# A relationship poll - What you look/looked for!

## What you look/looked for befor jumping into a serious relationship

33.3%

23.6%

9.7%

75.0%

27.8%

69.4%

66.7%

11.1%

43.1%

48.6%

23.6%

18.1%

23.6%

47.2%
15. ### Other

40.3%
1. Dec 22, 2011

### rootX

This is similar to the "What do 'nerdy' guys like in girls?" thread but I am making this bit generic.

I have come up with the following list of things which one might look for.

Culture
Ethnicity
Income
Interests
Profession
Sense of Humor
His/Her Opinions
Food Interests
Health
Age
His/Her relationship with the family
His/Her friends
Political views
Distance/Location
Other

2. Dec 22, 2011

### lisab

Staff Emeritus
You left off kissing aptitude .

3. Dec 22, 2011

### rootX

That could have come under sex life, but I wasn't thinking of sex when I made that poll I wouldve voted for that too!

4. Dec 22, 2011

### lisab

Staff Emeritus
I guess we'll put it under "other", lol...

5. Dec 22, 2011

### micromass

6. Dec 22, 2011

### rootX

what's that?

It should fall under His/Her Opinions I guess.

7. Dec 22, 2011

### Pengwuino

Dave is not very particular

8. Dec 22, 2011

### wukunlin

opinions and sense of humour

others don't appear to be relevant imo

9. Dec 22, 2011

### bbbeard

Intelligence. Beauty. Integrity. That's most of it for me.

BBB

10. Dec 23, 2011

### TheStatutoryApe

I suppose any and all of those things can be important to some degree or other. I am not much of a family person. It does not exactly matter to me if a woman does or does not have a good relationship with her family though the type of relationship she has with her family may be an important issue. If her family is more important to her than anything that could be troublesome especially if she feels that she (and by extension I) must always make her family happy then I do not think I could handle that.

11. Dec 23, 2011

### Staff: Mentor

You forgot the top two things I look for - intelligence and kindness.

12. Dec 23, 2011

### Ivan Seeking

Staff Emeritus
I think you left out the most important quality - attraction.

This isn't a homework problem, and love is blind.

13. Dec 23, 2011

### Staff: Mentor

In my life, if the guy is intelligent, kind and has a great sense of humor, his apperance doesn't matter. I've dated mostly what my girlfriends considered very ugly men. I saw only a beautiful heart and mind. The biggest mistakes were the attractive men I dated.

14. Dec 23, 2011

### Ivan Seeking

Staff Emeritus
Just to be clear, I meant attraction in the sense that you want to be with that person, not attractiveness.

My point was that falling in love isn't an engineering problem.

15. Dec 23, 2011

### Staff: Mentor

Ah, yes.

I think it might be for some of our members. :uhh:

16. Dec 23, 2011

### Ivan Seeking

Staff Emeritus
That is my concern.

It doesn't hurt to be smart, but you have to follow your heart.

17. Dec 23, 2011

### Ivan Seeking

Staff Emeritus
And to the extent that you are guided by your head, and not your heart, make sure it's the right one!

18. Dec 23, 2011

### drizzle

+1...

19. Dec 23, 2011

### Topher925

You forgot religion or lack there of.

20. Dec 23, 2011

### turbo

There is a factor that is quite important to me. Spontaneity and honesty. If a woman was calculating and seemed to want control, that was a deal-killer right out of the chute. I won't argue for impetuous behavior (not a good thing), but if a young lady would set aside preconceptions and engage in unplanned activities that might be fun for both of us, that was a big draw. I don't care if it was climbing the local "mountain" to hang out on the bluff overlooking the intersection of two major routes here and watch the traffic (with no prior notice) or just hiking through some farmland so I could take some pictures of interesting trees, plants (or her). When a young lady acts interested in what *you* suggest as activities, that's a pretty big draw.

Even better is when she suggests alternate activities that don't involve driving 20-50 miles and spending , because that rarely resulted in "fun".