Argh.... This is Really Not Fun So, here comes a post... I sort of need to vent and I sort of need advice. Long story short, I am 18 and heading into my senior year of high school. I met this girl about 6 months ago through a group of mutual friends. Needless to say, we eventually sort of "went out" together and ended up going to a football game together, kissing, and having fun. I really, really like her, and the problem is I think I may be obsessive about her. I also think we never really defined when we were "going out," when we were "just friends," and it seems that got us quite confused. The conundrum I am facing is that I see this girl nearly all the time when I am out with my friends (she is in my group of friends - stupid idea, I know) and really its just tearing me apart. I want to be with her, but I also really don't want to date in high school. I find her very attractive, smart, and down to earth, and I am fairly sure she feels the same, but I just don't want to have the pressure of a relationship with anyone right now. I want to focus on school, my interests, and friends, but she just invades my mind at every opportunity and I have been feeling fairly down lately and she constantly comes into my thoughts. It is stressing me out a fair amount, and I think its because I might be a tad bit possessive. Even though I don't express it, the thought of her being with anyone else is really troubling, however I don't want to be with her in a long term relationship - at least not now. The other problem I am facing is that I know this is not a healthy relationship with her. We are sort of in "no mans land"- not in a committed "relationship" but sharing a lot of feelings. I am sort of introverted, but over the past few years I have gotten considerably better and have a group of really nice, supportive friends. I really enjoy where I am right now, but this girl just won't get out of my head. And I see her at least twice a week, to boot. We talk and converse and have fun and do some "couple" stuff (we go out every once in a while and things), but I really just don't want to get more involved with her at this point in my life. I try to avoid her, I don't talk to her much, and she doesn't initiate much, but we do share an attraction for each other. I have so much ahead of me, we will be moving on to different schools most likely (we aren't at the same high school thank god), and I really don't want to have the "pressure" of a long-term steady relationship, (and all of the issues and problems that go along with it - sex, break ups, etc.) but it feels like I am breaking up with her all of the time. Its very irrational (I mean rationally she is attractive, nice, very caring, and very cool- but I just can't force myself out of that mode), but its almost like I have no control over it. I am very rational, get fairly good grades and everything, and I have good social skills and I go out regularly, but love seems incredibly irrational (I don't have a real "choice" in this it seems like). I guess the bad comes with the good.. :) I just want her back as a platonic friend, but unfortunately I don't know if I can get her out of my head or have her back on the level of "just friends". I am thinking about just going out with as many women as I know and getting to know them so I can get her out of my head, but she does kind of occupy a "special place" in my heart. I mean I am a decent looking fellow, although I am not by any means a "10," nor am I socially inept. I am not hilarious, I am not the suavest guy around, I don't do pickup lines nor am I incredibly good around girls, but I do have some options. Is this really what evolution designed us for? To make us miserable? Any advice?