How to propose to my GF of 1.5 months?

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In summary, the poster is seeking advice on how and when to propose to his girlfriend of 1.5 months. He acknowledges that this may be a short amount of time, but expresses strong feelings for her. He shares that they currently live together and she will be leaving for abroad soon. The conversation includes advice against proposing in public or in a situation where the person will be leaving soon, as well as the suggestion to wait and get to know each other better before considering marriage. The poster also mentions trying on rings and his girlfriend's eagerness to accept, but acknowledges the wisdom in not surprising someone with a proposal and not proposing after such a short time together.
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Dear PF community,

I am here to hear your advice on how/when/where to propose to my girlfriend of 1.5 months.

I understand less than 2 months of relationship is quite short and I do understand the notion of certain women being "easy come and easy go." But I do feel strongly about this particular woman. If what I feel is not love, then I certainly wouldn't know what love is. Mind you, this relationship is not one that is unreciprocated as she expresses her love interest in me equally if as not as frequently and fervently. To inform you on the degree of our intimacy, we live together now as we have done during the 90% of our time since the fortunate day that she laid her heavenly eyes upon me. And the latter part of this summer has been the best summer of my life. It should be known that she will be leaving for abroad in the middle of Sept and her promise is she will be back by June of next year as she had done for several years. I have no doubt that she will do so, however just seems not right letting her go without "sealing the deal" per best of my abilities.

I am 27 years old, she is 27 as well but a calendar year younger. She is my first ever true girlfriend. She has a child of 5 years from a previous marriage.

So how/when/where should I propose to her?

I was thinking at the airport during her departure, would this be a good idea? And yes, if I was ever certain about anything, she will say yes.
 
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Why don't you move with her? I'm sorry, but this seems like a very bad idea to me.
 
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Two big pieces of advice:

- Never propose in public

- Never propose in a situation where the other person has do leave real soon

Both of those put lots of pressure on the person being asked. As for whether or not you should propose...5/6 weeks really isn't enough time to get to know someone properly. IMO you have to have been with someone for at least a year to know how you work together over time. The first year or two of a relationship is pretty much the honeymoon phase, no marriage is going to last if it is based on that. Try just being together for a few years, at some point move in together so that you can learn what it's like to live with them, then see how you feel.

At the end of the day it's your choice but IMO its a huge risk that could end the relationship. If you don't propose then she's not going anywhere, you can spend the next few years together and if it looks like it could be a long term thing then you can think about proposing.
 
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My opinion is that a marriage proposal should never be a "surprise". A mutual understanding between both partners that you wish to be married must exist first.

Second, I would not recommend asking someone you've only known for 1.5 months. You don't even know the person yet. Yes, once in awhile a miracle happens and it works out. Don't count on a miracle.
 
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The phrases "girlfriend of 1.5 months", "at the airport during her departure", and "she will be back by June of next year" seem to raise the issue of a short-term, long-distance relationship. It's possible it could work, but perhaps one should wait until she returns.

Or travel abroad in 6 months and spend a week or weeks with her., and see how it goes.


It sounds like infatuation at the moment.
 
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You want to propose to your girlfriend after 1.5 months??

Let me read this again...

You want to propose to your girlfriend after 1.5 months?

Don't do it, it's a very bad idea.

And certainly don't do it in a public spot, you'll embarrass yourself and her.
 
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Greg Bernhardt said:
Why don't you move with her? I'm sorry, but this seems like a very bad idea to me.

I have academic obligations that need to be taken care of. Which she insist I finalize when I offered to abandon them and move with her.

Ryan_m_b said:
Two big pieces of advice:

- Never propose in public

- Never propose in a situation where the other person has do leave real soon

Both of those put lots of pressure on the person being asked. As for whether or not you should propose...5/6 weeks really isn't enough time to get to know someone properly. IMO you have to have been with someone for at least a year to know how you work together over time. The first year or two of a relationship is pretty much the honeymoon phase, no marriage is going to last if it is based on that. Try just being together for a few years, at some point move in together so that you can learn what it's like to live with them, then see how you feel.

At the end of the day it's your choice but IMO its a huge risk that could end the relationship. If you don't propose then she's not going anywhere, you can spend the next few years together and if it looks like it could be a long term thing then you can think about proposing.

During our shopping trip, we payed visit to a jewelry shop and tried on several rings and ascertained her ring size and diamond preferences. It made the act of proposal within grasp and her eagerness to accept apparent. But your words make sense. Thanks.

Evo said:
My opinion is that a marriage proposal should never be a "surprise". A mutual understanding between both partners that you wish to be married must exist first.

Second, I would not recommend asking someone you've only known for 1.5 months. You don't even know the person yet. Yes, once in awhile a miracle happens and it works out. Don't count on a miracle.

Thanks for the advice. It certainly seems I am rushing.
 
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Something to watch before you go ahead propose
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d6MNcCUgzzw
:)

I loved the one around 56 second :rofl:
 
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You know her for 1.5 months and she'll be leaving for 9 months? That's a tough one! I don't think a proposal will seal any deal. If you're going to propose, do it well before she leaves so that you can enjoy some time together as fiancees. I don't see much harm in proposing, it's called an engagement.. some people stay engaged for over 10 years. Enjoy life while you can.
 
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SELFMADE said:
Thanks for the advice. It certainly seems I am rushing.
Know that if the feelings are sincere from both sides, there is no need to rush into a marriage.
 
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So how/when/where should I propose to her?

I was thinking at the airport during her departure, would this be a good idea? And yes, if I was ever certain about anything, she will say yes.

When is easy - before you two get married.
Where is easy - any where you both are together.
How - facing her , eyes forward, holding her hand , ...

Airport at departure - Great idea. why not add some more stress and add an oompah band and some jugglers for effect. If she misses her flight in all the commotion ...

You two could just go out to a shop and buy each other promise rings if people still do that sort of thing.
 
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Just be nice and take your time. No need to rush.
 
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256bits said:
You two could just go out to a shop and buy each other promise rings if people still do that sort of thing.
Yes, my boyfriend and I have promise rings :biggrin: That really was a sufficient display of affection to me, no need to get married. And we moved in together within two months of dating, didn't regret it for one day.
 
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Monique said:
Yes, my boyfriend and I have promise rings :biggrin: That really was a sufficient display of affection to me, no need to get married. And we moved in together within two months of dating, didn't regret it for one day.

That's about the story of my eldest kids an eventually they both decided to marry anyway. Oh and in case you change your mind, no need to hire a photographer. Just let me know.
 
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This is a horrible idea, especially considering she's already been divorced. Give it a year or so and you'll be incredibly relieved.
 
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Andre said:
That's about the story of my eldest kids an eventually they both decided to marry anyway. Oh and in case you change your mind, no need to hire a photographer. Just let me know.
Thanks Andre, I'll remind that! :biggrin: I just think that if we get married it will be in a far-away place, at least not in a traditional manner. But who knows..
 
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Monique said:
... married it will be in a far-away place, at least not in a traditional manner. But who knows..

Good, :approve: I can recommend this place :smile:

Andre said:
Yes she is, there is more beautiful.

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Edit, https://dl.dropbox.com/u/22026080/IMG_9240-_filtered-ready.jpg [Broken] -full size- after post processing and cloning out some rubbish
 
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Andre said:
Good, :approve: I can recommend this place :smile:
This is a beautiful place!
 
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Why the big fuss about marriage? In my opinion a true lasting relationship shouldn't be any different before or after marriage, so why rush? What do you gain? Certainly not love. But you can end up losing so much...
And considering she will be gone for nearly a year...I think proposal will simply artificially bind you two together with no benefit.

However, if it really means that much to you, I suggest talking to her and telling her you were thinking of proposing and see what she thinks about marriage at this point in your relationship. It could be that she wants nothing to do with it right now and would much rather wait. And when I say talk about it, I mean TALK about it. Not for 3 minutes, but for like 3 hours. Go into details. Get to know each others feelings about everything. If you can't sustain a lengthy conversation about it, then it's likely you two aren't close enough emotionally yet to be engaged.

Of course, that's just my opinion. And I am single...so take it for what you will.
 
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Andre said:
Good, :approve: I can recommend this place :smile:
Beautiful picture and beautiful place! Maybe some day.. :smile:
 
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You wait at least year and quit acting like an idiot. Anyone who tells you otherwise is flat out dumb.
 
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Aero51 said:
You wait at least year and quit acting like an idiot. Anyone who tells you otherwise is flat out dumb.

Don't sugar-coat it, Aero - tell us how you really feel :wink: :tongue2:.
 
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Well it all started when I was a young boy...
 
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Aero51 said:
Well it all started when I was a young boy...

:rofl:
 
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my cousin got married to a woman after 3 weeks of meeting her. it was just the right time for them. they now have 2 kids.
 
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jduster said:
my cousin got married to a woman after 3 weeks of meeting her. it was just the right time for them. they now have 2 kids.

A friend of mine got married within 2 weeks of meeting her husband. They are now both in prison because of each other. The details are not appropriate for this forum.
 

1. How long should I wait before proposing to my girlfriend of 1.5 months?

This is a difficult question to answer definitively as every relationship is unique. However, it is generally recommended to wait at least 6 months to a year before proposing. This allows for enough time to get to know each other and ensure that the relationship is strong and stable before taking such a big step.

2. Is it too soon to propose after only 1.5 months of dating?

Again, this depends on the individual relationship. However, in most cases, 1.5 months is considered too soon to propose. It's important to make sure that you truly know and understand your partner before making such a serious commitment.

3. How can I be sure that my girlfriend is ready for marriage after only 1.5 months?

The best way to gauge your girlfriend's readiness for marriage is to have open and honest communication with her. Talk to her about your feelings and thoughts about marriage and see how she responds. It's important to ensure that you are both on the same page and have similar goals and expectations for the future.

4. What are some alternative ways to propose to my girlfriend of 1.5 months?

If you feel that it is too soon to propose after only 1.5 months, there are still plenty of romantic and meaningful ways to express your love and commitment to your girlfriend. Consider writing her a heartfelt letter, planning a special date or weekend trip, or giving her a thoughtful gift that represents your feelings for her.

5. How can I make my proposal special and memorable for my girlfriend of 1.5 months?

The key to making your proposal special and memorable is to personalize it and make it meaningful to your relationship. Think about what your girlfriend loves and incorporate that into your proposal. It could be her favorite place, activity, or even a special inside joke between the two of you. Also, don't forget to express your love and commitment to her in your own words.

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