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This might be common amongst natural scientists but I cannot refrain my haughtiness. I think this is my inherent personality. I know it is wrong and I better change my personality but how to?
Proton Soup said:i'm above that sort of thing, myself
zomgwtf said:No you're not. I on the other hand...
TylerH said:You mean "[...] I, on [...]"
l-1j-cho said:This might be common amongst natural scientists but I cannot refrain my haughtiness. I think this is my inherent personality. I know it is wrong and I better change my personality but how to?
l-1j-cho said:This might be common amongst natural scientists but I cannot refrain my haughtiness. I think this is my inherent personality. I know it is wrong and I better change my personality but how to?
Pengwuino said:Become a physicist. It humbles you fast.
lisab said:I'm atheist but the saying, "There, but for the grace of god, go I" is one worth taking to heart.
chiro said:Find people better than you, smarter than you, more humble than you.
If you do this, you will be humbled by them, and realize that you aren't as hot as what you seem.
Finally if someone smarter than you shows that are you are wrong on something, turn it into a positive thing: instead of envy, be ambitious to become better and rise to the highest level.
If you go through life never being challenged and never making mistakes, then you have really not lived at all.
l-1j-cho said:This might be common amongst natural scientists but I cannot refrain my haughtiness. I think this is my inherent personality. I know it is wrong and I better change my personality but how to?
Heck. Being a member here can do that.Dembadon said:Agreed!
... learning the subject definitely makes me feel like a big dummy quite often.
Proton Soup said:i'm above that sort of thing, myself
zomgwtf said:No you're not. I on the other hand...
TylerH said:You mean "[...] I, on [...]"
zomgwtf said:Don't correct me. :tongue:
You mean like this:people who demonstrate their intelligence with helpful solutions.
Chi Meson said:In seriousness, I found (thankfully not too late in life) that people dislike those who try to tell everyone how smart they are.
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If you simply can't help being "haughty," then at least be up front about it. If you catch yourself saying something that is condescending or rude or tactless, follow it up quickly with a good-humored line like "Or I might just be full of myself."
A little bit of self-effacing humor can take the edge off many unintended insults and save a lot of friendships. But then again, I tend to think I have all the answers.
l-1j-cho said:This might be common amongst natural scientists but I cannot refrain my haughtiness. I think this is my inherent personality. I know it is wrong and I better change my personality but how to?
TylerH said:Turning statements into questions can help make it seem like you aren't such an ***. I do it a lot. It also has a few good side effects, like making the person you're talking to think that you think they are intelligent(which they will enjoy, if they have respect/envy/etc. for you.) and it makes it seem like you are willing to defer, if need be(which can prevent harsh contradictions/disagreements).
Not to mention the people who always have to tell people how smart they are, usually aren't that smart. If you're smart, you don't have to tell anyone, they'll already know.In seriousness, I found (thankfully not too late in life) that people dislike those who try to tell everyone how smart they are.
I do that sometimes when I'm correcting someone. Or I'll start the statement with "Actually, I think". That serves two purposes; it softens to the blow to their ego and it saves me from embarrassment if I really am wrong.Turning statements into questions can help make it seem like you aren't such an ***.
leroyjenkens said:Not to mention the people who always have to tell people how smart they are, usually aren't that smart. If you're smart, you don't have to tell anyone, they'll already know.
I do that sometimes when I'm correcting someone. Or I'll start the statement with "Actually, I think". That serves two purposes; it softens to the blow to their ego and it saves me from embarrassment if I really am wrong.Some people seem to have absolutely no sense of self-doubt when they respond with "Nope, you're wrong. This is the right answer." They believe so strongly that they're right that they're willing to risk embarrassment upon being proven wrong.
Although, I guess those people aren't affected by being proven wrong when they've responded so assuredly, which is why they keep doing it.
And some people will respond to you like you've just said the most ridiculous thing ever. "What?! No..."
l-1j-cho said:This might be common amongst natural scientists but I cannot refrain my haughtiness. I think this is my inherent personality. I know it is wrong and I better change my personality but how to?
DanP said:One day, somebody will break your face for it. You'll learn how to restrain within the next 12h. You will suddenly discover flexibility.
Everybody does. There is hope for all of us. .
DanP said:One day, somebody will break your face for it. You'll learn how to restrain within the next 12h. You will suddenly discover flexibility.
Everybody does. There is hope for all of us. .
Drakkith said:Hrmm. What's it called when you get irritated at people who don't know what they are talking about for no good reason? And then argue with you when you try to explain it to them. Which then irritates you more.
l-1j-cho said:This might be common amongst natural scientists but I cannot refrain my haughtiness. I think this is my inherent personality. I know it is wrong and I better change my personality but how to?
Drakkith said:Hrmm. What's it called when you get irritated at people who don't know what they are talking about for no good reason? And then argue with you when you try to explain it to them. Which then irritates you more.
Chi Meson said:It's called politics.
l-1j-cho said:I don't tell people that I am smart, but I think my behaviour implies that I am smart. For instance, I never take notes in physics or mathematics class and I never do homework, but still I get satisfactory accomplishment (above 90%). Actually, if others ask me if I am smart, I usually smile or try to change the subject, or simply say 'thank you'. But I think, from my behaviour, I think I want to be recoginzed by others as a genius, where I hardly don;t think I am