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Girl trouble.

  1. Nov 23, 2003 #1
    In Real life, I really like this girl ever since I met her for the first time in the Freshman year in highschool. We had same physics class, but due to my academic pursue, I left her out and didn't spend more time to talk to her.

    Now after a year and some months, we still go to same school and see each other not very often as last year, I felt like she started to ... I don't know, some weird feeling like she's trying to ignoring me and make me jealous by talking to a bunch of guys at the same time or something:\

    Advice? Comments? Additions? Feel free.
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  3. Nov 23, 2003 #2
    Just be thankful you don't have Chroot's problem, and deal with it..lol

    Have you tried talking to her?
  4. Nov 23, 2003 #3
    I never really talked to her very often because I didn't want to "bother" her. But I msged her over AIM and I asked her why did she have to act like she's ignoring me, she said she didn't mean to. (She acts perfectly normal sometimes, saying hi to me in the hall way... but sometimes she just act like she never knew me...)

    The first thing she said to me when she saw me at the potluck was "Is Swing here? Is he here? Where is he?" (Swing=guy). From what I know she doesn't go out with him, and he had some weird contagious flu. She kept on talking with him in front of me and my friends, making us look bad or something. Later went to his house and left potluck , I chose not to go because I wanted to worship the Lord(christian potluck).
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  5. Nov 23, 2003 #4
    Have some confidence and just approach her and talk. Be careful not to fall in the friends circle though. How hot is she and does she get a lot of attention from other guys?
  6. Nov 23, 2003 #5
    She is very hot:p That's why I avoid talking to her, usually she comes to me when she wants to say something.

    However, she is not the "slut" type. But, it's hard to say from what I saw at the potluck, she acted like she was "owned" by Swing. Swing is a very shy guy, don't talk much, but he went to middleschool with her.
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  7. Nov 23, 2003 #6
    Last year I had a PE class with one of her friends, till today I remember that friend of hers told me one day in that class that she was "heartbroken" when I blocked her on AIM. That friend also told me that she likes me. But at that time I took it as a joke and forgot all about it because academics was way more important to me.
  8. Nov 23, 2003 #7
    First, if you haven't already, knock her off her pedestal. Then you need to be different from the other guys trying to pick her up. She is most likely often told how "hot" and "beautiful" she is. Avoid doing this, tease her a little. Make it so your the prize, not her.
    Why? Are you afraid of being rejected? Rejection is part of the game. So what if she doesn't want you, her loss, right. Their a plenty of other women out there.
    Just go up and talk to her about anything. Tease her a little, then leave. If she's interested, she will pursue.
    Swing is probably stuck in the "friends circle", or maybe they are together. But, next time, go up to Swing and work it into the conversation about how he knows the girl. Chances are, you'll find out whats going on.

    Regardless, go up and talk to her anyways, take a chance. And if you see it going nowhere, use her to get with her hot friends (my guess is she knows a few).
  9. Nov 23, 2003 #8
    So what do you mean by friends circle? And why must I avoid the circle? Please explain, thanks.
  10. Nov 23, 2003 #9
    No, don't do any of that, she sounds like a sincere person, she is just trying to get your attention - you are ignoring her.

    Don't avoid her, just talk to her, but don't tell her she is hot, tell her how much you respect her intelligence, or how sweet a personality she has. Don't mention in any way that her behavior is bothering you, because that puts her on the spot. Make yourself an easy person to talkk to.
  11. Nov 23, 2003 #10
    I have already begun to "recover" what I "owe" to her... Whenever she ask me to do a favor, I would do so.(ie she asked me to design a site for her club in the school.)

    And, ahh ****, I already msged her after the potluck a little, here is a brief what I said:

    "Girl: Hey how's econ?"
    "Me: Sorry, but have I offend you in anyway?"
    "Girl: No. WHy?"
    "Me: I felt like you were trying to ignore me."
    "Girl: Really??! I didn't mean to do that."
    "Me: OK, I just wanted to make sure I didn't do anything offensive."

    followed by a long ass conversation...
  12. Nov 23, 2003 #11
    The "Friends Circle" is most easly discribed as when she considers you more of a "galpal" or "emotional tampon" rather then the man you are. i.e.: she tells you about all her problems and seeks your advice on how to handle men, etc. When she sees you as 'just a friend' rather than potential dating material.
    I must disagree, I would recommend that you call her out on the behavior that bothers you. So you put her on the spot? YES! You have to show that you will not tolerate disrespect (that sounds a little strong, but instead of bringing it out harshly, TEASE HER about it)
    Exactly, be a good listener, but don't be afraid to disagree with what she has to say. They last thing women want is a guy who accepts everything she says as gold, like a sad little dog.
  13. Nov 23, 2003 #12
    I think Swing is her so called "Friend Circle"... Meets the requirements 100%. And her other friend who told me stuff in PE class. I have many "spies" in her classes and riding her bus:p

    My Junior friend Daniel rides her bus, and he hath told me he don't think Swing and her go together (ie they don't show much expression on the bus, don't talk, don't kiss, don't sit together, don't do nothing). Now I trust Daniel alot, he has math class with me, so another conclusion might be drawn... They don't talk on bus, yet they were sitting together on a yearbook picture taken randomly in an outdoor assembly, weird...

    GIRL EXPERTS!! Where art thou!!!!
  14. Nov 23, 2003 #13
    Why?! You owe her nothing. You had your own priorities and at the time, she didn't fit into the picture. If she asks you to do another favor, ask her "whats in it for me?" Or, if you have the confidence, accuse her of trying to seduce you by getting you to do things for her.
    Should've been something like this:
    "Me: I felt like you were trying to ignore me."
    "Girl: Really??! I didn't mean to do that."
    "Me: So, your going to make it up to me then, I take it."
  15. Nov 23, 2003 #14
    Spying on her? Bad move, very bad. Just ask her out, it would make things a lot easier.
  16. Nov 23, 2003 #15
    Don't start a confrontation with her - she hasn't done anything to you - just be nice her.
  17. Nov 23, 2003 #16
    :\ I'm not sure if she has a boyfriend or not. From Swing's little brother, 5 year old kid say he saw the girl in Swing's house often, and he told me she's Swing's girl friend:\ Yet other people say they aren't... omg soo confusing.

    The other reason I am impressed is her father is a very well known researcher on Multiple Myeloma, and from what I found, their parents use to be college classmates with my parents:\
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  18. Nov 23, 2003 #17

    LOLL nice, I'm gonna try that.
  19. Nov 23, 2003 #18
    I'm not saying 'start an arguement'. There is a difference between TEASING and insulting (don't insult her). And, just so you know: nice guys finish last...
    Then just her about their relationship. Forget what others say.
    Cool, then you should be able to relate/talk to him about some interesting things. Who cares if your not dating the daughter. It's all about who you know.
  20. Nov 23, 2003 #19

    There are some other girls that I know they have "special attention" for me in the school, they also appeared to be her friends.

    At one time I remember I said something good about another friend of hers in front of her without intention, after that she started to act weird.
  21. Nov 23, 2003 #20
    btw, why would a girl always begin a conversation with a guy by "how's economics?"????
  22. Nov 24, 2003 #21
    Run your game on them to then. It always good to practice.
    Nothing wrong with talking about her friends infront of her, make her know that you arn't just 'waiting' for her, that you have other options.
    Because you have not given her the chance to know you better so this is the best conversation opener she has. Next time, call her out on it:
    "You must really like econ since thats all you ask about..."
    or tease her:
    "Tell me (girl), what ever happened to starting conversations with 'how was your day'?"
    or even shorter:
    "My day was great, thanks for asking..."
  23. Nov 24, 2003 #22
    Don't follow any of this advice at all, unless you want to lose her.
  24. Nov 24, 2003 #23


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    PrudensOptimus, it seems you are able to talk so well through AIM, but in real life there seems to be a barrier? Just whatever you do, do NOT ask her out through AIM!

    If you really like this girl, be more open to her. Ask her for a drink somewhere (nice cup of hot chocolate/ tea/ coffee somewhere at a quite place at school will do). Let it shine through that you like her, find out common interests. Next time you will be able to ask her out.
  25. Nov 24, 2003 #24


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    I read an article on the internet a while back that said proposing through text messaging was becomilng very popular in some country. It was also legal to divorce someone through text messaging.

    What is the world coming too!

    PrudensOptimus, If you really want to know if she has a boyfriend, go up to her and ask her if you look better than her boyfriend. If she says yes, then go in for the kill. If she says no, then walk away, quickly. (Mind you, I don't use this pickup line. Just came up in a conversation with some friends)
  26. Nov 24, 2003 #25


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    I've been asked out through text messaging, it is the mostwrongestlyfaulty thing to do :) if she says yes, you are fine, but if it is no, how are you going to pursuade her with your big blue (brown/grey/green) eyes staring at the screen.

    Communication is more than just words.
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