I can get her to be alone with me

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ok so I can get her to be alone with me sometimes. what should I be doing next to "seal the deal". hand touching->body embracing->hugging etc? basically what should i do to smoothly transition into physical contact?

when we are watching movies in a theater i just can't extend my arms and grab her, but i wanna do that, how do i perform it so it seems natural?
 
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1) Physicists = not the best population to ask this kind of stuff
2) Too much thinking, just chill brah.
3) Don't try to be 'sly' or 'cunning' or something, just look over, smile, hold her hand or something, no biggie.
 

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You make it sound like you're playing a game rather than dating a real, living girl with thoughts and feelings. :tongue:

If she's interested in physical contact, then she'll be pleased with anything you do, as long as you don't go to far or are pushy about it.

If it's not natural, then it's not natural, and will just become even less natural if you try to artificially make it more natural.
 
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when we are watching movies in a theater i just can't extend my arms and grab her, but i wanna do that, how do i perform it so it seems natural?
You use pectoralis major, latissimus dorsi, and teres major.
 
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From the sound of your post, and factoring in your other posts, you are probably in the friend-zone.
 
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It sounds like you should see a psychiatrist before we see you on the evening news.
 

FrancisZ

:uhh: UHHH...You seem to be "PLOTTING" to try to take advantage of somebody. And, on top of that: are somehow looking for tips on the internet!? :yuck:

Do you really think that's something that would encourage this person to want ANY sort of relationship? That's a lot like being Greg Brady on crack.

And would you honestly say that's a high quality sort of person to aspire to be? Try not to listen to stupid people around you that talk about "sealing deals" ever. They're mostly full of crap themselves; and those that aren't really shouldn't be bragging (#1 because it isn't respectful to the other person; and #2 because it isn't respectful to themselves).

I'm not a Kantian scholar, but I'm sure that the whole notion of this violates the categorical imperative.

NEVER USE SOMEONE.
 
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:uhh: UHHH...You seem to be "PLOTTING" to try to take advantage of somebody. And, on top of that: are somehow looking for tips on the internet!? :yuck:
He is just trying to get laid :P It's not like he is using anyone. Besides, you ought to try to sleep with any women you like. They'll just believe your a wimp otherwise.

Do you really think that's something that would encourage this person to want ANY sort of relationship?
Who cares ? If you want sex, you ought to try. Philosophy wont get you laid
 
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He is just trying to get laid :P It's not like he is using anyone. Besides, you ought to try to sleep with any women you like. They'll just believe your a wimp otherwise.



Who cares ? If you want sex, you ought to try. Philosophy wont get you laid
What, just rack um', stack um' and pack um' right? That's not what I'm tellin' my son, rather I'd say: "Do not get that girl pregnant boy, you hear me! I mean it's a frickin' waist of time tryin' to tell you to not have sex cus' you won't listen so the next best thing is to wear protection and even that breaks, and then there's the pill thing which has all kinds of side-effects for the girl, and don't ever rely on colitis interruptus cus' that's just don't work. Why? Cus' it feels too good and you won't want to, or just as bad delay it til' it's too late and end up ejuculating inside her. The pregnancy thing is a big problem so don't be tryin' to screw everything in sight cus' it will only increase your chances of havin' a baby."

Yep, he's walking' off completely embarrassed at this point.
 
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Like, he will listen to you :P
yeah Dan, you raise an interesting point. I have a daughter too. I'd say, "look sweetie, . . . he's thinkin' with his penis ok? It's a sad fact but it's true. That's why a girl needs to learn to take control of the situation and think for him. If you're gonna' do it then make him wear protection and if he pulls that, "oh I'll just pull it out" crap, then that's a deal-breaker. Tell him, no you won't! That's doesn't work! I might as well already be pregnant! I mean who's gonna' buy diapers, and formula, and just how long can you stand to be in a room with a crying baby anyway! Look, just take me home and even if we pass a guys givin' away rubbers, I don't want to do it now!"
 
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yeah Dan, you raise an interesting point. I have a daughter too. I'd say, "look sweetie, . . . he's thinkin' with his penis ok? It's a sad fact but it's true. That's why a girl needs to learn to take control of the situation and think for him. If you're gonna' do it then make him wear protection and if he pulls that, "oh I'll just pull it out" crap, then that's a deal-breaker. Tell him, no you won't! That's doesn't work! I might as well already be pregnant! I mean who's gonna' buy diapers, and formula, and just how long can you stand to be in a room with a crying baby anyway! Look, just take me home and even if we pass a guys givin' away rubbers, I don't want to do it now!"
Im not (never was) as scared of pregnancies that I am of STDs. Anyway a good education will minimize the risk of both.
 

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Im not (never was) as scared of pregnancies that I am of STDs.
Really?? The side effects of pregnancy can last between 18 and 80 years, cost a LOT of money and have just a deleterious effect on your health as an STD...
 

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Im not (never was) as scared of pregnancies that I am of STDs. Anyway a good education will minimize the risk of both.
Me too! I'm surprised that whenever people mention sex, they worry about a child, when I'm sitting there worrying about an infection. The thought of AIDS just chills me to the bone...

There are many ways to avoid having a baby other than using a condom, but there aren't for STI's. If all else fails, abortion anyone?
 
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Really?? The side effects of pregnancy can last between 18 and 80 years, cost a LOT of money and have just a deleterious effect on your health as an STD...
So what ?
 

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SELFMADE, is this the same girl that had no interest in you as in that last thread? The one that you obsessed over and made really freaking weird, restraining order worthy kind of moves on?

Of course you can get her to be alone with you, but just as friends. Make a move and don't be surprised if you end up watching the rest of the movie in awkward silence.
 
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SELFMADE, is this the same girl that had no interest in you as in that last thread? The one that you obsessed over and made really freaking weird, restraining order worthy kind of moves on?

Of course you can get her to be alone with you, but just as friends. Make a move and don't be surprised if you end up watching the rest of the movie in awkward silence.
Is solicitation worthy of a restraining order ? Its just a business proposal:devil:
 

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Corrected.
Make a move and don't be surprised if you end up watching the rest of the movie wearing an upturned box of popcorn as a hat.
 
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:blinks audibly:

So ... why are you so much more concerned about STDs?
Short version: Because I value my skin and my health over everything else in this world :P

Do you want the long version ?
 

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Short version: Because I value my skin and my health over everything else in this world :P

Do you want the long version ?
As I pointed out, pregnancy can have just as deleterious an effect on your skin and health as an STD.
 
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As I pointed out, pregnancy can have just as deleterious an effect on your skin and health as an STD.
You are utterly wrong. You equate money spent for 72 years of child care with health. :P
 
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ok so I can get her to be alone with me sometimes.
Getting her alone with you is not a necessary condition for making a "move".
 

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You are utterly wrong. You equate money spent for 72 years of child care with health. :P
Money is only a single element of the consequences of pregnancy (analagously, think of the money you might spend on treatment for an STD). Childcare is going to have a huge impact on the rest of your life, and yes your health.

Yes, I acknowledge that we're talking apples and oranges here, but in the larger picture of what one might want to be cognizant of for the sake of one's own quality of life, and what one might be "afraid" of, you seem to be disregarding the very real consequences on your life of getting pregnant.

Anyway, to each his own. It was not my intention to back you into a corner or make you eat your own words, I just thought it curious that you would seem to regard an infection as so much scarier than the potential dramatic redirection of the rest of your life.
 

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