I guess I'm moving

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I guess I'm moving :(

I don't want to, I love my place. It's my dream place. But my older daughter, the Spawn of Evo, has just moved in with her dad to save money, and now my youngest, Evo Child wants to move in with me to save money and cut down an almost 100 mile daily commute.

The problem is that I have a 1 bedroom apartment now and we'll need two bedrooms if she moves in.

We've been looking at the 2 bedroom apts here in my complex, and they are gorgeous, but there are pros and cons to each, the worst for me is that I will leave my ravine with the babbling brook and the beautiful stone arch over my patio and my squirrels and bunnies.

More to follow on the pros and cons of the two units we're considering.

One has no kitchen space, but a gorgeous garden bath that is to die for and a huge living room. It has no garages though, and no nearby parking.

The other has an attached two car garage, a large kitchen, and a lot of windows. Unfortunately it has a very steep staircase that ends in a tiled floor and a large window in front. This means I will tumble down the stairs, bounce off the tile and fly through the glass window. Evo Child is terrified. She estimates I will kill myself in less than a week.
 

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I for one am glad to hear you will be moving further from the ditch of doom! And, with what you've been talking about at your own workplace perhaps putting your job on the line in the near future, it sounds like a wise move to cut expenses just in case the worst happens.
 
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I don't know why you should move if the need for two bedroom is only temporary which I assume it is.
 
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I'm so sorry to hear this :cry:.

Why don't we all pool our resources, buy a bar/scuba shop in the Caribbean, and go live happily ever after?
 
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I for one am glad to hear you will be moving further from the ditch of doom! And, with what you've been talking about at your own workplace perhaps putting your job on the line in the near future, it sounds like a wise move to cut expenses just in case the worst happens.
Actually, my expenses will increase several hundred dollars to pay for the 2 bedroom. The Evo child wants to cut costs by moving in with me, I will be taking on the added rent so that she can cut back on work and concentrate more on school. But then she says when she graduates she will take care of me. :uhh:
 
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OK, if you're willing to toughen up and learn to tolerate (not love!) Maine winters, there is a 2-br house located above a double-car garage very nearby. It is $123K and is quite fancy inside. You might have to suck up to somebody at TDS in order to get employment, but that's not all that hard.
 
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This is the main thing, Evo Child wants the one with this bathtub. That bathroom is 11 x 12 feet and has a separate shower and double sink. That's a jacuzzi.
 

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This is the main thing, Evo Child wants the one with this bathtub.
A deep recession is the perfect opportunity to learn the difference between a want and a need :smile:.
 
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A deep recession is the perfect opportunity to learn the difference between a want and a need :smile:.
Yes, and she realizes that we aren't geting the deluxe 3 bedroom.

I want my ravine. :(( She says that she won't let up on the apartment manager until I get a 2 bedroom back on my ravine, they are just occupied right now.
 
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Actually, my expenses will increase several hundred dollars to pay for the 2 bedroom. The Evo child wants to cut costs by moving in with me, I will be taking on the added rent so that she can cut back on work and concentrate more on school. But then she says when she graduates she will take care of me. :uhh:
I didn't realize this was "make mom pay for my rent" type of cutting expenses. I thought it was "cut down on cost of commuting and share rent with mom instead of paying for my own place" type of cutting expenses. If she thinks you're paying all the rent, ask her what color blanket she'd like for the couch. :rolleyes:
 
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I didn't realize this was "make mom pay for my rent" type of cutting expenses. I thought it was "cut down on cost of commuting and share rent with mom instead of paying for my own place" type of cutting expenses. If she thinks you're paying all the rent, ask her what color blanket she'd like for the couch. :rolleyes:
LOL. Actually I did. I told her she could move into my place for free.

She's offered to pay up to $200 a month. And take care of me. And all of my errands, do the shopping and the house cleaning, laundry, do my car maintenance, do the dog, etc...

So basically, I have nothing to do once I come home from work. She'll be my personal slave. Not too bad.
 
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Hope you find a nicer place!:smile:

PS: How about asking her to move in with her bf?:biggrin:
 
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I think this recession has created a issue of oneness and many people will know what is true love and affection. i am happy for you that your daughter will be joining you and can have a happy joint family.
 
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She'll be my personal slave. Not too bad.
Not too realistic. You are too soft.
 
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Hope you find a nicer place!:smile:

PS: How about asking her to move in with her bf?:biggrin:
Poor Evo child bf has been strong armed into moving in with Evo.
 
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Am I the only one to read between lines "to cut on costs we will make Evo pay for everything, even if she may lose her job any time"?
 
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Your daughter could always move in with me, Evo. :!!)
 
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Am I the only one to read between lines "to cut on costs we will make Evo pay for everything, even if she may lose her job any time"?
That is a scary thing. If I were working for Evo's employer, I'd be looking for any way to create a soft(er) landing in case the ax falls, and not be taking on a more expensive lease. Maybe spring for a futon for the living room and double up in the current place.

My sister-in-law had worked at the local telecom for decades, and when she was about to turn 55, she was "offered" early retirement instead of termination. The greatly-reduced benefits looked better than 26 weeks of unemployment checks with no real prospect for a new job, so she took it.
 
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Am I the only one to read between lines "to cut on costs we will make Evo pay for everything, even if she may lose her job any time"?
Nope, that's how I'm reading it too. And I agree that past history suggests those promises of indentured servitude will only last until she's moved in, and then will vanish. Perhaps it's about time for her to learn that all those other indulgences are expenses that can be cut before you expect mom to pay the rent for you. Vacations...no. Nights out for dinner and drinking...no. New clothes...no. Buying lunch rather than making it...no.

No offense Evo, but your daughters have been over-indulged and have not learned to be frugal when times require it. They should be looking for ways to help cut YOUR expenses now too, especially now that they are both adults and should be independent and you're the one facing losing your job.
 
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Vacations...no. Nights out for dinner and drinking...no. New clothes...no. Buying lunch rather than making it...no.

No:cry:
 
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Unfortunately it has a very steep staircase that ends in a tiled floor and a large window in front. This means I will tumble down the stairs, bounce off the tile and fly through the glass window. Evo Child is terrified. She estimates I will kill myself in less than a week.
Strategically placed cushions?
 
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This means I will tumble down the stairs, bounce off the tile and fly through the glass window. Evo Child is terrified. She estimates I will kill myself in less than a week.
Yes, but the bright side of this is that then she'll only need a one-bedroom. And I know where there's a vacancy with a beautiful view of the ravine.
 
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Yes, but the bright side of this is that then she'll only need a one-bedroom. And I know where there's a vacancy with a beautiful view of the ravine.
:rofl: :uhh:
 
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Recalling an earlier thread, just make sure to check out the smoking neighbors in the new place. Fresh air!!
 
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Recalling an earlier thread, just make sure to check out the smoking neighbors in the new place. Fresh air!!
I think I've decided on the upstairs apartment because it has a practical kitchen. I've been by there a number of times and haven't seen crowds of people hanging around outside smoking like at my current place.

Although they all smoke, except for the guy to the north of me, we are really good friends, and I'm going to miss them. We are all squirrel and bunny lovers and we keep the critters pretty well fed. I'm going to really miss our "nature chats". The smokers are always thanking me for setting the food up on the squirrels "dinner tables". As soon as I start setting the feed out, their entire family comes out on the balcony to watch the action.

Although the new place is on the other side of the ravine, I won't have ground level access to set out food. Evo Child says I can toss food to them, but I was thinking that with all of the brilliant engineers here, that someone could devise a squirrel elevator to bring them up to my balcony to eat. I'm certain they could be trained to use it. :biggrin:
 

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