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Coversation starters awkward silence

  1. Nov 6, 2004 #1
    Ever been in that sort of situation with say, a girl, and you just can't think of anything funny to say? awkward silence... Anyone? :confused:
     
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  3. Nov 6, 2004 #2

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    The dreaded awkward silence.

    I think we've all experienced that at some point, well except maybe tribdog. :wink:
     
  4. Nov 6, 2004 #3
    Any suggestions? tribdog? Jimmy? Anyone?

    Here's the situation: She comes to stand next to me. (cuz I'm so witty and good looking) "hey," she says. "Hi," I reply. I make some joke about the weather or something. She laughs. I can't think of anything to say. She looks down at her shoes. My mouth opens but I can't say anything. What the heck do I say next?
     
  5. Nov 6, 2004 #4

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    What about....Wow, those are some pretty big feet you got there.

    If that doesn't break the silence I don't know what will. :rofl: :rofl:
     
  6. Nov 6, 2004 #5
    Good one, dduardo!
     
  7. Nov 6, 2004 #6
    lol..big feet.
    If I can't think of anything to say I usually say "Damn, I can't think of anything to say." Then I run away screaming and falling down a lot.
    Actually that's not a bad thing to say. Tell her your mind short circuits every time she stands next to you. Then just start talking. Quit trying to find the "perfect" thing to say. Most people aren't as gifted as I am so they can't (and aren't expected to) be hilarious all the time. ask her how her day's going. put the burden on her.
    Sounds like she's just as nervous as you, perhaps she likes you too. That makes it easier.
     
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  8. Nov 6, 2004 #7
    Ask a simple open question that gives her the opportunity to reply at length..... or not.
    Don't say something that only lets her answer 'yes' or 'no'. Eg - Where you surprised by the election result? Do you think of a photon as a particle or as a wave etc...
     
  9. Nov 6, 2004 #8
    Lol Tribdog. Run away screaming, that's a good move.

    I like a Adrian's approach. but what if I can't think of anything to say that gives her the opportunity to reply at length? What are some witty things to say?
     
  10. Nov 6, 2004 #9

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    That's excellent advice. You amaze me tribdog. :approve:
     
  11. Nov 6, 2004 #10
    lol, I know. I amaze myself sometimes too. I'm a romantic, this stuff is what I'm best at.
     
  12. Nov 6, 2004 #11

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    For example:

    What are your feelings on the ramifications of quantum mechanics in terms of our social-ecomonic well being in the next century.

    Then when she says: What?

    You reply: That's exactly what I was thinking. Wow, we really do think alike.
     
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  13. Nov 6, 2004 #12

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    Photon, if your mind goes blank, you can never go wrong complementing her about something, for example her shoes, clothes, hair. But as trib & Adrian said, ask her something that she'll have to answer in some detail. If you go to the same school, ask her about something that is going on, or about her classes. Uhm….

    OMG, it's been so long since I dated I don't remember how to carry on a conversation anymore. :redface:
     
  14. Nov 6, 2004 #13
    Put a tin of Altoids in your pocket and when she's near pop one in your mouth. Offer her one. Nobody says no to Altoids. then you have tons of opportunities for mentioning "kissably fresh breath"
     
  15. Nov 6, 2004 #14
    Haha... I'm so using that. :rofl:
     
  16. Nov 6, 2004 #15
    I'm still experiencing it with girls.
     
  17. Nov 6, 2004 #16
    You mean it ends? I've been getting them for 10 years i thought it was just how you do it.
     
  18. Nov 6, 2004 #17
    Wow, you are a genius. We should talk more.
     
  19. Nov 6, 2004 #18
    Want an Altoid?
     
  20. Nov 7, 2004 #19
    i'm just starting to get over it; i think it's because i'm just older now (& maybe more mature too). i usually think of something beforehand & imagine what i'll be doing ~2 minutes in the future, so i'm psyched & i don't run out of things to say. usually it's a girl i've seen around before but never talked to, so i just ask how things have been going so far, or what they're up to, what they're doing there wherever they are, etc. maybe i'll try to find something unique about the girl, like if her hair is a bit different than other girls' (pigtails or braids instead of a ponytail, etc), or big hoop earrings, if she looks more dressed-up than everyone else, or whatever. they seem to go out of their way to be a bit different, but you've got to really mean it when you notice something & say it looks good.
     
  21. Nov 7, 2004 #20
    No offense, but this is bad advice. You have to be careful handing out compliments to someone you don't know. It's easy to come across as either obssesed, desperate or just plain strange. Wait til you are actually trying to get in her pants before you start the compliments.
    ps. this post was just to throw off anyone who was starting to think I was sensitive. I meant it though about being careful with premature compliments.
     
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