How important are looks when choosing a bf/gf

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Overall, society in general seems to values looks over any other aspect about a person when selecting that person for a mate. Do you think looks are a little less important in the "intelligensia" community. I feel like I am the only person that seems to disregard looks when assessing other qualities about a person, like if their personality matches with my personality and there are some personality traits that I like about the person that are not necessarily characteristic of my personality. A lot of people say that looks are not as important as any other trait, but won't really mean it, for highly attractive people are put up on a pedestal. Even in certain job interviews, the most attractive person is likely to get the job. I weigh in looks, but for me their not as important as other qualities of a person that will remain permanent throughout their life,and will less likely wither away over time as opposed to a persons looks. For me , looks our 10 percent important , and personality is 90 percent important. What about the rest of you? Is beauty as equally important as other characteristics about a person, or do you place stronger emphasis on beauty or personality when selecting a mate?
 

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Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Physical attraction is important for a working relationship, but what that attraction is really based on is dependent on the person (not all attractive people are classical beauties).
 
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There's a lot of evolution that plays into what humans see as attractive. Isn't it just possible that attractive people are more likely to have above average intelligence? That attractive people might have better personalities? That they might be more honest and loving?

I kind of get tired of people putting down attractive people; making jokes that a hot blonde must be stupid.

Where's the evidence that us beautiful people are any less intelligent than you ugly people?!
 
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I kind of get tired of people putting down attractive people
Did someone do that? Brad Pitt is said to have the most perfect face, if you plug him into a (scientifically developed) mathematical program he fits all the "beauty characteristics" most perfectly. I can't say that I find him even the least bit attractive though :confused:
 
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Where's the evidence that us beautiful people are any less intelligent than you ugly people?!
We beautiful people. :devil:
 
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There's a lot of evolution that plays into what humans see as attractive. Isn't it just possible that attractive people are more likely to have above average intelligence? That attractive people might have better personalities? That they might be more honest and loving?

I kind of get tired of people putting down attractive people; making jokes that a hot blonde must be stupid.

Where's the evidence that us beautiful people are any less intelligent than you ugly people?!
I never implied a direct correlation between looks and lower intelligence. I just get tired of beautiful people being put up on a pedestal for simply being beauty. You see, models don't have to develop any skill other than posing for their job, yet people will have them endorse certain products and they will be on the cover of a magazine. Study after study shows that society treats beautiful people better than average looking people. Bet you won't find that many study where people from mensa are treated better than people with "normal" intelligence. I know looks are probably admire, because that is the first trait we see about a person we can judge a person on before knowing anything else about them .But I think people should get beyond this habit and should not be so shallow;

There's a lot of evolution that plays into what humans see as attractive. Isn't it just possible that attractive people are more likely to have above average intelligence? That attractive people might have better personalities? That they might be more honest and loving?
Not always. From what I hear, Noami campbell certainly is not;
 
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Attractive does not equal beautiful (as in "look like a model"). I think most men (even those that ogle real "lookers") would find an average-looking woman attractive if she is pleasant, thoughtful, and actually interested in him as a person. Those are attributes that can last a lifetime, while physical beauty certainly won't.
 
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Did someone do that? Brad Pitt is said to have the most perfect face, if you plug him into a (scientifically developed) mathematical program he fits all the "beauty characteristics" most perfectly. I can't say that I find him even the least bit attractive though :confused:
"Look like a model", "look like an actor" has some problems anyway. Those people are selected because they look good in a 2-dimensional world. At least in a movie, a person sees the actor displayed from several angles and can determine the actor's attractiveness/beauty better than they can from a picture. Neither assessment of attractiveness will be as good as with a 3-dimensional person.

In any event, what makes a person attractive is a generalization. It's statistically true as an average, but with many exceptions. In fact, "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" is just another way of saying that there are exceptions to every empirical generalization.

Of course, I'm positive you already realized that, because you have the most gorgeous eye I've ever seen :!!). You're obviously a person of higher than average intelligence.

Edit: Hmm, I wonder about this guy's research a little, but here's his study anyway (it supports what I said, which is the important thing, right?)

Beautiful people are more intelligent
 
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If I don't find her cute, she doesn't stand much of a chance at all.

Of course, my definition of cute changes as I age and obviously I try to consider someone who isn't high maintenance. Like, turbo-1 implied... beauty only last for a finite amount of time.

The girl I'm seeing is cute in general. No make up needed!
 
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If I don't find her cute, she doesn't stand much of a chance at all.

Of course, my definition of cute changes as I age and obviously I try to consider someone who isn't high maintenance. Like, turbo-1 implied... beauty only last for a finite amount of time.
That seems to be the gist of it. It does play some role, but usually only if someone tips into the unattractive side of the equation rather than if they fit anywhere within the continuum of what someone might consider attractive. It doesn't matter how smart and witty a guy is if he looks like he might spend a substantial amount of his time living under a bridge and eating billy goats, I'm not going to be attracted enough to want to date him, even though I may find him to be a perfectly delightful friend. But, if he's anything from average to drop-dead handsome, then that's sufficient in the attractiveness department, and the rest depends on his personality.
 
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...making jokes that a hot blonde must be stupid.
99% of them are, sorry to tell you.

If you got the remaining 1%, count yourself lucky!
 
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The girl I'm seeing is cute in general. No make up needed!
"Cute" does not last very long...
 
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Edit: Hmm, I wonder about this guy's research a little, but here's his study anyway (it supports what I said, which is the important thing, right?)

Beautiful people are more intelligent
So IQ scores are supposed to have an average of 100 right? Why, when looking at the table that indicates the IQ score of people of differing attractiveness, does that imply that more people are above average than below average? I would have thought attractiveness was a bell curve


EDIT: To clarify my statement, people who are very attractive or attractive have an IQ score of just over 100, but people who are unattractive are several points below 100, so for those two to balance there must be many more people who qualify as attractive
 
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99% of them are, sorry to tell you.

If you got the remaining 1%, count yourself lucky!
Where do you get your stats? Some of the most intelligent women I know are attractive blonds.
 
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A girl can look beautiful, but if she has a crummy attitude, I won't be attracted to her at all.

And girls who are nice and have a good attitude, that makes them more attractive, even if they're not necessarily beautiful. Unless they're fat.
 
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99% of them are, sorry to tell you.

If you got the remaining 1%, count yourself lucky!
That's because us smart, hot blondes avoid guys with those sorts of attitudes like the plague, which means your sample set is biased.
 
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I think looks matter alot when it comes to choosing a gf... If I saw a girl who I had a great personality enjoyed doing the same things I liked etc. and seemed like the perfect match for me but she wasn't decent looking then NEXXXXT. There are plenty of fish in the sea... so why not wait until one that looks 'edible' comes along? ;) if you get my drift. lol
 
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That's because us smart, hot blondes avoid guys with those sorts of attitudes like the plague, which means your sample set is biased.
Moonbear you're a smart hot blonde? Never would have guessed... If you ever come by Toronto... just send me a PM... HAHAHAHA :P <3
 
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That's because us smart, hot blondes
We smart, hot blondes. <sigh>
 
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:biggrin:

Well, that counts me out.
I'm pretty sure that MIH is in the club!
 
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When I hear "blondes", I automatically think of women. Why is that? Men have blonde hair too.
 
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When I hear "blondes", I automatically think of women. Why is that? Men have blonde hair too.
But they don't comprise the Swedish Bikini Test.
 
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I'm pretty sure that MIH is in the club!
Oh, MIH is definitely a hot, smart blonde! So is Monique.
 

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