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Choose which is better to love

  1. Mar 31, 2008 #1
    [SOLVED] choose which is better to love

    Is it good to choose a wife with a good family background? If you have this girl who is so sexy and hot but came from a broken family would you merry this girl? or what about this girl thats rich but isnt too sexy but loves you so much and would take care of you. which would you choose?
     
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    Depends? Am I really shallow and thinking about money over love, or am I equally in love with both, but confused because of other factors? If it's a could go either way deal, then fine go with the security I suppose, if it's a tie breaker, otherwise go with your heart. Cue greensleeves playing in the background, nature scenes and May blossom falling from trees, and some sort of picnic by the river. [itex]\heartsuit[/itex]
     
  4. Mar 31, 2008 #3

    vanesch

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    Ok, first marry the rich girl. Then get a divorce, and get the money. Next, marry the woman with a good family background, and take the sexy girl as your mistress.

    :cool:
     
  5. Mar 31, 2008 #4
    must be just the devil tempting me to go for the younger and sexier girl, Iam with the not so sexy one for a long time now and we understand each other completely but something is missing our sex life.:wink:
     
  6. Mar 31, 2008 #5

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    I'd certainly merry the sexy girl but I'm not sure if I'd marry her.
     
  7. Mar 31, 2008 #6
    but is it really important? I mean is sex really important? I love to merry to sexy chick and have sex all day but is it all theres to it? I mean is marriage based on this? I can have good financial status if I go for the not so sexy one.
     
  8. Mar 31, 2008 #7

    Moonbear

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    :rofl: Leave it to the French to properly explain priorities in love and romance. :biggrin:
     
  9. Mar 31, 2008 #8

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    If something is missing from your sex life, it may not be your girlfriend's fault. Have you thought about that? If you jumped over to the "young sexy" girl, there is no guarantee that you would be any happier, once the newness wore off, nor is there any guarantee that your sex life would be any better. Some people (both men and women) trade heavily on their looks and may invest less of themselves in their relationships.
     
  10. Mar 31, 2008 #9
    wow tnks:approve:
     
  11. Mar 31, 2008 #10

    Astronuc

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    and those relationships do not last long.

    BTW, sex is a very small part in a marriage - it comes when all the work is done, meals cooked and eaten, dishes washed, animals fed, kids to bed (assuming the couple has already started), . . . .

    One's spouse should be one's best friend and life partner.
     
  12. Mar 31, 2008 #11

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    I probably would not marry the broken home girl unless I was absolutely certain she was not crazy, and the only way to be certain of that is to know them for a long time. That's really true for everyone, but give special attention to the ones who grow up in an environment that is completely different than your own.

    edit: I once dated a girl who turned out to be a hippy. It was a terrible end to an otherwise perfect relationship.
     
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    I love you french people!
     
  14. Mar 31, 2008 #13
    I think its just as easy to fall in love with somebody rich, as it is to fall in love with somebody poor.
     
  15. Mar 31, 2008 #14

    DaveC426913

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    Of course it is, because love (for a person) and monetary wealth are independent factors. Now, that's not to say that personal agendae don't play into the decision, but that's another ball of worms.
     
  16. Mar 31, 2008 #15

    DaveC426913

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    You should choose neither. You are not ready for marriage.

    When you have spent enough time with her that you can't imagine wanting to live without her, there will no longer be a question to ask.
     
  17. Mar 31, 2008 #16
    The way you talk, it's as if you are trying to decide which type of ice cream to get. "Oh the chocolate would go really well with my pie, but I really like the butterscotch..."

    I agree completely with what Dave said above. If you are trying to justify going for one over the other, you obviously don't love either enough to marry them. Furthermore, if you're asking random people on the internet which girl to marry, you don't deserve either of them let alone love one of them.
     
  18. Mar 31, 2008 #17

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    That's possible, as long as the rich person does not define themselves by how much money they have and use that money as social leverage. I've known some pretty wealthy kids from this region when I was growing up, and not many of them were socially "housebroken". A notable exception was the son of a local real-estate/insurance business owner. He was a quiet, funny guy and he fell for one of my sisters, but she was intent upon pursuing a popular local bad-boy. That didn't work out well.
     
  19. Mar 31, 2008 #18

    turbo

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    Well said! I knew within a month that I couldn't live without my current wife. It took some persuading because her previous relationship had been particularly bruising, but after 33 years of marriage, I'm pretty sure she intends to keep me.
     
  20. Mar 31, 2008 #19

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    Neither of these seem like good reasons to marry someone. I'm not sure you should marry either if sex and finances are your biggest concern.

    I fully agree with Dave.
     
  21. Mar 31, 2008 #20

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    That's why Vanesch's answer is so perfect...it addresses the natural outcome of trying to pick someone using such criteria rather than based on just KNOWING one person is the only one you want to be with. Choose one, divorce, choose another and cheat...
     
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