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  1. I'd contact him/her once more!

    26.3%
  2. I'd wait till s/he contacts me.

    15.8%
  3. I'd delete his/her name form my list and try to foget him/her for good!

    10.5%
  4. I'd call him/her!

    15.8%
  5. That depends on the person!

    21.1%
  6. Other

    10.5%
  1. Jan 19, 2008 #1

    Lisa!

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    I guess you're familar with yahoo chat! So I feel free to ask this question: If you PM 1 of your close freind after a long time, but s/he wouldn't reply to your PM while you're sure s/he's been online. What would you think?
    Note that you hadn't any argument with that person the last time you talked to each other nad you've just been apart for some months.
     
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  3. Jan 19, 2008 #2
    I've had that happen with email conversations, not PM's---there could be a lot of reasons, but if it happens a few times, I tend to think that that person doesn't care.
     
  4. Jan 19, 2008 #3

    Evo

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    It could have been accidently deleted. They could be waiting until they feel they can give an adequate response before they respond. They could have gotten busy and forgot.

    I'd say wait a bit then send another message. If they still don't respond, then maybe something is up.

    I have very dear friends that I will intend to respond to and it may be weeks or even months before I reply. I still think of them every day, but I have become absolutely horrible at responding.
     
  5. Jan 19, 2008 #4

    Astronuc

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    I voted - "It depends on the person". If it's a close friend, then I'd contact with a brief followup to ask if things were OK.

    Usually if someone doesn't respond, I'm left wondering if I have said or done something to make the person upset.

    Sometimes, I've gotten overwhelmed with matters that I just don't get around to reponding to someone, even a friend. :frown:
     
  6. Jan 19, 2008 #5
    He/ she could have forgotten to log out, and probably was not present when you sent him/her the message assuming him/her to be online.
     
  7. Jan 19, 2008 #6
    Hey, I want to talk to Astronuc via live chat! :biggrin:
     
  8. Jan 19, 2008 #7
    Pick up the phone and call. If you can't do that because you don't have the number then perhaps wonder if it's worth to bother in the first place.

    If the answer is to that yes, 'sure I bother', then select an apropriate e-card that you think is the most appropriate (be audacious) with an opening notification and see if you get that notification.
     
  9. Jan 19, 2008 #8

    wolram

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    I would think that the the contact was no longer sexy, you seem to emit this ambiance may be talking to trees is your thing.
     
  10. Jan 19, 2008 #9

    Moonbear

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    I would just assume they were engaged in another conversation when you saw them online, and didn't want to interrupt that conversation to start another. It's sort of like ignoring call waiting when someone sends a message when you're already engaged in a conversation with someone else.
     
  11. Jan 19, 2008 #10
    this has got me thinking--not directly about the poll, but in general--

    I wonder if places like 'myspace' using the word 'friend' and 'friends' has desensitized the word. 'Friend' had a different meaning when I was growing up. ---and that phone calls to touch base with someone has set aside somewhat with all the texting, emails, etc.
     
  12. Jan 19, 2008 #11

    russ_watters

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    I wouldn't read too much into this. Besides what Moonbear said, it could also be that she actually wan't near her computer at the time. They tend to log you on automatically when you turn on the computer. Maybe she turned it on, then forgot to turn it off and went to class.

    So there is no need to do any calculation here - if you want to call her, call her. I know it's easy to try to read into any action/inaction from people who may or may not really be your friends (I'm apt to overanalyze things like that as well), but you have to resist it.
     
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  13. Jan 19, 2008 #12

    Astronuc

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    My daughter does that. When she used my PC (formerly the family PC), my daughter used to leave her apps (IE, IM/AIM, . . .) open when she left the PC. I had to log into her account and close out conversations that had not progressed from the previous day. Leaving IM's open consumes resources. Now that she has her own PC, she continues to do that, but that's her problem, not mine.
     
  14. Jan 19, 2008 #13
    I walked away from the PC being logged onto the PF for hours--and whole days sometimes
     
  15. Jan 19, 2008 #14
    I would ignore you for good Lisa!. I have already tried, buy you dont seem to go away. Dont you take a hint?
     
  16. Jan 19, 2008 #15

    Moonbear

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    I'm the total opposite. I set all those programs so they don't automatically log in (that drives me nuts that it's the default setting), and if I am on, I usually still set it to show me as offline...the people I want to converse with know when to "meet" me. I don't like random strangers butting in because they see I'm online.
     
  17. Jan 19, 2008 #16
    I would call them on the phone, and say "Whats Up?????, I tried to message you, but didnt get a reply".
     
  18. Jan 19, 2008 #17

    JasonRox

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    Good way of putting it.

    That's what I would think or something along those lines.
     
  19. Jan 19, 2008 #18

    Mk

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    I use instant messaging a lot. I regularly ignore people when I'm in an important conversation or when I'm not at the computer.
     
  20. Jan 20, 2008 #19

    Lisa!

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    Well, I should have explained a bit more since now it seems that I'm making a mountain out of a molehill! You know it's not the 1st time that such a thing happens to me. And you know I've never put much of thought on that in the similar cases because I simply take it as a technical problem. And if I needed to talk to that person for some reasons I'd call them later on, send them an email or sms without even asking why my PM wasn't responded by them.But this case is different! I think he might have not responded to my PM due to:

    1. a technical problem: I mean he might have not recieved my PM which is very improbable.

    2. making the decision to forget me forever: In this case he's deleted my name from his list and has ignored me. That means he doesn't want to see me online since it drives him crazy when he sees me online and I don't PM him as he mentioned subtly once:rolleyes:

    I guess I'd better not to call him because I'm afraid that the 2nd possibility might be right.:frown:
     
  21. Jan 20, 2008 #20
    I voted: It depends on the person

    If it is a person that I have not seen for a long time (like they moved or something), I would call them if I had their number, or I would spam them to make sure ot a response (they always know that I spam only in good will).

    If its a person that I talk to all the time, I'll just call them.

    If its someone that I recently met, I will do nothing.

    If its someone that I met a long time ago, but only know well enough to remember their name, I will spam them.
     
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