Maybe, but not in the same sense that you possess an object. A (good) marriage is a relationship between equals, in the area of rights and respect. You don't respect or give rights to a book or coffee mug you own.Smurf said:besides, wouldn't you agree that the idea of marriage carries a certain level of possession? I would like to think it does. I would hope that any serious relationship (at least one I'm involved in) would.