guys who are naturally enjoying themselves.

The second option is to cultivate a lot of presence, to be in command of yourself, to "own yourself". Know what you want, what to do. Girls like this, too. They admire a guy who isn't blown any way the wind blows, who isn't a nervous wreck, worry-wart.

Of course, you can do both at once if you can manage it. This is what people who knew John F. Kennedy said about him, that on top of his seriousness and competence he always seemed to have a smile in his eyes that indicated he was enjoying everything. A lot of women found him very appealing.

Dr_Scientist

And those are just my talent. Hahahahaha!

zoobyshoe

OK, then. You're good to go.

DaveC426913

There's a fine line between sincere presence and false presence. False presence manifests as arrogance. And girls can smell it. You can't fake it. Best just to be yourself.

But I heartily agree with the "happy" suggestion. "Smiles everyone. Smiles!"

zoobyshoe

This is true. Pretending to be the in-charge guy who knows what he wants and what to do can just end up seeming arrogant, like you're taking over by force and trying to give orders. To clarify, I gave the example of Kennedy. He always seemed focused, alert, sensitive, extremely rational, and decisive; completely persuasive as to any question of competence. The fake version is someone who is not in control of himself but is never-the-less trying to control others. The authentic version is someone who is self-aware and knows how to control himself, and is at ease with himself. That authentic guy never takes control by force. He ends up in control because others assess him as deserving it, and they give him control. Another good example of the latter is Derren Brown. He exudes very solid presence and clear focus, and it's fascinating to watch suggestible people respond by delivering themselves into his hands.

Dr_Scientist

Umm do you guys know how to tell if a woman likes you? Maybe a checklist of hints that she might show? I just want to check if she likes me already. Lol.

arildno

Pick your nose in front of her. If she is already madly in love with you, she will find some way of excusing your behaviour.