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mattmns said:Hey! I'm not dead, taken, nor gay, are you saying I'm not a good man?
DaveC426913 said:By definition, cougars do the catching. The fact that she convinced you that you were doing the chasing is just one in the cougar's bag o tricks.
I speak from experience. (But keep this under yer hat. If she reads this, she'll kill me .)
DaveC426913 said:By definition, cougars do the catching.
enigma said:Age differences stop having as much of a meaning as you get older.
2 years seems like a big difference when you're a teenager. Maybe even into the really early 20s.
Once you're mid-twenties, 2 years would be a non-issue
Howers said:I am now convinced. I am the only human being on this forum. The rest of you are programs designed to entertain me. It all makes perfect sense now.
Ooh, perfect, I'm 36 and don't mind my men a little lumpy. That I shouldn't date anyone younger than 25 will make the 23 yo student I traveled to HI with very happy (people kept asking if we were on our honeymoon when we'd go places together, and his usual reaction was "Hell NO!" :rofl:...they'd give us a weird look, and I'd explain we only work together and were there on business...in their defense, after that much time together, we WERE bickering like a married couple, so it seemed an honest mistake).jimmysnyder said:I'm 58, so that means I can have a girlfriend 36 years old. I told my wife about this. She said I should be careful she doesn't divide me in two. And add 7 lumps on my head.
Howers said:I am now convinced. I am the only human being on this forum. The rest of you are programs designed to entertain me. It all makes perfect sense now.
What about the ones that have vowed to be single and celibate for life? Those can be good men, too.Lisa! said:Good men are either taken, dead or gay!:groan:
If I were a betting man, I'd bet that these are very irritable guys on a short fuse...DT_tokamak said:What about the ones that have vowed to be single and celibate for life? Those can be good men, too.
DT_tokamak said:What about the ones that have vowed to be single and celibate for life? Those can be good men, too.
To what is this "higher existence" devoted? Why is it better? How does one define better?DT_tokamak said:I often figured a single and celibate life marked a higher existence, an existence that exercises domination over the human body's primitive desire for mating and sexual partnership. There are so many wonderful things to explore out there so why should we confine ourselves by succumbing to hindering desires? Relationships expend excess energy that could be put towards greater ambition. Moreover, they often lead to children which are tremendous resource drains. Since the planet is well over populated at the moment and will be for many years to come, I think it would be a noble effort on our parts to refrain mating.
DT_tokamak said:I often figured a single and celibate life marked a higher existence, an existence that exercises domination over the human body's primitive desire for mating and sexual partnership. There are so many wonderful things to explore out there so why should we confine ourselves by succumbing to hindering desires? Relationships expend excess energy that could be put towards greater ambition. Moreover, they often lead to children which are tremendous resource drains. Since the planet is well over populated at the moment and will be for many years to come, I think it would be a noble effort on our parts to refrain mating.
DT_tokamak said:Actually, relationships are fine if they suit you. But I do like to argue the extreme because it is often assumed, at least implicitly, that living single and celibate is not a 'good' or realistic option. People almost never mention it in context of life choices.
So really, people's negative judgment of a single and celibate lifestyle is the same as a judgment of a life involving a relationship and family.
:rofl: You are entertaining though.Moonbear said::rofl: "I'm not here for your entertainment..."
loseyourname said:There's arguably a good reason for people to feel this way, in that one practice perpetuates the existence of our species and one does not.
DT_tokamak said:Actually, relationships are fine if they suit you. But I do like to argue the extreme because it is often assumed, at least implicitly, that living single and celibate is not a 'good' or realistic option. People almost never mention it in context of life choices.
So really, people's negative judgment of a single and celibate lifestyle is the same as a judgment of a life involving a relationship and family.
That is true. I cannot deny your point there.Moonbear said:Still pretty useless for someone interested in finding a mate who ISN'T celibate. They sure wouldn't do me any good.
DT_tokamak said:I like to point out to people the many benefits that come with a single & celibate lifestyle. People usually never consider it as an option. But you have a level of freedom to learn and explore, completely unhindered, by not having relational attachments of that nature.
I am merely offering the option as it is not suggested and often overlooked by the greater part of society. If you do not wish to explore that option, this is of course, your choice. However any emotional recourse you feel of this being pushed on you is likely a result of your own internal conflicts. This has nothing to do with me as I'm just a guy on an internet forum and I have no power over your life.Moonbear said:You don't have to be single or celibate to have that freedom. Different people have different types of relationships, and you seem to be making assumptions about those relationships to claim one needs to be single or celibate (or both) to be free. For example, I'm single, not celibate, am in a relationship I enjoy, yet am completely unhindered in doing whatever I want. I wouldn't go for any relationship that put restrictions on my freedoms. Do whatever floats your boat, but don't push it on others as better than any choice they might make for themselves.
DT_tokamak said:I often figured a single and celibate life marked a higher existence, an existence that exercises domination over the human body's primitive desire for mating and sexual partnership. There are so many wonderful things to explore out there so why should we confine ourselves by succumbing to hindering desires? Relationships expend excess energy that could be put towards greater ambition. Moreover, they often lead to children which are tremendous resource drains. Since the planet is well over populated at the moment and will be for many years to come, I think it would be a noble effort on our parts to refrain mating.
DT_tokamak said:I am merely offering the option as it is not suggested and often overlooked by the greater part of society. If you do not wish to explore that option, this is of course, your choice. However any emotional recourse you feel of this being pushed on you is likely a result of your own internal conflicts. This has nothing to do with me as I'm just a guy on an internet forum and I have no power over your life.
You're doing some serious backpedaling here.DT_tokamak said:I am merely offering the option as it is not suggested and often overlooked by the greater part of society. If you do not wish to explore that option, this is of course, your choice. However any emotional recourse you feel of this being pushed on you is likely a result of your own internal conflicts.
Yes, a relationship with a younger guy can definitely be successful. Age does not determine the success of a relationship, as long as both partners are committed and compatible.
One challenge could be differences in life experience and maturity levels. This can lead to misunderstandings and conflicts, but with open communication and understanding, these challenges can be overcome.
Society's views on age gap relationships have become more accepting in recent years, but there may still be some judgement or criticism from others. Ultimately, it is up to the individuals involved to decide what is best for them.
Dating a younger guy can bring a fresh perspective and energy to the relationship. They may also have a more adventurous and spontaneous nature, which can be exciting and fun.
It is important to have open and honest conversations about the potential future age gap in the relationship. This includes discussing expectations, desires, and concerns. It is also important to consider how the age gap may affect the relationship in the long term and to make decisions based on what is best for both partners.