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Females and that jenny say kwah

  1. Jul 4, 2006 #1
    Before all you ladies get upset with me I ask your patience on this because I really want to know about this and NO this is not a troll. I don't really know the words to use here because I've just spent the weekend with my family and have had to take the edge off with a few beers. Is it something in the female mind to always want something extra, in addition to, or that "something special"? As for men, we want it all and we want it right now, then we stand back and look at/admire it and say "look what I did" and then go take a nap. It justr seems to me that the women I come in contact with are always adding something else to "whatever". An example would be a cake at a party this weekend. It was a sheet cake, half choc half vanilla, white icing with red, white and blue decorationd all around the edge. The men took a piece and ate it and either said it was OK or didn't say anything. One female asked why there wasn't something to the effect of happy 4th of july or happy birthday America on it. When she said this a good handfull of the remaining females chimed in with either "yea, it looks too plain" or "it could have been more festive". Once again, I'm not bashing, I'm wanting to understand the thought process or whatever it is that's taking place when this happens. Is it part of the nesting/nurturing thing that women do or is it something else, like I'm just unfortunate in that I'm always around these types of women and/or my family's full of them? I'm tire, drunk, and sleepy. Good night.
     
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  3. Jul 4, 2006 #2

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    Sometimes it could be because they have low self-esteem.

    People with low self-esteem tend to look for negatives and point them out. Therefore, it possibly lowers the other persons esteem and therefore putting them on the same level as themselves and making themselves feel good. They don't intentionally do this though. It just happens I guess.

    The best thing to do in my opinion is to not dwell on the negatives and think of the positives. Not very many people do this. Just go up to someone and ask them what they hate about someone they know. They will come up with lots of stuff, but then ask them what they like. Most people need to think about what they like because they never really think about it.

    So, thinking about positives in my opinion brings up your self-esteem and brings you UP to another persons level rather than bring them DOWN to your level, which is what usually happens. It's a more constructive approach to think about the positives. Not always easy but with work it gets better and you feel better and so do the people around you.

    Why do we this? I think we do this because it's easier to think about negatives.
     
  4. Jul 4, 2006 #3
    Maybe they just had nothing to talk about, sounds like one boring party to me....:zzz: :zzz:
     
  5. Jul 4, 2006 #4

    FredGarvin

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    Jenny say kwah? That sounds like a Korean dish.
     
  6. Jul 4, 2006 #5

    Evo

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    Was this bought at a store or did someone make it? Sounds rude any way.
     
  7. Jul 4, 2006 #6

    selfAdjoint

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    Je ne sais quoi.

    Ma foi, c'est louche!
     
  8. Jul 4, 2006 #7

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    I once served a gf with some lovely bread and cheese and she asked for butter on the bread :surprised
     
  9. Jul 4, 2006 #8

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    Echo, I've seen your member photo. You are definitely old enough to know that there's no point in trying to figure women out. Wash the dishes once without being asked to, and you're a hero. Let her come back from a weekend away to find that the entire house hasn't been scrubbed from top to bottom, and you end up in the centre of a **** storm. Just forget that it ever happened and go bowling with your buddies.
     
  10. Jul 4, 2006 #9

    JasonRox

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    Every person is unique.

    I'd strongly try to figure out or atleast understand your own significant other.
     
  11. Jul 4, 2006 #10

    Danger

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    Easy for you to say now, Jason; let's see if you're still playing the same tune after 35 years of dealing with them.
     
  12. Jul 4, 2006 #11

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    Is there any cake left?
     
  13. Jul 5, 2006 #12

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    Maybe they were speaking as cake-makers. If you commented on a painting in a room full of painters, or a pitch in a room full of pitchers, you might get similar types of comments.

    I got stuck in a room with two middle-aged housewives once, and the conversation made me want to chew my arm off so I'd have an excuse to leave. It was like an hour of 'Sally is still playing the trumpet' and 'Susie grew some pea plants in Coke and Pepsi for the science fair' and 'I switched to a new laundry detergent, and it did a better job on Billy's grass stains, but it irritated Bob's skin, so I switched back'. It might not have been so bad if they had shown the least bit of interest in anything they were saying. Even the parts that could have been funny were reported in a totally nonhumorous way. Explain that. It seemed almost like their families had just sucked the life out of them.

    (In case you're wondering, the answer is of course Coke.)
     
  14. Jul 5, 2006 #13

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    The tune changes all the time no doubt, but learn to play with it.

    It seems to me that guys just clean the house when there is problem. That's just lame because sometimes there is probably more to it.

    ...or they buy jewelry or something along the lines as not thoughtful.

    If you really love your wife or serious girlfriend, you should put more effort into it. If it doesn't work and your girlfriend/wife gets mad, well that's probably a bad thing. Taking a good guy for granted. That's bad news. She should love you even more for trying and who knows it might even work.
     
  15. Jul 5, 2006 #14
    Yes, I've pretty much given up trying to figure out women on an emotional scale.

    It was a store bought cake and very little was left. A guy brought it and it was no surprise that it wasn't decorated because of the holiday and, hey, he's a guy.

    In my advanced years (thanks Danger) I've tried to be more accepting of the way people speak in different situations because that's just the way people are and I would hope that they would accept me for my non-response in the same type situation.

    I hope everyone had a great 4th. It was rainy here in Austin but we still had fireworks.

    Thanks Self Adjoint, that was just the Becks talking. BTW, why does Becks smell like a skunk?
     
  16. Jul 5, 2006 #15

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    I don't know, red, white and blue frosting sounds like it was already pretty well decorated for the holiday. Writing on it sounds a bit tacky. Either they were really bored, really drunk and saying silly things, or you're just unfortunate to have a family full of women who don't think twice of finding petty things to complain about what other people bring to a party. I agree with Evo that it sounds pretty rude. It's not like a group of siblings sitting around discussing a new dish one of them brought and looking for an honest opinion of how one might adjust the recipe to make it better next time...("Do you think I should have used a bit more mustard?" "Is it too spicey?") and then getting feedback.

    If someone serves me cake, I just eat it...since it was half vanilla and half chocolate, my only comment would have been, "Pass me a chocolate piece, please." Though, I admit that if someone brought a cake to a picnic with "Happy Birthday America" written on it, you'd probably find me snickering over that with some of my cousins. And, I think if I brought a cake and heard someone making comments that it was too plain, I'd be likely to just walk over, stick a few sparklers in it, light them, and as the ashes fell on the cake, say, "Happy now?" (That is if I was in a really good mood and not tempted to suggest I decorate their plain looking behind the same way. :devil: I don't deal well with people who complain or criticize just for the sake of having something to complain about.)
     
  17. Jul 5, 2006 #16
    My boss is like that too, only she's a man.
     
  18. Jul 5, 2006 #17

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    :biggrin: <note to self, "do not ever criticize anything Moonbear brings over, or you'll get a sparkler shoved up your rear end">. :tongue:
     
  19. Jul 5, 2006 #18

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    I think the behavior cited is simply a reflection of those particular women. Most women I know in the local community and professionally do not behave in this way. Professionally, the women I meet are mostly scientists or engineers in NASA, DOE or industry - they've got better things to do than complain about cakes. For them it'd be NBD.

    I'd caution against generalizing the behavior of those women at the party, to all women. All people do not behave/think/feel/. . . the same about most things, just as all men don't, all Americans don't, all whomever don't, . . . .

    Hmmm. A party with the PF sisters would be an interesting experience. :biggrin:
     
  20. Jul 5, 2006 #19

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    Yep.

    Men tend to see food as food. Women tend to see food as a skill they are proficent in. It is, traditionally, a forum where women receive validation.

    On the other hand, go out to the patio where they're talking about the steaks on the barbeque. The men will sure have an opinion on how they are being cooked!
     
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  21. Jul 5, 2006 #20

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    I would never criticize someone's cake. That's just bad manners. Even if I thought it were the ugliest cake in the world, I wouldn't say anything but "Thank you for bringing us this nice cake." And if it tasted terrible I would surreptitiously dispose of my piece so as not to hurt the cake-bringer's feelings.
     
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