It is not of much value to say "unstable until proven stable".
If the standard model were complete and the entire story, then the proton would be completely stable (up to electroweak non-perturbative corrections causing proton decay one time-scales many orders of magnitude longer than the universe lifetime)[/size]. Still, the only thing we can get experimentally are lower bounds on its lifetime. Nothing is ever "proven stable". We never measure zero. We get a very large sample of protons, we wait for a very long time, and the only thing we get is an upper bound for the probability of decay.
However, some people come up with theories beyond the standard model, with new interactions which do induce proton decay. Now _this_ is what is interesting and has value, rather than general philosophical principles. As soon as you start having unifications between the strong and electroweak sector, you must get interactions allowing for transitions between the two, and thus some kinds of proton decay.
Independently, it is true that the notion of stability is not a sharp one. Most of the time, it is unambiguous, because the strong force acts at scales of a well-defined time and space span. The direct strong force extends up to about 1 fm, and that takes about 10^-23 s. If something lives much much longer than this, orders of magnitudes longer, then it is considered to be stable for the strong force. By the same token, the concept of a "resonance" is not always a sharp one. It is unambiguous only when the width of the resonance is negligible compared to its mass. If you were to consider all possible interactions and all possible scales when calling something "stable", then nothing would be stable at all : throw them in a black hole and they disappear !