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i'm asking for guy advice. normally i wouldn't go this far as to post on a forum, but I'm really intrigued by this man.
so, i met this guy a few weeks ago. he is a physics phd student studying some complicated laser stuff. normally, a guy like that and i would never cross paths. I'm a college senior studying theater.
i had seen him around the theater campus a few times (it turns out he was doing something new - acting in a play) and we had made eye contact and smiled, so while we never talked, we knew each other. finally i got to talk to him at a party (it was the cast party for this play). he was very pleasant and sweet. i had never met anyone like him before, he was extremely shy, adorably dorky, a little awkward and very intelligent. very into physics.
we had a long conversation at the party, where i found out that he doesn't get out much and he admitted to never taking the initiative in situations. he doesn't really use facebook or do things that most other people use to keep in contact with each other. he pretty much spends a lot of time in the lab doing research. at the end of the night, we didn't exchange numbers. but the next day i ran into him on the street. i had been telling a friend about him, and he suddenly popped up out of nowhere, walking with his friends! he waved at me and gave a big smile. if i hadn't been so taken aback and embarrassed that he might have heard me, i would have stopped and talked to him, instead i just said hi and continued walking.
he accepted my friend request on facebook, so i decided to email him and invite him and his friends to a play i was working on. i had already known from our conversation at the party that he was going to be out of town (i had asked him then), but i just wanted an excuse to make contact. he replied within a few hours saying he was leaving town for 2 weeks to do research, and didn't leave much room for reply. i thought that was that, but a guy friend convinced me i hadn't been forward enough and he probably didn't understand my intentions. so i emailed him again 5 days later suggesting that we go see a play when he gets back from his research.
now it's been 2 weeks and I've yet to receive a reply. at this point i highly doubt i will get one. i am really surprised because he seemed like a really sweet and nice guy. i had thought that even if he wasn't interested in seeing me again, he would have at least responded and said he was busy or something.
in any other situation, i would have given up within a few days of not hearing back, and not bothered with the guy again. but in this case, I'm wondering if I'm missing something. was i not obvious enough? or did i scare him off by being too forward? are physics phd students interested in friendship/dating with girls or do they simply not have time for anything else but their work? i admit I'm clueless about how a phd program works, and how rigorous it is.
there's a possibility i might run into him around the neighborhood again. if i do, I'm wondering how i should handle it. should i say hi and attempt to ask him to hang out again, or should i just leave it?
p.s: i know this is a really long post about a guy i barely know, but I've been obsessing about this on and off! perhaps it is the fact that he is so inaccessible to me that just heightens the intrigue
so, i met this guy a few weeks ago. he is a physics phd student studying some complicated laser stuff. normally, a guy like that and i would never cross paths. I'm a college senior studying theater.
i had seen him around the theater campus a few times (it turns out he was doing something new - acting in a play) and we had made eye contact and smiled, so while we never talked, we knew each other. finally i got to talk to him at a party (it was the cast party for this play). he was very pleasant and sweet. i had never met anyone like him before, he was extremely shy, adorably dorky, a little awkward and very intelligent. very into physics.
we had a long conversation at the party, where i found out that he doesn't get out much and he admitted to never taking the initiative in situations. he doesn't really use facebook or do things that most other people use to keep in contact with each other. he pretty much spends a lot of time in the lab doing research. at the end of the night, we didn't exchange numbers. but the next day i ran into him on the street. i had been telling a friend about him, and he suddenly popped up out of nowhere, walking with his friends! he waved at me and gave a big smile. if i hadn't been so taken aback and embarrassed that he might have heard me, i would have stopped and talked to him, instead i just said hi and continued walking.
he accepted my friend request on facebook, so i decided to email him and invite him and his friends to a play i was working on. i had already known from our conversation at the party that he was going to be out of town (i had asked him then), but i just wanted an excuse to make contact. he replied within a few hours saying he was leaving town for 2 weeks to do research, and didn't leave much room for reply. i thought that was that, but a guy friend convinced me i hadn't been forward enough and he probably didn't understand my intentions. so i emailed him again 5 days later suggesting that we go see a play when he gets back from his research.
now it's been 2 weeks and I've yet to receive a reply. at this point i highly doubt i will get one. i am really surprised because he seemed like a really sweet and nice guy. i had thought that even if he wasn't interested in seeing me again, he would have at least responded and said he was busy or something.
in any other situation, i would have given up within a few days of not hearing back, and not bothered with the guy again. but in this case, I'm wondering if I'm missing something. was i not obvious enough? or did i scare him off by being too forward? are physics phd students interested in friendship/dating with girls or do they simply not have time for anything else but their work? i admit I'm clueless about how a phd program works, and how rigorous it is.
there's a possibility i might run into him around the neighborhood again. if i do, I'm wondering how i should handle it. should i say hi and attempt to ask him to hang out again, or should i just leave it?
p.s: i know this is a really long post about a guy i barely know, but I've been obsessing about this on and off! perhaps it is the fact that he is so inaccessible to me that just heightens the intrigue