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Happy Marriage? Easy!

  1. Oct 28, 2009 #1
    Read this article, and don't shoot the messenger!

    From here:
    http://worldmysteries9.blogspot.com/2009/10/secret-of-happy-marriage.html [Broken]

    Original paper here:
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  3. Oct 28, 2009 #2
    I heard the ideal marriage was between a blind woman and a deaf man. Let's see, I have a masters while my wife has a bachelors, one point against. I am ten years older than her, two points against. I'm an American of Eastern European descent while she is Chinese, unclear. Neither of us has ever been married before, one point in favor. That's 2 against 1, We've been married 20 years.

    I note that the study was done on a mixture of cohabiting and married couples. With no study to back me up, I still feel safe in saying that these two populations have different separation footprints. My reasoning is that unmarried couples experience all of the centrifugal forces that married couples do, but lack one crucial centripetal force. I wonder why they grouped them together.
  4. Oct 28, 2009 #3


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    Those examples are anecdotal. My wife was married once before - briefly. She was looking for stability. She's 6.5 years older than me and we've been together nearly 30 years, and married 27+ years.
  5. Oct 28, 2009 #4
    The study doesn't say why the divorce rate increased in the last 50 years.
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    You're ten years older than her, that's a point for isn't it?
  7. Oct 28, 2009 #6
    Perhaps I took the words too literally. I thought 5 years was best, but they might have meant 5 or more.
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    I think it's pretty clear cut
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    They could have easily searched the census for information, but they would find the results would change drastically from generation to generation. Truth is, there is no "formula". Marriage is based on beliefs (some religions don't allow divorce), money, kids, social values & stigmas, personal preferences, dependency issues, self esteem (or lack of), etc...

    In other words, it's a totally useless study, IMO.
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    The first line of the abstract, emphasis mine:

    This can't be true, that a true cause-and-effect been proven. When it comes to predicting human behavior (such as couples' tendency to stay together), the best you could do is show a correlation.
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    I think it's hilarious that they even thought it worth reporting that couples who have not been previously divorced are more successful in marriage. :rolleyes: Yeah, usually divorce is a good indicator that someone has had problems with marriage. :rofl:

    From the abstract of the original article:
    Um, okay, now I know why they were doing a study on allocating spouses...with this sort of view of marriage, the authors probably have no idea how to find and keep spouses otherwise.

    Edit: Though, maybe we now have the "definitive" reference to send people to when they post those girl trouble threads. :biggrin:
  12. Oct 29, 2009 #11
    Nice catch.
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