Europeans and Small Talk or Lack Thereof

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I always thought I hated small-talk until I went to Europe. I hate the way you can go to lunch or have drinks with a European, and he/she will sit there with nothing to say. It's fvckin' creepy! It makes good ol' red-blooded Americans like myself feel fvckin' nervous!

It's funny because Europeans often criticize Americans for starting conversations about nothing in particular. You know what though? That's a hell of a lot better than sitting there staring at someone who's impersonating a deaf-mute. How can an entire continent of people have absolutely nothing to say? I mean, I know life in Europe moves far slower than in the fast-paced, cut-throat capitalistic, American society... but seriously.

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Maybe our food's so much better that we decide to eat instead of talking when eating out :wink:
 
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Maybe the Europeans just dont like you.
 
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If you think that's bad, you should hear European talk radio...dead silence!

The old timers in Oregon are like this also. I was once in a busy restaraunt - full of mostly retired folks - that was virtually silent. It was creepy!
 
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oh no culture shock...
 
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oh no culture shock...
You best not be talking about europeans having no culture.
 
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i think pulp fiction says it all, the scene with travolta and thurman in the diner. 'u know when ure really comfortable with someone when u dont feel u have to fill the silence' (or summink like that). or is it that we have nothing in common. or is it even that if we talked to you u'd have to talk back in that damn annoying accent (that goes for canadians too).
 
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Originally posted by Andy
You best not be talking about europeans having no culture.
Don't worry, everybody knows us yankees (that means the colonies) ain't got no culture. We just make fun of everyone elses.
 
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Well to be fair, I would say that the English are least likely to follow this stereotype. From my experiences it is most prevalent in people from the Germanic and Scandinavian countries. Besides, from what I've heard and seen, the English consider themselves to be just English... not really European.

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damn straight.
 
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too damn right we aint european, and we are great at small talk, but generally only with people we know quite well. and we refuse to eat with our mouths full which is why dinner coversations are a bit sparse
 
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Thats more like it, we are too civilised to talk whilst eating, i mean thats disgusting isnt it, spitting food everywhere whilst talking.
 
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Originally posted by eNtRopY
Well to be fair, I would say that the English are least likely to follow this stereotype. From my experiences it is most prevalent in people from the Germanic and Scandinavian countries.

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And of those, the Finn's take the prize.
 
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Originally posted by Janus
And of those, the Finn's take the prize.
You can say that again. Everytime I socialize with a certain Finnish girl, it's like I have to pull the words out of her... but she's so pretty, it's worth it.

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isnt the weather nice today?
 
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It just looks nice I bet its going to rain.
 
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I think europe is awesome, you just got to learn to blend in. remember your in thier country is all, they open up with you if you make it happen.
dx :wink:
 
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Originally posted by Janus
And of those, the Finn's take the prize.
I'm part Finnish. We are known as the most boring people on earth. Too much snow, vodka, and checkers.
 
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Originally posted by Ivan Seeking
I'm part Finnish. We are known as the most boring people on earth. Too much snow, vodka, and checkers.
Sh:t... have seen how beautiful Finnish girls are? They're like Swedish girls with Russian features.

Sometimes, I comtemplate dropping everything and applying for a job at Nokia. I here they pay sh:t... but imagine the view.

Screw conversation! Can a life consisting of taking saunas, drinking vodka, rolling in the snow, and snuggling under warm covers with pretty girls really be that boring? Besides, my sources tell me that Finland has the most national holidays (no work days) of any country in the world... thirty-seven and a half. Don't ask me where the half comes from.

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I'm kinda abivalent about it. On one side I'd love my brother to talk more. He just gets home from work, and think everything is perfectly ok and only talk about these small things I know 2 secs what he's about to say. So that's very frustrating.
On the other hand my family in dinners always talk about stuff, usually on building of houses or politics. But still that's pretty smallish, because it's lots of girls but we still talk little about basic things as 'how was your day' or 'how're you feeling'.

Secondly though, and I've not been in usa, when I search through forums it's the americans who I really hate the most for doing the most filling up thread after thread with plain and simple: spam. I'd rather have a forum posted 2 messages by people each day of seriousness, than 50 a day with 90% spam. I really hate when that happens.

I love silence, and often it's because I can't hear myself think when something gotto be 'on' all the time, whether TV or someone talking. But here and there I'd love to just talk about everything also.
 
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Originally posted by Andy
You best not be talking about europeans having no culture.
culture shock...meaning you are surpised by another culture...
 
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Originally posted by Ivan Seeking
I'm part Finnish. We are known as the most boring people on earth. Too much snow, vodka, and checkers.
I'm full Finnish, and born in the town of the conception of our beloved St. Urho.
 
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Originally posted by Janus
I'm full Finnish, and born in the town of the conception of our beloved St. Urho.
Excellent. Hello there fellow Finn!

We are from the Palo-Mackey clan. I am just a little less than half by blood...with a touch of the Swede. Note that I'm not sure about the correct spelling of Mackey. The name was changed when my great grandfather came to the US due to some kind of political turmoil or war. My cousin has been to the original homestead in Finland. He traced the family back to the 1400's, but he has not passed along the details yet. I don't yet know the exact location of the farm, but I do hope to go there myself someday.
 
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Talking and eating at the same time..

Can you say "MULTITASK?

If there is no small talk, what do you say when you meet at girl? "Hi there, you're pretty, will you marry me?"
 
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Originally posted by eNtRopY
I hate the way you can go to lunch or have drinks with a European, and he/she will sit there with nothing to say. It's fvckin' creepy! It makes good ol' red-blooded Americans like myself feel fvckin' nervous!
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maybe you just met someone shy :wink:
 

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